Posted on 02/15/2011 2:06:35 PM PST by tom h
If life begins at 40, you’d better hurry up and enjoy it, ladies. For in another ten years you are likely to think all men are ignoring you.
A survey has found that eight out of ten women over the age of 50 think members of the opposite sex no longer notice them. So while The Beatles famously lamented becoming over the hill ‘When I’m 64’, women in 2011 will instead be wondering: ‘Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I’m... 50?’
As if that’s not bad enough, seven out of ten women also feel overlooked by the fashion industry.
On top of apparently being doomed to an existence as an unstylish frump, the survey found that three-quarters of women in their sixth decade believe they have lost their individual identity by being labelled as a ‘mum’.
The findings of the Invisible Women study fly in the face of claims that turning 50 is ‘quintastic’, as represented by glamorous golden girls such as Michelle Pfeiffer and Sex And The City star Kim Cattrall
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“three-quarters of women in their sixth decade believe they have lost their individual identity by being labelled as a ‘mum’.”
What a crock. That’s just another social role they play. Were they dehumanized by being a child, teen, or “Young Miss”? Am I locked in a box by being a bachelor and a “Sir”? Heck no.
The bugged out eyes are a WTF. Even when you add a smile, she’s beyond creepy.
If she wasn’t such a freaking moonbat, Julianne Moore would be my ultimate over-50 woman.
Who are these women they polled? Must be the Sotomayor, Kagan, Rosie O’Donnell, and oinker femi-Nazi crowd. They hate men anyway!
I have to admit that being some man’s eye-candy has never been priority in my life. However, most men my age ceased to be eye-candy long before I did. I do admit to picking a Rock Hudson look alike for my husband, but quickly realized I forgot to check for brains and heart. It was a problem easily solved. But mostly I was too busy in competition with men in the roping arena to be crushed if I wasn’t their eye-candy.
If you interested in male companionship or a solid relationship in or out of marriage, you’re going to have to understand that you have to keep yourself in a manner that is attractive to them. You’re going to have to approach them with kind eyes, a winning smile and an attitude that allows them to be men and appreciatite it. And there’s no rule anywhere that to do that you have to be a subservant to do so.
As an over 50’s lady, and I can speak for several of us, men and the male perspective is still fascinating. We’re not required to play mind games or be flirty tarts. Maturity brings with it a take it or leave it attitude that includes an attitude that there’s more than one fish in the sea, and that the many are also more content with themselves at this age. Also, remember that age 50 brings problems to males that requires understanding and patience and the confidence to be open enough to help them deal with it.
Rock on! Keep yourselves well, age gracefully and with confidence...the men will still take notice if they’re of a mind to!
She looks like she has a tumor or a bee sting or something on her right cheek.
I’m 56 and I don’t look at women over 40 or so.
I'm 54 and if they haven't at least reached 40 they're not worth looking at.
I don't know if you're being facetious or not, but your statement holds a lot of truth. Most women at age 50 are married and not looking for opportunities to flirt, so they avoid eye contact.
I occasionally do this experiment whenever I'm feeling particularly "invisible": just hold eye contact with someone a half-second longer than you normally would. It can be anyone. The guy bagging your groceries. The barista at the coffee shop. It can be someone of either sex, attractive or not. I do not mean *leer* at them, just a quick, half-second look. At first it will feel really weird, if you're not flirtatious by nature. All of a sudden, you're flirting without even having to come up with any clever line that might backfire. And *presto* you're no longer invisible. It works every time.
Mrs. JimRed knows that when I stop looking it will be time to bury me. Trying hard not to lust when I look.
She is smoking hot.
I have met many Hollywood actors and I would have to say that meeting Jayne Seymour about 8 years ago I was taken by her beauty. She is just beautiful.
Ann Margaret still holds my eye and I don’t care how old she is.
There are plenty of women in the town I live in, who are over 50 and they are just plain attractive.
You go GG!
I’m 64 and have lived alone for the last ten years,
I have a great dog and do what I want. I love women
but I’ve lost the social skills that go with interacting
with them so none of them find me attractive.
My dog is happy just to go up to the store.
Exactly! Eye contact with confidence. Even if you’re not duded up in your best outfit, and your hair is thrown up on the back of your head with a plastic hair clip...your particular beauty will come shining out your eyes and smile.
Also even at my age it’s fun to approach a door that a guy any age is holding for you. Eye contact, a big smile, a little flirt and acknowledgment of their kindness brings a boost to their day, as well as yours.
Aargh! I’m a 64 yr. old woman. Hardly seems like a year or two since I was 52. It flies. I’ve been married to the same man for going on 47 yrs. I doubt very seriously if I would ever remarry (even if anyone out there would have me) if anything happened to my husband. The freedom you describe here is pretty good; and my lifestyle has evolved into being a bit like that - although it wasn’t that way for many years. You just become more tolerant of each other usually the longer you’re together. You realize you both need each other and that “hot” looking number you may have been looking at in the past would just amount to trading one set of problems for most likely another set of much worse problems. . and for what, a mess of pottage in most cases.
True: How many women are out looking for 50 year old balding, graying, men.
Well: Maybe if your checkbook is large enough a few might look you up.
Same here, absolutely.
I would NOT go back, except maybe for a day here and there to see my parents once more and to enjoy again my little kids who are now delightful adults.
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