Posted on 09/22/2009 4:47:52 AM PDT by strider44
FOXSexpert: The Real Reason Women Have Sex Monday, September 21, 2009
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Why Women Have Sex.
Given the stereotype that women are never in the mood, its not surprising that this book title is grabbing peoples attention. Written by researchers Cindy Meston and David Buss, the work flushes out the results of a survey of 1,006 women.
And their findings are all over the board; the authors highlight 200 reasons.
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So why do women have sex? The vast majority (84 percent) have sex to guarantee a quiet life or to persuade their men to do some housework. Some of the other reasons given in interviews include...
1. Shes alleviating boredom it gives her something to do.
2. She wants to relieve a stress headache or migraine.
3. Shes trying to put an end to an argument.
4. She wants a better complexion.
5. Shes thanking her date for a nice dinner, a present, or spending a lot of money on her early on in the relationship.
6. Shes after a spiritual experience since sex is seen as the closest thing to God.
7. Shes refining her sexual skills.
8. She feels sorry for the fellow.
9. She likes that he has an extravagant lifestyle.
10. Shes in a long-distance relationship and wants action now versus later.
Ironically, romance and passion ranked low on females reasons for having sex. Instead, sex was viewed as being all about fun, with 60 percent of survey respondents admitting to regularly sleeping with a male friend who was not their boyfriend.
Attraction, too, apparently ranks low on a ladys list. Whats interesting to note about this factor is that while most men find most women sexually attractive, researchers said that the gals dont see the guys in quite the same way.
Women reported being attracted to men who were described as tall, having a deep voice, and smelling good. A male having a symmetrical body was also liked, indicating that he could give her strong children. Still, those men not living up to such visions can take comfort in her preference of men with lower levels of testosterone, since this suggests that hes less likely to pursue others.
Its important to take these findings with a grain of salt. The way that theyve been presented largely reinforces the idea that women arent sexual by nature as much as capable of using sex as a bargaining tool. Writings cast women as using sex manipulatively or to put up with a partner and her relationship.
Then, muddling matters in terms of how to interpret results is the issue of women having sex versus wanting sex. These are two different factors in ones sexual activity that arent being dealt with independently. Which reasons are ones where women desired sex or skin-on-skin contact? Which reasons felt instinctual?
The University of Texas study has also been criticized for focusing solely on university students at the UT Austin campus who were mostly young and white. We have to remember that these are the results of one group of women theyre not representative of all women. Still, the books press release claims that the work is the richest and deepest psychological understanding of female sexuality.
Really?
Collectively, the reasons presented in this survey make all women look conniving, selfish, narcissistic, and shallow when it comes to sex. It paints us as using sex for bartering purposes or approaching it as a hobby or sport. And while that may be the case for these women to some degree, the original research and book actually misrepresent all women by claiming that these findings apply to all of us.
There are a lot more reasons why women are having sex and they arent being captured in this book.
If you ask me, and lot of other women of all ages and backgrounds out there, the reason women have sex, theyll tell you... Theyre having sex to express affection, to get in tune with their sexual core and feel sexy, to make love, to feel close to another, to maintain a long-term relationship by keeping the passion alive, to relish a shared, special moment... and because they like sex when it feels good.
Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."
oh that is so sweet!
I’m so sorry for your loss :(
“the women living in as you say a godless, hedonistic, leftist pit of waste are more than likely having more sex than your typical married woman.”
hmmm...the average college girl vs. the average married woman?
I’d put my bets on the married women.
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