Similar story yesterday of 24 year old man losing his 82 year old wife. Two similar stories a trend makes! ;)
Posted on 10/22/2007 7:39:13 PM PDT by chasio649
Dating a younger man bears many advantages for women who are on their second or third time around.
Wendy, a Winnipeg woman who's notched up two divorces and is back on the dating scene at 44, said younger men are more honest about what they want in relationships.
"I find men my age are getting more stupid, less responsible and less honest about what they want. They like to play games," said Wendy, who didn't want her last name published.
The 44-year-old professional, attractive woman doesn't relish being labeled a cougar, but unabashedly admits her preference for men up to 10 years her junior.
"I'm very athletic and very active. The advantage with a younger man is his ability to keep up with me in sports and in the sexual side of it," said Wendy.
Dating after divorce at a time when she's had her children, built her career and acquired assets means being selective.
Wendy sees men as a bonus but has ruled out getting married, sharing a bank account or raising someone else's kids.
That's another reason she prefers younger men.
Uncomplicated
"It can be more simplistic. Well, unless they want to marry me and start a family," she said. "You almost need to go through an interview process before getting too involved."
Confidence is key when you're putting yourself out there as an older single woman, said Wendy.
"You've got to be more relaxed and not look needy. Too many women think they can't fend for themselves and need to be in a relationship. It's not attractive to men."
Spending time alone and figuring out your priorities is not a bad idea either, she added.
"If you've been in a relationship for 10 or 15 years, you don't have a clue what you want (as a single woman)," she said. "You may need to go out on a few dates and try before you buy."
Wendy is not alone in her endeavours to find romance the second time around.
According to Statistics Canada, about 2,500 Manitoba couples will divorce this year.
Mustering up the courage to hop back on the horse may take time and effort, but most say it's worth the effort.
"It's a scary thing being all of a sudden single again, but it does get really good," said Libbi Walter, a fashion consultant and personal shopper for Holt Renfrew who found herself suddenly single later in life.
Once she overcame the emotional hangover from her divorce, Walter began seeing the perks of dating again.
She also discovered there are limitations for older women.
"There are a lot more women of substance out there than there are men," said Walter, who has gone to great lengths to keep herself in peak form -- emotionally and physically -- and enjoys the company of someone equally vibrant. "I find men my age or older don't have the energy. I need vitality."
Dating younger men has also meant many of her ideal dream dates -- such as riding across the country on the back of a Harley-Davidson motorcycle -- are being fulfilled.
"A younger man finds an older woman very wise and worldly," said Walter.
"Especially if it's a woman who's taken good care of herself emotionally and physically."
When Walter goes out on a date with a younger man, she doesn't worry about what other people think.
"Just get to know each other and not be so concerned with labels. Enjoy the moment," she said.
Cindy McKee, a 42-year-old divorcee who is unabashedly proud to be a cougar, said it's empowering to date younger men.
"I think it's somewhat fantasy related for a younger guy to be with an older woman. And for women, it's simplicity. It's about having control over our lives," said McKee, who organizes promotions such as the "Yummies for Mummies" and "Boy Toy" events for the Palomino Club. "It's empowerment."
McKee said her divorce drained her emotionally and younger men were less stress.
"I didn't want to put myself back in a relationship. I just wanted it to be casual," said McKee.
TRANSLATION: A younger man will sleep with an older woman provided she is a) not psycho b) still in decent shape.
And I find women her age are fat, wrinkled, with stretch marks and varicose veins. Oh yummy.
When I was a boy, it was considered quaint when an unmarried couple in their 30’s were dating. Now it seems like the grannies are rutting. Gross.
Yup. That about says it.
TTIWWP!!!
being labeled a cougar
Cougar, is that what they call it now?!!
I thought it was *rapacious* heeheehee
younger men are easier to control, ain’t they?
Don't get me wrong, there are many very attractive women around in their 40's, divorced, and looking for fun.
But she's besieged with younger men who develop crushes on her! This seems to scare her. I'm not sure why. She says, what would she talk about with a younger man? What she means is, what's wrong with a guy who wants to sleep with older women? Does he have some kind of issue about his mother?
older woman?? Maybe she’s not just “an older woman” maybe they just like HER!
I’m not all that, but I think this way “why WOULDN’T they like me? Why not?!!”
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