Urgent prayer request (Sad Update @ 257)

05/30/12 | self

[Pining_4_TX]

Fellow Freepers, please pray for a young mother named Debra. Three days ago she suffered placental abruption in her 32nd week of pregnancy. The baby, a little girl, was delivered by c-section and is doing well, but mom is critically ill due to blood loss and organ failure.

Much of this occurred due to some terrible mistakes made in the small town hospital where she delivered her baby, but she has since been flown to an excellent hospital in a nearby city.

She has had her blood replaced 3 times over, has had multiple surgeries, lost 90% of her intestines, is on dialysis, and is facing more surgery in the next few days.

She and her husband have another little girl (4) in addition to the new baby. The grandparents are friends of ours and go to our church.

Please pray! It is a matter of life and death.

Thank you.

[mlizzy]

I'm so sorry. Because Debra suffered for so very long, and passed on to God on the eve of All Saints Day, well, maybe that is telling you something. RIP sweet Debra; a rosary for the family. ♥

[lightman]

O God of spirits and of all flesh,
You have trampled down death
and have abolished
the power of the devil,
giving life to Your world.
Give rest to the soul
of Your departed handmaiden Debra
in a place of light,
in a place of repose,
in a place of refreshment,
where there is no pain,
sorrow, and suffering.
As a good and loving God,
forgive every sin she has committed
in thought, word or deed,
for there is no one who lives
and is sinless.
You alone are without sin.
Your righteousness
is an everlasting righteousness,
and Your word is truth.
For You are the resurrection,
the life
and the repose of Your departed handmaiden Debra
Christ our God,
and to You we give glory,
with Your eternal Father
and Your all holy,
good and life-giving Spirit,
now and forever and to the ages of ages.
AMEN.

[Veto!]

So sorry to learn that Debra has passed. She certainly had a long fight for her life, and I’m sure she and her family and caregivers did all they possibly could do. Prayers for all concerned, especially her two precious children and her husband. May they live in peace, knowing how very much Debra loved them — and always will.

[amom]

Sad sad post Pining...

There are no words...

Prayer up for the entire family and all their friends.

Goodness.

[amom]

Thanks so much for the ping here Kathy.

[Fawnn]

So sad.

May Debra rest in God’s peace.

Prayers for and condolences to her family and friends.

[Kathy in Alaska]

Prayers still needed....she fought the good fight.

[amom]

True on both counts.

[johngrace]

Praying.

[Eagles6]

Prayers for Debra and her loved ones.

[Berlin_Freeper]

So very sorry for Debra’s long illness.
My prayers for her husband and children.

[beachn4fun]

How sad.

Prayers of comfort going forth.

[Pajamajan]

I am at loss as to what words I can put here that would have any meaning to what appears to be a horrendous injustice- a young mother taken away from her her family after so much suffering.

I would like to try and share a personal story, if I might?

I witnessed my own-"horrendous injustice" many years ago with one of my family members,who I was helping with the care of- my uncle, who was very sick.

This man was, quite simply, my favorite person in my family. He was the one person who accepted me for exactly who I was. He was the only family member who encouraged me to be true to myself, and do what I wanted to do with my life, no matter what anyone else thought.

A little about him: He was young, (39), when his illness struck him again. He had two children-both teenagers.

For a long time, he had had a brain tumor, that we thought was in remission. But it came back that last year, and nothing could be done to treat it. It was located in a part of his brain where they couldn't take anymore of it with surgery because he would lose most of his abilities if they did. No other treatments were working.

The tumor grew, and as it grew it caused seizures that became more and more violent.

Each time he would have seizures, he would lose some ability, until he got to the point where he could only blink his eyes for "yes" and "no". And at the end, he lost that too.

(I know it must have given him so much grief to have to have us take care of him. He was a Marine. He was always the one who took care of everyone else.)

When his last days approached, the seizures were really bad, the medication wasn't working too well. But by this time, most of my family had arrived at the house, and we were all taking turns looking after him, so I had time to rest more.

One day, I remember I was in their back guest room, and I wanted to pray because I knew that's what I should do. But I was so ANGRY I couldn't complete even one prayer .

I would start to say one ( prayer), but in the middle of it I would be thinking: "How CAN YOU, who are supposed to be loving, let him- who never hurt anyone in his life, suffer like this?! Then I would try to stop myself and start again. I continued trying to pray. But again the rage would come up- the anger, and trying not to be angry, would keep rising and falling in me.

I say I was praying, but a more accurate description would have been "yelling". I was yelling at God .

But as I kept pray/yelling, with my eyes closed, an image started coming into my mind's eye: It was of Jesus at the tomb of Lazarus. And then the words came to me: "He wept." I kept "seeing" Jesus at the tomb of Lazaurus weeping. Then a question came to me: Why did He weep?

I thought: "Why did he weep?" If He knew he was going to raise Lazarus from the dead- Why weep? This question kept coming to me, over and over.

Then, gently the answer came to me almost as a whisper: "As I stood at the tomb of Lazarus and wept- I weep with you now. I am right here." Death was not meant for man. Defeating death was the reason He hung on the cross.

I was so struck by this thought, that I stopped yelling at Him- Instead- I cried to Him, really cried, let out all the anger and sorrow, all the feelings of hopelessness, until I was completely drained. And then I fell into a very deep sleep, and didn't wake up til the next morning.

I went back home that day to pick up more clothes and catch up on the mail exc.. I stopped at a drug store to pick up some stuff.

As I was walking down one of the aisles, I got an image of my uncle in my mind: He was smiling and bathed in a soft golden light. A feeling of peace and calm washed over me. I sensed him saying "goodbye" to me.

I snapped out of it, and dismissed this as just my imagination. 5 minutes later, my phone rang. It was my mom calling to tell me he had passed away.

What I learned was this: In my opinion, when someone you love dies, part of you dies with them. You never get that part back. But our Loving Savior really is right here with us, at every step, through darkness and hurt, as well as our joys, even if we can't always sense it.

Some day, He will come back to our messed up world, and He will wipe away our every tear, and some day, no one will ever have to die. And somewhere in the universe young Debra is with Him, watching over her family, as she will for the rest of their lives, until they are all reunited in Heaven.

Please accept my deepest condolences for the loss of Debra. She and her family are in my thoughts and prayers.

(Please forgive me for the length of my post and the telling of my own story of loss. I posted it because I was hoping it might bring some comfort.)

God's Peace be with you, and Debra and her family.

[ex-snook]

Prayers for God’s blessings on the family.

[diamond6]

I am so sorry for your loss, what a terrible time that must have been. Thank you for sharing your story.

[diamond6]

I am so sort for your loss. Can we send the family some money to help with bills?

[Pining_4_TX]

Thank you and heartfelt thanks to all my fellow Freepers who have prayed for Debra and her family and shown such loving concern.

I will see if a fund has been established or what the situation is. Thank you.

[Pining_4_TX]

That was beautiful and it helps. Thank you for posting it here, because I needed something uplifting today. I was told about more pictures of Debra with her girls from their last time together, and started crying all over again.

It is hard not to ask “Why?” but we put our trust in God and His mercy. The Lord giveth, and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.

[Mad Dawg]

Praying for God’s strength and soothing love.

[Alamo-Girl]

I am so sorry to hear this sad news and join with all the others here lifting up her husband and children to God for His healing, blessing and guidance as they deal with her homegoing.