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Women wary of dating unemployed men
upi ^ | June 30, 2012

Posted on 06/30/2012 5:42:52 AM PDT by JoeProBono

SAN DIEGO, -- Thirty-three percent of U.S. women say no to dating an unemployed man, but 42 percent would consider it if the man had a plan, a survey indicated.

The survey of 925 single women by specialty dating service It's Just Lunch found 4 percent of women responded with an unreserved yes to dating an unemployed man, while another 21 percent said they would, but they wanted to know how the man was keeping occupied if not working.

"Not having a job will definitely make it harder for men to date someone they don't already know," Irene LaCota, spokeswoman for It's Just Lunch, said in a statement.

Many women said they fear there will be a financial obligation if they dated someone who is out of work, while others said they feared their activities would be constricted by an unemployed man's financial limitations.

It's not just about money, life coach and filmmaker Patricia Weaver said, it is about being with a man who is engaged in something.

"Even at my age, 75, and dating if you can believe it, if a man is not employed, volunteering, involved in life -- it's a deal breaker," Weaver said.

Vincent Turner, of San Francisco, said women are subtle when they discover a man is living off his savings.

"No one's going to say, 'I'm not going to date you because you don't have a job," Turner said. "You usually get the first date. But you don't get a lot of callbacks."


TOPICS: Business/Economy
KEYWORDS: employment; men; misandry; unemployment

1 posted on 06/30/2012 5:42:57 AM PDT by JoeProBono
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2 posted on 06/30/2012 5:46:11 AM PDT by JoeProBono (A closed mouth gathers no feet - Mater tua caligas exercitus gerit ;-{)
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To: JoeProBono

Females only go where the money is - it’s always been that way.


3 posted on 06/30/2012 5:48:50 AM PDT by Ken522
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4 posted on 06/30/2012 5:49:42 AM PDT by JoeProBono (A closed mouth gathers no feet - Mater tua caligas exercitus gerit ;-{)
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To: Ken522

5 posted on 06/30/2012 5:52:22 AM PDT by JoeProBono (A closed mouth gathers no feet - Mater tua caligas exercitus gerit ;-{)
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To: JoeProBono

“said women are subtle when they discover a man is living off his savings.”

In other words, two cannot live as well as she living off your savings.


6 posted on 06/30/2012 5:53:28 AM PDT by Mouton (Voting is an opiate of the electorate. Nothing changes no matter who wins..)
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To: JoeProBono

“You usually get the first date.”

And who usually pays for that?


7 posted on 06/30/2012 5:55:59 AM PDT by equaviator (There's nothing like the universe to bring you down to earth again.)
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To: JoeProBono

He has a plan? Yea, right. Stupidity abounds. My wife contends the framers had it right about women voting. Actually, it was perfect in that only property owners got to vote.


8 posted on 06/30/2012 5:57:28 AM PDT by mazda77 (and I am a Native Texan)
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To: mazda77

9 posted on 06/30/2012 6:03:35 AM PDT by JoeProBono (A closed mouth gathers no feet - Mater tua caligas exercitus gerit ;-{)
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To: JoeProBono

And men are less likely to date a woman with a disfiguring skin condition—even if she’s on a treatment with a good chance to clear it up.

What a shock.


10 posted on 06/30/2012 6:08:27 AM PDT by 9YearLurker
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To: JoeProBono

I’ve had people (HR types and others responsible for hiring) tell me that don’t hire single men, although they will hire single women.


11 posted on 06/30/2012 6:08:46 AM PDT by ImpeachRoberts
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To: mazda77

Does your wife think the framers also had it right about blacks voting?


12 posted on 06/30/2012 6:11:37 AM PDT by 9YearLurker
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To: JoeProBono

http://www.wallbuilders.com/vote/


13 posted on 06/30/2012 6:13:48 AM PDT by mazda77 (and I am a Native Texan)
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To: ImpeachRoberts

14 posted on 06/30/2012 6:15:18 AM PDT by JoeProBono (A closed mouth gathers no feet - Mater tua caligas exercitus gerit ;-{)
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To: JoeProBono

The 0boz0 regime has an app for that: women have a constitutuional right to date a man with a job, so 0boz0 proposes we employ men at new call centers nationwide where other men can call for information on obtaining employment at a call center. The program is modelled after the Solyndra and food stamp programs.


15 posted on 06/30/2012 6:16:07 AM PDT by Notwithstanding (Christ Jesus Victor, Ruler, Lord and Redeemer!)
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To: JoeProBono
I agree with these women. First things first. If a single man is unemployed, he really ought to be focusing on getting a job, not on getting a date!

For women who are looking for husband material and for fathers of their future children, not just a good time or a one night stand, it only makes sense to want to date men who are employed. It is not the “gold digger” mentality that some of you are assuming.

Let's look at it another way. Let's say you have a single daughter in her 20’s or 30’s or older. Who would you prefer she dates? Someone with a job, or someone without one? If you have an unemployed single adult son at any age. What would you advise him to do? Focus on getting a woman or a job? These are no-brainers. (Unless of course you and your daughter or son are expecting to have access to Obama's stash.)

16 posted on 06/30/2012 6:19:30 AM PDT by Nevadan
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To: JoeProBono
It depends on the man. If you are a never-had-a-job gangsta thug, you will have a long line of women willing to let you live off them.

It's only unemployed white middle-class Betas that they have issues with, because the purpose of the Beta is to support a woman while she runs around behind his back with the unemployed gangstas.

17 posted on 06/30/2012 6:26:23 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (If I can't be persuasive, I at least hope to be fun.)
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To: Nevadan

18 posted on 06/30/2012 6:26:23 AM PDT by JoeProBono (A closed mouth gathers no feet - Mater tua caligas exercitus gerit ;-{)
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To: 9YearLurker

http://crf-usa.org/bill-of-rights-in-action/bria-8-1-b-who-voted-in-early-america

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After declaring independence on July 4, 1776, each former English colony wrote a state constitution. About half the states attempted to reform their voting procedures. The trend in these states was to do away with the freehold requirement in favor of granting all taxpaying, free, adult males the right to vote. Since few men escaped paying taxes of some sort, suffrage (the right to vote) expanded in these states. Vermont’s constitution went even further in 1777 when it became the first state to grant universal manhood suffrage (i.e., all adult males could vote). Some states also abolished religious tests for voting. It was in New Jersey that an apparently accidental phrase in the new state constitution permitted women to vote in substantial numbers for the first time in American history.
(snip)


19 posted on 06/30/2012 6:30:25 AM PDT by mazda77 (and I am a Native Texan)
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To: JoeProBono

I don’t see a whole lot of evidence of employed people having time for dating lately...


20 posted on 06/30/2012 6:31:31 AM PDT by varmintman
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To: JoeProBono
“A day without sunshine is like, you know, night.” ― Steve Martin
21 posted on 06/30/2012 6:35:21 AM PDT by La Lydia
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To: JoeProBono
I'm not sure that that's a totally unreasonable attitude for either women or men to have.Of course it depends on certain details but it's completely understandable that a woman wouldn't want a parasite attached to her wallet.There's a lot of that going around.Why,look at John Kerry for example.And Bella Pelosi,for that matter.
22 posted on 06/30/2012 6:44:13 AM PDT by Gay State Conservative (Bill Ayers Was *Not* "Just Some Guy In The Neighborhood")
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To: JoeProBono

An NFL player or NBA player put on waivers will still have a line of women who want to bop him.


23 posted on 06/30/2012 7:03:38 AM PDT by ConservativeStatement (Obama "acted stupidly.")
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To: JoeProBono

Men are better off without such women.


24 posted on 06/30/2012 7:07:57 AM PDT by txrefugee
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To: 9YearLurker
From my wife;

Its not about the blacks, but about the decision making process of many women. They tend to make decisions using emotion rather then logic and facts. Her point was the number of women who voted for Bill Clinton, solely on the point they thought he was good looking. About the same stupid logic as blacks in large part admitting voted for Obama only because he is black, and only half so.

To your point about blacks not being able to vote from , of all placed, Wikipedia;

"When the country was founded, in most states, only white men with property were permitted to vote (freed African Americans could vote in four states)."

25 posted on 06/30/2012 7:09:21 AM PDT by mazda77 (and I am a Native Texan)
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To: Ken522

Females are attracted to men who can provide for them. Equal load bearing is a minimum. No sane woman is attracted to a man she is expected to support long term or forever.


26 posted on 06/30/2012 7:23:53 AM PDT by tbw2
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To: JoeProBono
42 percent would consider it if the man had a plan

Ladies, a plan doesn't pay the rent.

27 posted on 06/30/2012 8:09:51 AM PDT by bgill
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To: varmintman
I don’t see a whole lot of evidence of employed people having time for dating lately...

It's the Heisenberg Uncertainly Principle of dating. If you have a job and money, you don't have the time to date. If you have the time, you don't have the money to date.

28 posted on 06/30/2012 8:27:08 AM PDT by 6SJ7 (Meh.)
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To: Gay State Conservative

“Of course it depends on certain details but it’s completely understandable that a woman wouldn’t want a parasite attached to her wallet.”

Men have gotten used to it.


29 posted on 06/30/2012 8:35:14 AM PDT by Boogieman
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To: mazda77; 9YearLurker
From my wife:

"Its not about the blacks, but about the decision making process of many women. They tend to make decisions using emotion rather then logic and facts. Her point was the number of women who voted for Bill Clinton, solely on the point they thought he was good looking. About the same stupid logic as blacks in large part admitting voted for Obama only because he is black, and only half so."

"Tend to," "mostly," "largely," etc. are words that betray those who stand in exception to the claims made, and making blanket decisions or laws based on such claims points toward collectivist / socialist groupthink.

If even one woman existed who stood to contradict the claim endorsed by your wife, and if she was denied the right to vote as a result of the law following as a consequence of such thinking, how would it be justice to that individual woman?

30 posted on 06/30/2012 8:40:08 AM PDT by James C. Bennett (An Australian.)
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To: JoeProBono

No one wants to marry “women” these days because even if they do have a job they also have HUGE credit card bills.


31 posted on 06/30/2012 9:11:35 AM PDT by CodeToad (Homosexuals are homophobes. They insist on being called 'gay' instead.)
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To: James C. Bennett

Most children are unable to make informed decisions about voting, and use emotion rather than logic and facts...

If even one child existed who stood to contradict the claim endorsed by me, and if that child was denied the right to vote as a result of the law following as a consequence of such thinking, how would it be justice to that individual child?


32 posted on 06/30/2012 9:16:23 AM PDT by LastNorwegian
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To: CodeToad

33 posted on 06/30/2012 9:20:17 AM PDT by JoeProBono (A closed mouth gathers no feet - Mater tua caligas exercitus gerit ;-{)
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To: JoeProBono

Females have two powerful biological imperatives. The first is to find the best potential sperm donor for their offspring. The second is to bond with the best available provider male to help her raise her offspring.

When there are a lot of available males, these two are unlikely to be the same male.

Males have the single biological imperative to produce as many offspring with their DNA, with as many different females, as they can.

However, this is at a basic biological level. Humans innovated monogamous, socially enforced marriage, which offers females, males, and especially their offspring, a much better deal than just basic reproduction.

(They also then innovated a way to ruin the system, called dowry, which defeated the purpose of quality reproduction.)

In any event, these biological imperatives, along with the others, like the female imperative to “display” herself to potential mates, and the male imperative to act like lions gazing at gazelles when females do this, lend themselves to social extremism.

The display thing and the male reaction to it is the fundamental reason for pornography. The male desire to spread around his DNA means that males are often Lotharios. And females will “date” the most hideous males who somehow have “interesting” genetics, and become downright mercenary when looking for a provider male.

The treatment for a lot of these social ills is first and foremost, to socialize children to the opposite gender throughout their maturation, so they see each other with clarity, not as enigmatic alien beings.

Second is to revitalize socially enforced marriage, by discouraging hasty marriage and divorce, and to inhibit those that would violate that marriage.

Third would be to create social alternatives for those who are not intended to be “breeders”. Some of these already exist, such as prostitution, and post-menopausal sexual activity. In many places, lifetime military service for males.


34 posted on 06/30/2012 11:26:39 AM PDT by yefragetuwrabrumuy
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To: LastNorwegian
Most children are unable to make informed decisions about voting, and use emotion rather than logic and facts...

If even one child existed who stood to contradict the claim endorsed by me, and if that child was denied the right to vote as a result of the law following as a consequence of such thinking, how would it be justice to that individual child?

Unfortunately for your point, 'female' is a permanent condition, whereas age definitely isn't. Unless you can stop Time, that is.

:^)

35 posted on 06/30/2012 11:27:56 AM PDT by James C. Bennett (An Australian.)
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To: mazda77

I didn’t know any women who voted for Bill Clinton because he was supposedly good looking.

Lots (though not nearly the same proportion as black voters) voted for him because they are liberal Democrats.


36 posted on 06/30/2012 11:29:32 AM PDT by 9YearLurker
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To: Nevadan; All
Does that cut both ways? Of course not. Your unemployed daughter, like generations before, would feel free and empowered to try to woo employed men.

It's a misandrous double-standard.

The single man is likely having a hard enough time finding employment in this economy without the likes of you and others saying he's not allowed some semblance of a social life. Is a newly hired suddenly more attractive as a date? How about one who has returned to school full time? Maybe one already dating or married with kids? They're good bets as husbands! Does the nature of his unemployment matter? Health, recent deployment, etc.

There is almost no American woman who wouldn't feel entitled to the double-standard of the man must have a "good job" for a date but I don't.

37 posted on 06/30/2012 12:22:27 PM PDT by newzjunkey
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To: 6SJ7

I have been employed unceasingly for 20 years, and over 6 figures for the last 10 of them. I have the money, and the time.

I have not had a date in about one hundred and eleventy billion years. It is like the job market, if you are not currently employed, potential employers see you as unemployable. If you have a job, headhunters call you constantly. Similarly, if you do not have a girlfriend, women see you as undateable. If you have a girlfriend, you have a flood of suddenly interested women.


38 posted on 06/30/2012 12:34:49 PM PDT by dsrtsage (One half of all people have below average IQ. In the US the number is 54%)
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To: dsrtsage

eleventy billion is more than umpteen thousand. Re brand yourself.


39 posted on 06/30/2012 1:09:47 PM PDT by eyedigress ((zOld storm chaser from the west)/?)
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To: JoeProBono

In the past when I was single and between jobs, I’d stop dating until I was employed again. Just didn’t want to have to tell a woman I didn’t have a job and don’t like to BS people.


40 posted on 06/30/2012 2:15:20 PM PDT by Welsh Rabbit
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To: JoeProBono

This has to be the lynch-pin of the demoKKKrat plan to reduce the world’s human population to medieval levels for the glory of Gaea, i.e. the rational for Bork Obunga to want to crash the U.S. economy: no jobs ==> no dates ==> no marriages ==> no children ==> voila, medieval population levels in a mere 50 years...


41 posted on 07/07/2012 7:17:59 PM PDT by varmintman
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