Posted on 07/31/2010 9:13:39 PM PDT by chasio649
Las Vegas bookies give better odds on a nickel slot machine hitting the jackpot than a single white female meeting and marrying a single white male in the Middle Kingdom. -China Daily/ANN
Sat, Jul 31, 2010 China Daily/Asia News Network
Yellow Fever. [ yel'lo f'var]
1. A viral infection transmitted by mosquitoes in South America and sub-Saharan Africa
2. An intense attraction for Asians by Caucasians
It's the Mount Qomolangma of obstacles, the nightmare on bar street, the reason why single white females cry in their half-price drinks on Ladies Night as they're passed over for the long black hair and short skirts of their Chinese sisters. As the bar chanteuse croons, "I've got the fever" the male expatriates sing lustily in reply ".yellow fever!"
"I'm a reasonably attractive, intelligent woman who, like these guys thought out-of-the-box and came to China. And we share the same native language. Why those girls over me?" laments a single white female. Why indeed. China has long been known as a single (sometimes married) white man's playground while at the same time being a single white woman's wasteland.
Las Vegas bookies give better odds on a nickel slot machine hitting the jackpot than a single white female meeting and marrying a single white male in the Middle Kingdom.
What is it then that attracts expatriate men to Chinese women? Is it their petite size, willingness to submit to their needs, eagerness to help their men succeed? Duh, yes.
Rightly or wrongly, Chinese women fully expect their husbands to be the provider and will take a backseat in order for them to be successful. Of course, for the male expatriates, dreams of lives like a bed-of-roses are abruptly pierced with thorny predicaments when meeting future in-laws. But differences aside, many such couples press ahead with the multiple bridal ceremonies and receptions. Chicken breast is on the wedding menu for guests in his hometown, while the head and feet are served up to friends and family in hers.
>> Should more expatriate women seek our local Chinese men?
Now with the male-female ratio in China decidedly greater on the male side, why don't more expatriate women increase their dating pool and seek out local Chinese men?
Well even if the single white female is relatively conversant in Chinese, there's a physical obstacle. It's embarrassing when your boyfriend's jeans are smaller than your own. It may harken back to that "hunter-gatherer" thing, but generally, women want men who are tall enough to see over their foreheads (Tom Cruise excepted).
Chinese men, unlike Chinese women, are more risk-averse and less comfortable swimming in the uncharted seas of cross-cultural relationships. Chinese men are more tradition bound and especially in the age of the one-child family, bear a heavy filial duty to their parents. Sons are expected to take care of their parents, but in reality it's the wife's duty to serve the in-laws. And Po po and Gong gong are none too happy when laowai girlfriend plans to kidnap their son to Phuket for Spring Festival instead of staying at home and rolling jiaozi with them. Yes, parents can be a buzz kill.
And true or not (but mostly true), expatriate women carry the reputation for being very vocal about what they think and want. Few are the Chinese men who will put up with losing face over inadvertent statements made by their expatriate girlfriends. So unless the single white female is fluent in Chinese and understands the culture, a Chinese man will be reluctant to start something he knows will end badly.
With all these advantages to Chinese women, what's a single white female to do? There's fading hope in quasi-social networking cocktails or maybe another awkward evening matched up with the only other single at your friend's dinner party or worst yet, waking up in someone's hand-me-down IKEA bed in a fourth floor walk-up after a mind-numbing night of vodka shots at the local pub.
Yes girlfriend, if China will be your life, then go native; if not then, better luck back on your home turf. Match.com is waiting.
My wife’s family are pretty famous Buddhist statue carvers in Kyoto. After hearing of them and their reputation (they had three houses, one across the street from the old imperial palace), I was kind of scared to spend New Years getting to know them. We played Mah Jang and I played her brother in shogi and so on, and it was a great time.
I eventually asked the father “Did you hesitate in allowing your daughter to marry me?” He responded, “No! We don’t care who she marries as long as he’s not an idiot.” This seemed like a rather strange compliment, but it was still a compliment.
Exactly. I am happily married (to a tall, blue-eyed Teutonic goddess, LOL) and have been for eighteen years, thanks be to God, but if were ever to become single again, God forbid, there is no way on Earth I’d date American white girls. Not a chance. Most American women are trained from birth to be screeching harpies. (To be fair, most American men are giant 10-year-old boys.) For me, it would be Japanese girls or nothing. They are still women over there, not Men With Breasts.
“Men With Breasts”
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They wear manziers or Bros?
Your concept of androgyny is obviously different from mine.
“That’s what I think it’s all about, and I’ll go so far as to say it’s the women who have changed, not men.”
I won’t say you are exactly right V - but you are pretty darned close.
You want to know why men like asian women? Just watch the beginning of Tamori Club (Nsfw):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGT0wlQPxLg
You can see it in old sci-fi movies from the 40s and 50s, the women are scientists, but still totally female.
Point taken.
I’m an average white dude, born in Wisconsin.
I’ve dated English, Indian, Columbian, Polish, and Philippine. Wonderful women, all of them. But I ended up marrying an average white gal from Wisconsin.
>>> This article is a direct rip-of from one years ago.
The issue is a lot older then that. Circa 1960 there was even a Jerry Lewis movie (The Geisha Boy) that touched on the argument.
USAF Suzanne Pleshette unsuccessfully throwing herself at USO performer Jerry Lewis complaining how he had eyes only for the Japanese girl and wondering what they had American (white) girls didn’t.
She looks like a child.
Am I a racist?
No...we all have preferences...every single human being does...mixed latino women are hot though ;)
This is one of those creepy threads I told you about.
Heh. I know one of these, myself.
And American men (a lot of them overweight) think Asian women never gain weight.
They should take a visit to Hawaii.
I like girls with a good political head on their shoulders.
LOL
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