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Women fought for Title 9 for EVERYONE, not just ourselves. This is why there is no “forcing” (your word) of a male onto a woman’s team! Please, as a woman, I am begging you to stop this line of thinking. It makes us look like whiners. I have 3 boys and I hope they get to play any sport, instrument, whatever they want without ridicule or judgement. If your husband thinks a boy playing on a girls’ team is a P****, then I feel really sorry for you & your daughter b/c all he’s putting out there is that women are inferior & that it’s a step down for a boy to join them. Really sad commentary from a father to a daughter.

Yes, I realized “forcing” was the wrong word after I had posted. That part I agree with. The other stuff— not so much. Men and women develop differently when they reach puberty, that's a fact. I don't see any women in the NFL, NBA, or MLB. And it's not that they don't want to be— I wanted to play for the Yankees when I grew up. It became apparent at about 12 I was developing differently and it wasn't going to happen. A women a few years back made it to the final cut in open try outs for the Yankees, but that was because she was beyond exceptional, and had developed muscles and running ability unlike the way most girls develop. When a boy makes a girls team, it means another girl didn't. So that girl is left out
because a boy with a biological advantage was given her place. This is a high school boy the article spoke about, there were most assuredly try-
outs and a girl was cut from the team. Is that the equality you speak of? If boys are allowed to play all girl sports, starting line ups will become all male at a certain age. That is fact. Is that equality? Women are not inferior, but play to their different strengths— please don't put down my husband or I because we realize this. For instance, the women's basketball game is more one of finesse, in my opinion, then the men's. Women develop the outside shot better in some ways because they just don't look for the easy lay up with the 7 ft center— because their aren't any 7 foot centers, and if you let men play women's basketball, those 7 ft centers will take out even the 6 ft tall woman every time. Take fast-pitch college softball, it's developed into it's own sport in some ways quite different then baseball, based on women's strengths. I don't find it any less interesting then baseball, just different. As for instruments, who says a girls can't play the same instruments as boys?

Also, the inequality I see in sports now is more based on the girls getting lousy equipment compared to the boys newer equipment, less gym time, etc, They at least now must have an equal number of sports teams. It does not have to do with allowing boys to play girls sports. My husband would never tell either of my daughters they are “inferior” athletes. But our whole family plainly sees the inherent differences among the sexes. We play to our strengths. My husband, I, and our two girls all play sports. I have spoken at board meetings and to coach’s directly about equipment issues and practice times. Having three boys, I can understand how you would want them to have every opportunity, but I don’t think that opportunity should come at the expense of others— in this case girls interested in being part of a team. Your boys will develop in ways my girls never will. With that boy in the article playing field hockey scoring almost all of the goals, what message does that send? Girls can, and will, infer that he is the superior player, hence they are made to feel inferior— who does that help?