Posted on 02/01/2010 9:44:47 PM PST by Jake from AZ
…or maybe just a b___h.
How to leave a soldier
The war on terror may be impossible to resolve. Ending my marriage was easy
I probably shouldn’t have read this story, being where I am and knowing some of things that I do. I have absolutely zero sympathy for this woman.
You’d be surprised how easy it is to leave a soldier on deployment. You can do it with a letter. (He can’t argue with you. He doesn’t have a phone.) If you lay the groundwork early, saying to the soldier before he leaves, “This will be the end of us, we might as well admit it,” it’s that much easier. The letter won’t even come as a shock.
And if you have children with that soldier? You can handle all that with a letter, too. He’ll write it — because he cares about the kids, because he wants to work with you to do what’s best for them even though you’re leaving him — and you’ll give it to them. Here again, you will avoid a nasty confrontation. Who will they cry to? You? You’re just the teary-eyed bearer of the letter. Him? The one who’s sweating it out in the desert?
There will be no moving truck, no boxes, no house torn asunder. The soldier is peeing in a bucket as you pack. He doesn’t care who gets the couch.
…and she’s making money off of this.
Being a Soldier’s wife is no picnic, but I really, really, really don’t want to hear or read her “woe is me” crap. I think it’s quite revealing that she went on to marry a self proclaimed “marxist” and she couldn’t bring herself to be there when her son entered the Naval Academy. YIKES.
H/T Bring the Heat, Bring the Stupid!
Hm.....wonder what this woman is going to say when her son calls her crying because the little Marxist woman he married (and has her grandchildren with) has left him because she opposes the war.....
I have never read such a load of garbage in my life - and everyday I read essays written by 14 year olds.
Yes, it's hard being the wife (or for that matter the husband) of a serviceperson on deployment. But thousands, tens of thousands of people have done it. Those who serve do their duty when it's hard. So do their families. It is a duty, it does involve sacrifice, and I can understand that some people find they can no longer handle that, and I don't condemn them for it.
But to end a marriage, any sort of relationship, in the way described here - taking advantage of the fact that the other party isn't in a position to respond, can't come home, can't try and work it out, can't even discuss it properly is just plain wrong. The only time it could be justified is somebody taking the opportunity to flee an abusive relationship, but that isn't what is being talked about here.
My wife stood with me over two decades in the Navy, including deployments, including one war deployment. Was it easy for her? No. But she knew it wouldn't be and she chose to serve her country alongside me - "They also serve who only sit and wait" really does mean something. I just can't find words to describe what I think of the awful person who wrote this article.
I can understand Ms Cox feeling the marriage was over. I can understand her leaving her husband. But she didn't have to do it when he wasn't there. Have the guts, the intestinal fortitude to stand up and say, "I'm sorry, but it's over" if that is what you have to do, but there's a difference between walking away, and slinking off in secret.
The soldier is well shut of her, and the children will eventually realize who acts from selfishness, and who acts from selfless service.
Good thing she is a Marxist, as she won’t have the kids visiting for Christmas.
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