I'm SO sorry to hear this!!
Hoping God will help guide your decision about your son!
Posted on 08/08/2011 9:53:38 AM PDT by Irishguy
Hi Freepers,
i need you to help with 2 things. my mum was hit by a car this morning and suffered severe head injuries, she is on life support and they will not operate due to the extent of her injuries. if you could include her in your prayers i would really appreciate it..
my second request for help. Our 6 year old son was very attached to his granny. he looks to visit her twice a week and was there yesterday with her. Does anyone know how i can let him know and when? also as she is still in the hospital should i let him see her to help him understand (keep in hind she has a ton of equipment with her keeping her alive)? any help greatfully received
Prayers for you and your family.
Went through something similar. My son, 4 at the time, had never seen his grandmother. Just a week before our visit she became seriously ill and was in the hospital. On our last day there I let him in to see her. It was the best thing I had ever done. I am glad that she got the chance to see him because she passed away a month later.
A six year old probably doesn’t understand all the stuff that will be going on around her. In my mind it would be better to tell him what happened and let him remember her for what she was. I don’t think I would want my son to remember her in the hospital - just focus on the life they had together.
As for the wake, if she passes, we didn’t let our sons go to the wake of my father-in-law. Just didn’t think it would be a positive for them.
Praying for a miracle.
Prayers for your whole family, Irishguy.
As for your son, I’d tell him straight out what happened and then take him to see her.
Prayers for you and your family. My brother died when my daughter was that age. You know your child, but they know something is wrong as soon as it happens. Blessings
Prayers for a full, complete recovery of your Mom.
Prayers for healing!
I will lift up prayer for your Mom and your family. I would not take the child to the hospital. He won’t understand all the machines hooked up. You might talk to him about her faith and how God loves her and wants what is best for her. Encourage him to talk to God and ask Him to do what is best. Kids have a way of being resilient and sometimes understand more than we think. I had the unfortunate task of having to inform my 7 year old that her little brother had cancer and might not live and stressed to her that we needed to ask God to give him comfort. Assuring her that he would go to live with Jesus if he died helped her. When he died 9 months later, she was able to accept it and understand that he was better off because he was no longer in pain.
Prayers for you all, Irishguy.
I'm SO sorry to hear this!!
Hoping God will help guide your decision about your son!
Prayers for the Lord’s peace and understanding.
Prayers for your mother and your family in coping.
Prayers up.
I hope this helps, and please know that others pray for your family.
In the first epistle of the Apostle Paul to the Church at Corinth, chapter 6 verse 19:
“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?”
we learn that if we are truly saved, our bodies are then a temple to God, or tabernacle, wherein the Holy Spirit dwells.
Regarding the death of the physical body then, the Apostle Paul later writes:
2 Corinthians Chapter 5
1 For we know that if our earthly house of this tabernacle were dissolved, we have a building of God, an house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens.
2 For in this we groan, earnestly desiring to be clothed upon with our house which is from heaven:
3 If so be that being clothed we shall not be found naked.
4 For we that are in this tabernacle do groan, being burdened: not for that we would be unclothed, but clothed upon, that mortality might be swallowed up of life.
5 Now he that hath wrought us for the selfsame thing is God, who also hath given unto us the earnest of the Spirit.
6 Therefore we are always confident, knowing that, whilst we are at home in the body, we are absent from the Lord:
7 (For we walk by faith, not by sight:)
8 We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.
9 Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of him.
10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.
11 Knowing therefore the terror of the Lord, we persuade men; but we are made manifest unto God; and I trust also are made manifest in your consciences.
12 For we commend not ourselves again unto you, but give you occasion to glory on our behalf, that ye may have somewhat to answer them which glory in appearance, and not in heart.
13 For whether we be beside ourselves, it is to God: or whether we be sober, it is for your cause.
14 For the love of Christ constraineth us; because we thus judge, that if one died for all, then were all dead:
15 And that he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again.
16 Wherefore henceforth know we no man after the flesh: yea, though we have known Christ after the flesh, yet now henceforth know we him no more.
17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
18 And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation;
19 To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation.
20 Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ’s stead, be ye reconciled to God.
21 For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him.
Your family is in my prayers. So sorry you are having so much trouble.
About your son. Tell him the truth about his grandma so he can pray for her. Don’t take him into the hospital to see her. If she passes away, it will be the traumatic picture of her that kicks up in his mind when he remembers her because he’s so young.
So unless she is conscience and will benefit from a visit from him, just tell him that she is not able to have visitors because she unconscience - sleeping but that she needs his prayers so Jesus will know to be with her. He might like to make a recording to send with you that you can play for her while she sleeps. Like a prayer to Jesus from him on her behalf would be good.
Prayers up.
So sorry. Praying for your mother.
I agree with the post to ask the hospital chaplain/social service worker for advice.
When my grandmother died, my two young children were there and the nurses/social service people helped us and gave them crayons and paper to color with. We put the pictures they drew into her casket.
Lifted up. May God help heal her, you and your family from physical and emotional harm.
Just yesterday I was with my 8 year old great grandson at his grandmother's funeral. He was all questions but he seemed to be doing OK with all of it.
It really was cute, he had asked his mom so many questions she finally told him to go find his daddy and ask him.
You do have a good point.
My mother was killed in a car accident last April, she was close to my daughter in law and my grandson. The next day my grandson came up to me with a sad look on his face and said, “Nana Jo died.” CW2 is three, they know.
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