What kind of woman blames the child for the actions of someone else? Is this “Tanya” any less human?
“Tanya” is just as much her mothers blood and chromosones than if she had another father.
Horrible!
The sad fact is: Rapists are a part of EVERY human’s genetic makeup, along with thieves and murderers.
It must be hard when it is your father, it brings to mind Bosnia and the wholesale rape that occured there to foster just this outcome.
Short answer to this letter ... get over yourself. You are who you CHOOSE TO BE. My parents beat the crap out of me but I CHOOSE not to beat my children. Do not let the world define who you are. Make your own choices and by doing so, define who you are and will be. Many children come from murders and they CHOOSE not to murder.
It is not who your parents were or what social environment you grew up in or if you were breast fed. You are an adult and you choose who you will be .... or you make excuses for your choices.
This hurt my two girls tremendously. To this day, the younger is constantly questioning her worth and being worthy of love even though her stepmother and I constantly reinforce her worth and love to her.
There mother later told her best friend that she intended to kill the children (seriously). Hence their mother is no longer my wife and I raised them; paying what their mother wanted all along - alimony.
Please, if you were told you were a result of rape or should have been aborted; Ask God for lovingkindnesses. He gives them new every morning. If the fact plagues of what was said to you, then get a wise counselor.
Do so, so you will pass on loving words on to the next generation rather than these.
Your worth is far above precious rubies and your faith is more precious than perishable gold.
There was no need for this woman to say this to her daughter. It was a selfish act.
Hubby and I got into a discussion regarding what should a woman do if pregnant due to rape.
I said keeping the child or putting it up for adoption would be the right thing to do. Since I already have children, I would prefer to just keep it, since my children wouldn’t know what to think if I just gave away a perfectly good baby. If I chose any other option, they would probably write me off as a mom, and I couldn’t really blame them if they did.
The child is blameless. I can’t see not loving the baby after you’ve given birth. Some men probably don’t get this-it’s a mom thing. I suppose if it was under those circumstances, it might be difficult, but if you have major problems, you could put the baby up for adoption.
I don’t see how a spouse could push abortion in that situation if they truly love their mate. Abortion is very damaging, psychologically and physically, and the baby is genetically half made up of the woman’s DNA, which reminds me of “For better or for worse”. The number one issue of course, is the fact that abortion is murder. How could a spouse push their mate to commit murder-a mortal sin? That is not a loving act.
If mom had to tell her something like that, it could have been done better, more in the context of the importance of choosing life no matter what.
Maybe that’s what she meant to do, but it all came out wrong?
That’s what I hope anyway.
My nine year old is a result of rape, and he gets and gives hugs constantly, from my wife and me. I wouldn’t trade him for all the world, and neither would any of his siblings. What a blessing and joy he is! The day will come when he will be told the truth about his beginning. It’s unavoidable, but there will never be a moment when he doesn’t know how much we love him.