Skip to comments.Just 50! The age a woman becomes 'invisible' to the opposite sex
Posted on 02/15/2011 2:06:35 PM PST by tom h
If life begins at 40, youd better hurry up and enjoy it, ladies. For in another ten years you are likely to think all men are ignoring you.
A survey has found that eight out of ten women over the age of 50 think members of the opposite sex no longer notice them. So while The Beatles famously lamented becoming over the hill When Im 64, women in 2011 will instead be wondering: Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when Im... 50?
As if thats not bad enough, seven out of ten women also feel overlooked by the fashion industry.
On top of apparently being doomed to an existence as an unstylish frump, the survey found that three-quarters of women in their sixth decade believe they have lost their individual identity by being labelled as a mum.
The findings of the Invisible Women study fly in the face of claims that turning 50 is quintastic, as represented by glamorous golden girls such as Michelle Pfeiffer and Sex And The City star Kim Cattrall
(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...
And while I have been 100% faithful to my bride of 23 years, I cannot help but notice so many other extremely lovely women past 50, especially including Susan Sarandon (yeah, she's a lib but who want to TALK with her?) and Peggy Noonan.
P.S. I disagree violently with another portion of the above article, specifically the comment that Kim Cattrall (of "Sex and the City") is a glamorous golden girl. She was sl-tty looking when the show was on the air, and now that she's 50 she has not aged well -- so much hard living, I suppose that she's now OLD and sl-tty looking.
Well of course most of them are no longer looked at as sex objects.
Neither are us men - Welcome to the reality club.
I don’t watch TV and never watched that sex in the city garbage. This Kim woman is frightening.
I dug her character in “Porky’s” though.
Susan Sarandon? I don’t care what you say. I can’t stomach that woman.
Face it women are crazy.
They spend the first half of their lives yelling at men for “looking them over”; and the second half complaining that they are being ignored.
Most women over 50 have a hard time making eye contact.
Now that’s a great tag line. The post I mean.
I’m over 50 and have discovered that there is much more important things than being eye-candy.
I am much more fulfilled, even though I rarely get a second glance, than I was back in my 20’s and 30’s. Life is grand after 50.
Obviously the author has spent any tme in Texas.
Part of it is all these hippies with square sponge hair and bald pony tails telling each other that fifty, sixty, or seventy isn’t old.
I’m 52, and a couple years ago, I went on my own regimen to lose weight, taking off forty pounds. When I saw my doc, I expected to be congratulated. Instead he asked why I suddenly looked so much older.
Obviously the author has not spent any time in Texas.
This was survey of what WOMEN think that men think about them. Not an actual survey of how men view women over 50. Two thoughts:
1. Any woman who really thinks this is incredibly shallow and bases her entire worth on whether men are leering at her sexually as she walks down the street. As a prior poster pointed out, none of us are supermodels at the age of 50.
2. Its incredibly unfair to use this as a comment on the value that men place on women over 50. Most men love and respect the women in their lives no matter how old they are. I get really tired of these MSM articles and surveys that make men out to be only interested in women for sex.
Michelle Pfeifer needs to sue her surgeon and even out those cheek implants. Gah.
Susan Sarandon was never hot
It’s ironic that the two things that lifted Susan Sarandon so high in Hollywood now dangle around her ankles.
I’m a long way from 50 myself, and can’t intelligently comment on what I’ll pay attention to come that time. Except to say that it amorous attention is based on sex, which is based on reproduction, and aside from a few outliers 50 year old women just ain’t that fertile. No wonder, whatever their age, men are primarily drawn to women in their prime child-bearing years. Namely, 15-34.
Humans are of course infinitely more complicated than my coarse analysis suggests. But for every “mature” fetishist, there are scores of regular guys.
I turned 50 last year, and I don’t really care if I am noticed or not ina sexual way. My hubby still loves me, and I am sure he looks at those younger, tighter, firmer hotties out there prancing around. It is called life. I am a mom, grandma and wife. I work full time, and spend a lot of time trying to help others less fortunate. It just is what it is..... I am not what I use to be looks-wise but I am better than what I have ever been spiritually.
That is my goal from here on out. Let go and Let God!
“three-quarters of women in their sixth decade believe they have lost their individual identity by being labelled as a mum.”
What a crock. That’s just another social role they play. Were they dehumanized by being a child, teen, or “Young Miss”? Am I locked in a box by being a bachelor and a “Sir”? Heck no.
The bugged out eyes are a WTF. Even when you add a smile, she’s beyond creepy.
If she wasn’t such a freaking moonbat, Julianne Moore would be my ultimate over-50 woman.
Who are these women they polled? Must be the Sotomayor, Kagan, Rosie O’Donnell, and oinker femi-Nazi crowd. They hate men anyway!
I have to admit that being some man’s eye-candy has never been priority in my life. However, most men my age ceased to be eye-candy long before I did. I do admit to picking a Rock Hudson look alike for my husband, but quickly realized I forgot to check for brains and heart. It was a problem easily solved. But mostly I was too busy in competition with men in the roping arena to be crushed if I wasn’t their eye-candy.
If you interested in male companionship or a solid relationship in or out of marriage, you’re going to have to understand that you have to keep yourself in a manner that is attractive to them. You’re going to have to approach them with kind eyes, a winning smile and an attitude that allows them to be men and appreciatite it. And there’s no rule anywhere that to do that you have to be a subservant to do so.
As an over 50’s lady, and I can speak for several of us, men and the male perspective is still fascinating. We’re not required to play mind games or be flirty tarts. Maturity brings with it a take it or leave it attitude that includes an attitude that there’s more than one fish in the sea, and that the many are also more content with themselves at this age. Also, remember that age 50 brings problems to males that requires understanding and patience and the confidence to be open enough to help them deal with it.
Rock on! Keep yourselves well, age gracefully and with confidence...the men will still take notice if they’re of a mind to!
She looks like she has a tumor or a bee sting or something on her right cheek.
I’m 56 and I don’t look at women over 40 or so.
I'm 54 and if they haven't at least reached 40 they're not worth looking at.
I don't know if you're being facetious or not, but your statement holds a lot of truth. Most women at age 50 are married and not looking for opportunities to flirt, so they avoid eye contact.
I occasionally do this experiment whenever I'm feeling particularly "invisible": just hold eye contact with someone a half-second longer than you normally would. It can be anyone. The guy bagging your groceries. The barista at the coffee shop. It can be someone of either sex, attractive or not. I do not mean *leer* at them, just a quick, half-second look. At first it will feel really weird, if you're not flirtatious by nature. All of a sudden, you're flirting without even having to come up with any clever line that might backfire. And *presto* you're no longer invisible. It works every time.
Mrs. JimRed knows that when I stop looking it will be time to bury me. Trying hard not to lust when I look.
She is smoking hot.
I have met many Hollywood actors and I would have to say that meeting Jayne Seymour about 8 years ago I was taken by her beauty. She is just beautiful.
Ann Margaret still holds my eye and I don’t care how old she is.
There are plenty of women in the town I live in, who are over 50 and they are just plain attractive.
You go GG!
I’m 64 and have lived alone for the last ten years,
I have a great dog and do what I want. I love women
but I’ve lost the social skills that go with interacting
with them so none of them find me attractive.
My dog is happy just to go up to the store.
Exactly! Eye contact with confidence. Even if you’re not duded up in your best outfit, and your hair is thrown up on the back of your head with a plastic hair clip...your particular beauty will come shining out your eyes and smile.
Also even at my age it’s fun to approach a door that a guy any age is holding for you. Eye contact, a big smile, a little flirt and acknowledgment of their kindness brings a boost to their day, as well as yours.
Aargh! I’m a 64 yr. old woman. Hardly seems like a year or two since I was 52. It flies. I’ve been married to the same man for going on 47 yrs. I doubt very seriously if I would ever remarry (even if anyone out there would have me) if anything happened to my husband. The freedom you describe here is pretty good; and my lifestyle has evolved into being a bit like that - although it wasn’t that way for many years. You just become more tolerant of each other usually the longer you’re together. You realize you both need each other and that “hot” looking number you may have been looking at in the past would just amount to trading one set of problems for most likely another set of much worse problems. . and for what, a mess of pottage in most cases.
True: How many women are out looking for 50 year old balding, graying, men.
Well: Maybe if your checkbook is large enough a few might look you up.
Same here, absolutely.
I would NOT go back, except maybe for a day here and there to see my parents once more and to enjoy again my little kids who are now delightful adults.
She’s probably had every part replaced and spent more time in surgery than somebody’s ‘35 Chevy.
Mrs. Prince of Space
When we get to our age, we don’t need no stinkin social skills, its take us as we are or bye bye...:O)
Yeah, I get flamed every time I go public with my crush on her. Nonetheless, she's still a knockout.
We had been married 33 years when hubby passed and had raised 5 kids. WE married young, I was 18 he was 19 and by the time I was 27 had 5 kids....alone can be peaceful...:O) GG
Well, I’m over 50 (not by much) and I can say categorically that my interest in sex hasn’t diminished by much since I was 30. And, fortunately, my lovely bride is still willing to be the object of my, ahem, “drives.” I’ve always believed that ascribing the human sex drive, especially the male sex drive, to procreation is a bit too animalistic. Sex for humans is far more complicated, for too many reasons to get into here.
Don’t know if you’re male or female, but if you’re the latter you’d better prepare yourself for the fact that your husband, or significant other, still won’t be able to keep his hands off you after you turn 50 — and that if you lose interest wholesale, you will have relationship problems.
You mentioned the “post-50 male problem” with incredible delicacy, insight, and moving eloquence. I expect that you are a very special lady to someone. God bless.
You just ruined the rest of my work afternoon ... all those gals that I was so in love with on the movie screen when I was younger ... Michele Pfeiffer, Jamie Lee Curtis (still have the hots for her), Geena Davis, Kim Basinger, Melanie Griffish, Jane Seymour, Kathleen Turner, Beverly D'Angelo, Kelly McGillis ... sigh.
Only white women. Asian women still look 30, and we can see them just fine. :)
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