I was going to shrug this off, but began mentally listing the women if my life in the healthy / unhealthy categories. Pretty much follows the forgive / hold grudge pattern.
So your point should be given consideration.
Psychodymaic explanations can often appears to be clever and viable on the surface, yet are ultimately useless in therapy. There’s a reason few patients will pay $500/hr for psychoanalysis anymore (still a small number of well-heeled clients who crave the attention). Most M.D. analysts still practicing simply write up prescriptions now.