Your husband doesn’t have to earn your respect

The Matt Walsh Blog ^ | February 22, 2014 | Matt Walsh

[2ndDivisionVet]

It's like reading a coroner's inquest of my first marriage. I'll bet I'm not the only one here who sees it, either.

[rlmorel]

ping for later.

[old and tired]

This Valentine's Day, my wife made the observation that the cards for husbands were, on the whole, much nicer. She tells me that they're usually full of digs, supposedly funny and she'll have a difficult time finding one for me. But this year, they were all complimentary or at least mutual digs (e.g. "we may not look like we used to"). We were wondering if it's because the men who trouble themselves to marry these days are no longer marrying the harpies.

I have also noticed that the wives of high earning men NEVER belittle their husbands in front of them. I think that also is a circle. The more the wife respects the husband, the more the husband feels compelled to earn.

[The Working Man]

Oh yeah, I hear you. Mind you there was a lot more stuff. But this a key piece for me.

[Hardastarboard]

Read an article on the internet a while back that said a near 100 percent predictor of divorce is contempt. If the couple had contempt for each other, or one spouse for the other, they were almost certainly headed for divorce. Makes sense. Who would stay with someone they feel contempt for?

[Rodamala]

I have never married... and when presented with “my choice” of which antidepressant-doped, fat, ignorant, tattooed single mom with 4 kids by 3 ex-husbands I can provide for... it’s a bit of a turnoff to the whole concept of marriage.

[Guenevere]

Years ago, I took to heart what Dr. James Dobson said about husbands....
‘More than anything else, a husband wants respect’

Very simple concept, but like the author of this thread, I have seen women absolutely neuter their husbands publicly or privately
to other women.....

Sad

[Arm_Bears]

As she rang me up, the cashier quipped: “Uh-oh, what’d you do?”

I would have terminated the transaction at that point and walked out of the shop. Might have spoken to the manager first and asked whether stereotyping of customers was common in that establishment.

This cr@p will continue for as long as it is allowed.

[Pecos]

This “marriage” is obviously not a partnership, not a real marriage. The wife either hates her husband for some un-stated reason or, like my first mother-in-law, is on an extended power trip. If I were him, I would claim verbal abuse (with accompanying cell phone voice clips) and divorce her, taking the kids with me. The wife’s actions are also harming their children, who have become accidental victims of her comments.

[ShadowAce]

This cr@p will continue for as long as it is allowed.

Yup--and the author's admission of "chuckling" even though he wasn't amused didn't help, either.

I would not have chuckled, smiled, or shown any amusement for it at all.

[Alberta's Child]

Interesting perspective. There’s thing I’d point out about using TV ads to gauge cultural trends, though: Most TV ads are targeted at women, not men. For whatever reason, this even applies to TV ads for broadcasts aimed at a male-oriented audience. A perfect case in point was the Tide car in NASCAR. Tide sponsored a NASCAR team for years, and I’m certain there isn’t a single man anywhere whose family uses Tide just because his favorite driver was driving around the track in a bridge orange and yellow car with “TIDE” splashed across the hood.

[garybob]

It's like reading a coroner's inquest of my first marriage. I'll bet I'm not the only one here who sees it, either.

Ditto.

[GizzyGirl]

A long long (long!) time ago, when I was a young wife, I rolled my eyes at something my handsome hubby said. At some point later that night he said something to the effect of
that wasn't nice you know, to roll you eyes... and I knew instantly he was right, it wasn't nice! No argument, just respect, and I gladly never did it again! We were married nearly 30 years before I lost my beloved husband to illness, and what makes me happy as I read this death of marriage, is that our kids, and our grand kids are living in households that are also growing nicely with mutual respect as the center core of their success!

[ItsOurTimeNow]

bookmark

[Man from Oz]

Ditto Ditto...

[yldstrk]

what pray tell is “respect”

[RightFighter]

You are not alone, my friend. I read this and thought “He’s talking about my marriage!”

[LittleBillyInfidel]

I’ve found the secret to a happy marriage, as a husband, is to be (self) respect-ABLE, have a good sense of humor, stay sociable with others, and frequently ask myself “who am I being as a husband?” (and then adjust).

Then, her side career as a Professional Contrarian goes on hiatus.

[IronJack]

We forget that the only reason society gets away with disrespecting us is that we LET it. If companies that air such insulting ads lost all their male customers, how long do you think they’d keep airing those ads? If TV programs that insult men were loudly and consistently boycotted, how long do you think they’d remain on the air? Women alone aren’t a big enough demographic to support our entire economy. Why are we acquiescing to the destruction of our own power?

[ladyjane]

when presented with “my choice” of which antidepressant-doped, fat, ignorant, tattooed single mom with 4 kids by 3 ex-husbands I can provide for... it’s a bit of a turnoff to the whole concept of marriage.

You seem to be attracted to the wrong kind of women. If those are your choices, you're making bad choices. Stop using the welfare office for your mate hunting ground. Try going to church to meet someone there.