Posted on 02/15/2011 2:06:35 PM PST by tom h
If life begins at 40, you’d better hurry up and enjoy it, ladies. For in another ten years you are likely to think all men are ignoring you.
A survey has found that eight out of ten women over the age of 50 think members of the opposite sex no longer notice them. So while The Beatles famously lamented becoming over the hill ‘When I’m 64’, women in 2011 will instead be wondering: ‘Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I’m... 50?’
As if that’s not bad enough, seven out of ten women also feel overlooked by the fashion industry.
On top of apparently being doomed to an existence as an unstylish frump, the survey found that three-quarters of women in their sixth decade believe they have lost their individual identity by being labelled as a ‘mum’.
The findings of the Invisible Women study fly in the face of claims that turning 50 is ‘quintastic’, as represented by glamorous golden girls such as Michelle Pfeiffer and Sex And The City star Kim Cattrall
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She’s probably had every part replaced and spent more time in surgery than somebody’s ‘35 Chevy.
Mrs. Prince of Space
When we get to our age, we don’t need no stinkin social skills, its take us as we are or bye bye...:O)
Yeah, I get flamed every time I go public with my crush on her. Nonetheless, she's still a knockout.
We had been married 33 years when hubby passed and had raised 5 kids. WE married young, I was 18 he was 19 and by the time I was 27 had 5 kids....alone can be peaceful...:O) GG
Well, I’m over 50 (not by much) and I can say categorically that my interest in sex hasn’t diminished by much since I was 30. And, fortunately, my lovely bride is still willing to be the object of my, ahem, “drives.” I’ve always believed that ascribing the human sex drive, especially the male sex drive, to procreation is a bit too animalistic. Sex for humans is far more complicated, for too many reasons to get into here.
Don’t know if you’re male or female, but if you’re the latter you’d better prepare yourself for the fact that your husband, or significant other, still won’t be able to keep his hands off you after you turn 50 — and that if you lose interest wholesale, you will have relationship problems.
You mentioned the “post-50 male problem” with incredible delicacy, insight, and moving eloquence. I expect that you are a very special lady to someone. God bless.
You just ruined the rest of my work afternoon ... all those gals that I was so in love with on the movie screen when I was younger ... Michele Pfeiffer, Jamie Lee Curtis (still have the hots for her), Geena Davis, Kim Basinger, Melanie Griffish, Jane Seymour, Kathleen Turner, Beverly D'Angelo, Kelly McGillis ... sigh.
Only white women. Asian women still look 30, and we can see them just fine. :)
Well, I've been blessed with 23 years of marriage to a lovely gal, with whom we've both aged together. I only have eyes for her and frankly, the younger toned gals do nothing for me. My wife loves me back as a devoted wife should and ... well ... I still pinch and fondle her backside so often that her bottom is continuously purple yet is as firm as a 20-year old's from all the massaging.
Very interesting discussion. I find that men over 50 either have massive beer guts or just want to jump bones. The guys that I find acceptable don’t have the confidence in themselves to approach women, because they have been through too much. Kind of like the poster who said she likes living alone, some men over 50 just give up......as do some women.
Pfeiffer has an extra dose of botox in one cheek.
Heh-heh! Good for you!
I was once invited to a “cougar club” in a college town, and was impressed at how organized it was behind the scenes. Far more than a typical bar or club.
To start with, it was actually a private club, owned by a wealthy widowed cougar lady, and set up for her and her girlfriends, but managed by a professional club manager who could veto the club committee proposals if they endangered the club.
New members and college boys were vetted before admission, and the rules were very strict. Dress and behavior codes. Nothing unlawful in the club. But from there it got interesting.
The women actually rated their escorts on scorecards, and had time limits on them, a few months before they had to swap them out for a new one.
They even prearranged how much liquor would go into the woman’s and her escort’s drinks ahead of time. If she wanted him drunk, his drink would be fortified with grain alcohol. If he couldn’t hold his liquor, he might as well be drinking Shirley Temples.
And, love conquering all, every now and then one of the woman and her escort would fall in love and get married. And one of the perks of the club was that everybody attended weddings, as well as kicked in money so that they would be nice, even upscale.
Suzanne used to be cute and natural. And don't get me started on "mushface" Melanie Griffith. I used to have such a crush on her.
On the other hand, and I know this is very subjective, Jamie Lee Curtis has been aging gracefully and, to this post-50 fellow, looks absolutely fetching. She doesn't have a knockout 20-year old body anymore but that swimsuit photo from "Christmas with the Kranks" has an imprint on the backside of my brain.
No offense but I was never a Suzanne Somers fan. Yeah, she had a nice figure and platinum blonde hair but there was no true beauty in her face (in contrast, for example, with Darryl Hannah or Kim Basinger).
While I don’t begrudge the ladies their freedom to pursue young fellows, I will say that licentiousness and even marriage resulting from such is not appealing at all to me, in addition to its being sinful. If for some reason I became a widower I would still seek companionship at a church social rather than a cougar (yeah, I know they only want younger men).
What you might want may not be what you could get. Finding a mate or partner at any age is fickle at best.
I knew an older man, a well to do engineer, who joined a polite older singles club, only to find that the women his age would only talk to him after they had discerned he had as much wealth as they did, or more. Other things were of little or no importance compared to money. He found it to be a distasteful experience.
He also tried church socials, but the ordinary discriminators: age, education and background, interests, tastes and compatibility were too far off the mark. Even at a large church, the pool of possible mates was far too small.
And it was not just him. There is a general dearth of mixed social venues around, where the participants are not too engaged with something else. It can be downright hard to get together with prospective mates, and only then can you and they decide if you like each other or not.
Oddly enough, cougar clubs aren’t all about sex. The women get a lot of entertainment taking some young man who is poor, uncultured and unsophisticated, and showing him how to be acceptable in polite and upper class society.
He isn’t the one buying her things, certainly not gifts in her class, but she doesn’t want to be seen in public with someone who looks scruffy, so she’ll get him some nice suits, maybe even a makeover, and train him about etiquette. He gets to eat in expensive restaurants, etc.
I mention this because money does matter in a relationship. By being able to guide the affair, the partner with money can give it momentum. The money matters less than its movement, its likely indirect giving and receiving. Importantly, it can’t do it alone, there has to be other character in the relationship.
For most cougars, and men of that age as well, marriage is less desirable, because it is less purposeful. Its drawbacks are many, and its advantages are more limited. In some cases, there are even marriage penalties, in things like pensions and social security.
Men still notice them. Just not the men they WANT to notice them.
What's really going on is that successful, tall, non-bald guys around their own age are able to attract women younger than them who are still able to conceive children. Yes, that handsome guy with the nice outfit will ignore a wrinkled 50 for as long as he's able to get a thirty-something woman (whose biological clock is clanging) to give him her number.
Meanwhile, the over-50 single ladies continue to ignore the 50-something pot-bellied plumbers like they always did.
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