Skip to comments.Terri Schiavo 2 in NJ with my husband
Posted on 06/25/2006 3:33:39 PM PDT by Simplemines
Many of you replied when I originally posted my husband's horrible hospital odyssey of several months ago.
Things were going okay in the Catholic hospital, until my husband knocked out his trach in his sleep. The alarm didn't go off. My husband can breathe on his own, and the ventilator was giving him some small support.
His heart stopped. They resuscitated him, and he's been in a twilight since. The dr. he has has given up on him - this has only been a week. My husband IS starting to respond and focus, but the dr. doesn't care.
He's pressuring me to sign a DNR, and he suddenly wants to move my husband OUT of intensive care into a regular room! I was so shocked I didn't say a thing...why does my husband now need less care than before...unless of course the dr. wants him to die.
My husband is physically VERY stable. All his signs are perfect. From what I'm reading, it can take anywhere from one to three months for someone to come out of this kind of state.
This dr. doesn't even want to give him the chance.
Granted, my husband isn't as cute as Terri Schiavo, but you guys can see where this is headed. I want to give him a CHANCE to recover. I don't care if he's impaired. I'll take care of him if they just stop trying to push me to let him die.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
First, you have our prayers.
Second, contact the Right to Life chapter in your state and ask them if they can connect you with a doctor that can take over your husband's case. Also, ask them to direct you to legal help.
God be with you and we hope your husband recovers quickly.
Fire the doctor ASAP.
Contact the Bishop's office and explain the problem.
It's the only language they can understand.
Get another doctor ASAP.
My prayers are with you. Where are the activists like Mike Farrell when good, decent folks like your husband need them? Why do they only try to save scumbags like Tookie and Mumia?
Tell the doctor you are going to remove HIS life support if he doesn't take better care of your husband.
Pretend you WANT to let him die, and that the doctors won't let you. Then contact the ACLU,
When they plaster you all over the news say they misunderstood
I am trying the same thing with them right now. When I reported extreme discrimination against fathers in NY State couts they replied that they were too busy. So I sent the exact same letter except stating on top I thought I was discrimintated for my sexual orientation. (hey -straight is a sexual orientation, right?)
The replied immediately and I am stringing them along right now. When I have enough I am going to Hannity and Rush and everyone with it.
I will pray for you and your husbadn Simplemines.
A link of interest:
She wasn't that cute and was a total vegetable.
Prayers for your husband to recover.
You are very cruel. This lady is in pain and if you had nothing supportive to say why not just skip this thread. Sarcasm is so out of place here.
mike farrell, tookie and mumia are beside the point. Marxists do what they do.
Prayers up for your husband and you Simplemines...
trussell, can we get some help here?.....(I knew we could....Rick/)
Is he on any life support right now?
You aren't cute either and you are also a total vegetable, from the neck up.
Whatever you say.
Are you in North or South Jersey?
I can't believe the kid I just saw in a photo a couple of minutes ago said that. Reminds me of an old saying "you can't judge a book by it's cover".
Please post your replies to Simplemines
Simplemines, My prayers going up for your husband and you. God's protection for your husband...God's comfort and strength for you.
If you want on/off my prayer ping list, please let me know. All requests happily honored.
If somebody or some device has to be employed full
time to keep me alive, then clearly it be time to go.
That's so terrible of a view?
Which Catholic hospital is doing this?
Since you're in NJ, I'll make sure this thread has been pinged over at the NJ FR forum. A lot of Catholics there, too.
I hope your husband recovers. God be with both of you.
Send me a private freepmail with all the info.
Get the patient representative, Administrator on call, call for the head of the ethics dept. in the hospital (believe me, they have one), let me know where you are in NJ and other info and I will forward to Sekulow at ACLJ, Thomas More and Ave Maria law schools. Let me know.
Both you and your husband are in my prayers this evening.
Tell the above folks with the doctor, you want (on their hospital letterhead with the doctors stamp and all their signatures), a whole breakdown of what happened, what course they want to take and why, that you wouldn't sign the DNR and that you refused their suggestion. Lawyer is much better... Do some serious internet reading on the condition and ask everyone you know if they know doctors in these fields who can come visit and sneak a gander at the chart. Go get a copy of the records (they'll say we don't give them until a patient's released, they only have the floor records), tell them you have to call your lawyer.
You would know.
I sent coleus a phone number for you.
Ask for a second opinion and explain your thoughts and concerns to another doctor.
Prayers and all good wishes from afar.
I fail to see how cuteness plays a part in anything.
My prayers for your husband, and also for strength for you! This is a great forum, I see many jumping in to help, and God Bless each and every one of them. I will also pray their help will be just what you need!
The lady is scared she's going to lose her husband to apathy and neglect by the doctors, you make exremely insensitive remarks about a situation you know nothing about, bore us with what you would want done in a childish attempt to make this thread about you, and now you're camping out with cheeky one liners?
When did you start targeting terrified women there, "gunner"?
Prayers for your husband from me, too.
Looks like lots of options going here. Even if this ?doctor? (some doctor) decides to back down --- still look for another. He obviously doesn't have your husbands welfare in mind and his attitude toward you is enough for dismissal. Good luck.
Dittos to that, Duke.
Speak up to the Doctor. You might want to WRITE your wishes in a statement and give it to the doctor and the head nurse on his floor.
I'd say that the most important thing is to have a doctor you can trust on top of the case. Otherwise there are too many things this guy might do when you are not present.
It might be awkward to change doctors in mid stream, because doctors tend to be clubby and don't like to poach on each other's territory. But perhaps you can get some advice on what would be the best way to have another doctor take over your husband's case. If necessary, you might contact the pro-life organizations, find out where the presiding bishop stands on this sort of issue, and consider going to the bishop and asking him to intervene in the case.
As we regretably saw in Terry Schiavo's case, some bishops simply refuse to do their jobs. They are, frankly, heretics. But there are a few solid bishops out there, and possibly the hospital may be in the diocese of a faithful bishop. If that is the case, the hospital authorities and affiliated their doctors might prefer to agree to a change of doctors rather than have you make a formal appeal to the bishop.
I join in urgent prayer for your husband and you!
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