“Good intent” is never completely possible for saints on this side of heaven. “No one is good but God,” said Jesus, and meant it in the absolute sense.
You are setting up to spiritually judge people that God may not have set up to win a certain aspect of victory at this particular earthly moment. This is very close to spiritual bullying.
Hogwash and excuses...there is nothing bullying about anything that I have written or said. There are real reasons why we get ill and people simply do not want to see that and would rather just fell like victims of some unseen force...rather than seeing some of their own fault in the entire matter. Many people that is.