Thanks to everyone who is helping us!
Barb has agreed to re-set an appt. about all this.
It went much better than I thought and shorter than I thought! It was good to see my 1 niece come out and forcefully talk to my mother and her mother about how she feels about all this and how she wants Barb to do the best thing - it’s too late to play around.
Cheers for your niece! Sometimes the best input comes from the most unexpected sources. Will keep praying for all of you, for good choices and good outcomes, and the strength to get thru it all.