Posted on 07/10/2006 4:29:13 PM PDT by FreeLuna
No I have not. Why?
"Get a very good lawer."
Ditto that.
My daughter now is an Airman deploying to Iraq. It was a long row to hoe, but she loves me - and she still loves her biological father. Total honesty and an upfront declaration - that you WANT them to love their other parent, and you hope that they will always love you - makes the difference.
When some tried to poison her against me, I was able to go back and point to the fact that I had never tried to turn her against her father - and that I had always told her the only thing I ever fought for in this marriage was her. I never pushed for "my share" of anything BUT my daughter. I forsook all in court: my "half" of everything - and in exchange I only asked for my daughter. I did not even insist on the "fair" amount of child support, only that which my ex could pay. I never tried to keep her from seeing him, and I made sure that she was always available to him.
I paid for everything myself as much as possible. I worked not to "get back" at him, not to get my "fair share", but just to make sure my daughter knew that she is loved - because I already considered my daughter to be "fair share" enough.
Yes, there were attempts made to "poison" our relationship. They didn't work. I thank God, and I thank my daughter.
But even if she hadn't loved me, it still would have been worth it - because my daughter's worth is not based on her love for me. My daughter's worth is based on God's love for her...
Even if all goes wrong, our children are still our children - and they are gifts from God.
Because the main character in the game was named luna, and I wondered how you came up with your screen name. I wondered if there was a connection. But I guess not.
You're a good man and I am glad to know your daughter loves you. I thought you were looking at a custody battle.
*doh*
I got my wires crossed. Prayers for your daughters safety and return home.
Good for you for taking the high road.
If you get visitation they may not allow her to leave the state. But you HAVE to have a bulldog of a lawyer.
It's okay, I really appreciate the retroactive prayers! I was looking at a custody battle, and it was scary. Plus, I'm a gurl. Woman. Uh, lady.
At least that's what the doctor told me...
Does Ohio have a maritial misconduct law? If so, use it to keep your little girl.
I really feel for ya. Been there -no kids, though.
Quite possibly your state has a law prohibiting her from moving out of state with your daughter. You ought to call a lawyer and look into it. Good luck.
I would also suggest that, if possible, get yourself a female lawyer (providing she's a good one).
I agree with you. Fight for your daughter. Besides, I'm not too sure a couple of journalists really want to be tied down by a child when adventure and fame beckon. Maybe they won't fight all that hard.
Also consider that if you offer no fight for your daughter that it is possible that she might actually resent you for it later on in life. She might question your love for her.
Yep. Been there. A bunch of liberals on some Replacements mailing list conviced my Ex that I was a bigoted, ignorant Southern redneck and that she should get out of the South. Of corse, any conservative comment she made was accredited to me by the list and she was instructed that she and they were much more enlightened than me because they read more books. She joined their cult and moved to Baltimore, at someone else's expense, of course. Good riddance to bad rubbish, you will find yourself saying.
Powder..Patch..Ball FIRE!
GET A LAWYER QUICK! You can get a restraining order to prevent her from moving to another state with your child.
I concur with Badray. Why do you think your daughter is better off with your wife and the new guy in NY? For all you know, this new guy is a pedophile or molester - he's not related to your daughter. I don't want to cause you any grief but I've known quite a few divorced women who refuse to remarry until their daughters are grown up and for good reason.
Anyway, sorry about you emotional pain - a divorce is a difficult and painful experience - but your daughter might actually be better off with you - something to think and pray about.
And if your lawyer is good, they will tell you that right off the bat.
Excellent.
Find a good Father's Rights group in your area. Some are excellent. You will find support and help in how to either be your own attorney, and/or manage your attorney more effectively.
They can also help find non-biased (or maybe a tad less biased) 3rd party "Whores of the Court".
Try to take some initiative or you will have an uphill climb. She want's to be with her new b/f. That and the fact you just put her through school should get you some leverage to keep your daughter out of NY. Most states like to keep kids where they are because the change is detremental to the kids.
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