Posted on 12/12/2010 6:19:47 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
I agree with this to a point, and that is for initial attraction.
But if a man gets a chance to know a woman, at least sometimes, she “grows” on him.
Also, beauty is still subjective. Witness the article’s admission that some cultures like fat and some like thin. Obviously that is not “hard wired.”
I have seen some women I think are genuinely ugly (NO offense intended, but she can pout all the way to the bank) like Sarah Jessica Parker. If I looked like that I’d feel depressed. Yet she is a famous and apparently gorgeous movie star.
I have known some “Sarah Jessica Parkers” in real life who are apparently loved by good looking men with decent jobs.
Also I have known a handful of very heavy women who have husbands who are much better looking. And I’m not talking about women who got fat after the wedding but who were seriously fat to begin with.
I was just a skinny lad
Never knew no good from bad
But I knew love before I left my nursery, huh
Left alone with big fat fanny
She was such a naughty nanny
Heap big woman you made a bad boy out of me
A pretty face don't make no pretty heart
I learned that, buddy, from the start
Interesting article with many good points.
Except about French women.
In every situation I have been in ,with time and familiarity, the initially beautiful and ugly girls always moderate in their appeal.
True—making a man feel deeply appreciated is a powerful aphrodisiac and can make a very plain woman the subject of a good man’s love. But looking as though you care how attractive you are, staying in shape, making an effort, corresponding to traditional female ideas of beauty, and appearing happy and healthy will give a woman a bigger pool of good men to choose from. It’s not realistic to expect a man to have ESP and see past the ratty hair and rolls of fat an unfamiliar woman is displaying and recognize the fine character beneath. At least look like you’re in the market, for goodness’ sake.
Most women choose men, at least in part, based on their healthy appearance and ability to provide for their mate. Likewise, a man chooses a woman, at least in part, based on their healthy appearance and ability to bear children.
We’re hardwired to notice appearance, as are all sorts of species. It’s perfectly natural, although it can seem cruel to the unattractive who try to legislate it away.
Amy, you really have covered thus pretty well.
Feminists have hurt women in many ways. One older female friend of mine was a pretty lady, but a fairly hard-core feminist. Only in her later years, after she was past 40 or so (but she still looked great), did she come to realize that men weren’t out to hurt her. But by then she’d dated a gay guy for over ten years in a basically non-sexual relationship and a bunch of divorced men who were easy for her to use and turn down. She’s approaching 60 and has never been married and wishes she’d lived her life in an entirely different way.
She knew “nice” guys who would have, as she thought, tied her down, even though the ladies they married were/are still quite happy. But she went for the higher profile men and made sure they kept their distance.
She openly states the many ways the feminist movement’s bilge corrupted her and many others she’s known. She’s been pretty conservative for some years now, but her tastes are still fixed in the directions to which she was accustomed in many ways.
She still looks pretty good, and she’s pretty engaging, but she’s dated or knows all the guys in her city that amount to anything. Unfortunately, single, conservative Christian men are hard to come by at 57.
I hope the best for her, as she’s quite alone now after her parents and sister have passed on.
Feminism has helped lay waste to many lives as it has sought to undermine a country.
No one can look precise every day; it varies. Well, perhaps this Alcon woman looks all curled and powdered every day. So, good for her. I have to live a practical life, actually getting out in the elements, letting my slightly graying hair blow in the wind, stacking firewood, feeding the fire, feeding the animals, cooking, cleaning, etc. I’m 64 and had to face facts head on a long time ago.
SJP has a SMOKING hot body, but her face leaves me unimpressed. I actually like Brittney Spears now that she’s 30 and has a few pounds on her.
Men are visual.
Fact of life.
Dunno.
I think once “beauty” crosses a certain threshold, other things become more important. Like “Can I hold an enjoyable conversation with her?” or “Will both of us be sane at the end of an eight hour road trip?”
Feminist Naomi Wolf who famously had Al Gore dressed in earth tones and advised him to assume an Alpha Male personna . Oh, the irony.
I certainly don’t want to legislate it away. All that will do is force unwilling, attractive people to cohabit with the unattractive people, ultimately making the members of both groups miserable. I would rather work on becoming more attractive.
Figures, but she writes funny!
I’m sure there are men who would appreciate that (I certainly would). And they would help you out, if they knew what’s good for them. :-)
Pink is not her color.
We can’t change who we are, even when we’d like to, when it comes to these preferences. Women are visual to some extent, too, IMO.
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