Like I said in my prior post, many women desire pleasure without responsibility. Having a man who does what the woman wants without the woman having to ask, and without asking her permission, means she can deny responsibility for it all. It also accounts for all the rape fantasies in such "romance" novels -- "If I was taken against my will, then I'm not responsible, regardless of how much I enjoyed it".
its sociopathy...its narcissism...its projection....
like the men who always claim that the woman "wanted it" , after punching her out and raping her...
like OJ simpson....who claimed that it was his tiny , petite ex wife who actually was the batterer...