But I can't allow him to destroy my daughter's property and disrupt her life. (she's only taking him to be nice to me) And I can't take a crapping cat into a rental.
But I'm having a very hard time coming to terms with this.
Pray for your cat. God takes care of animals just like he does people. We prayed for peace over our friend’s neurotic cat and he is now very calm.
Pray for your cat. God takes care of animals just like he does people. We prayed for peace over our friend’s neurotic cat and he is now very calm.
One thing to think about is that if your daughter takes the cat, and the cat is unmanageable, then perhaps your daughter will be the one who is forced to put the cat down. That may result is a strained relationship with a good deal of resentment. It might be a kindness for all if you took on the inevitable task. But only your heart can guide you.
Put him in a foster home or ask your vet to take him for awhile. He just wants to be loved. You also shouldn’t make your daughter’s decisions for her. She should make her own, and if she wants to take him on, she should.
If she’s old enough to take on a house, she can take on a housecat.
Isn’t “Neurotic Cat” a pleonasm?
I’m so sorry for you and your cat.
It sounds like it may be time to let go.
12 years is a good run for an adopted stray.
Marie, I sent you a PM via Freepmail.
At the end of the day does your daughter believe you care more about that cat than you value her? Can you live with that belief in your daughters heart?
Seriously.
It works for my obsessive compulsive gato.
There should be medication that improves this condition. I would call the vet’s office and inquire about that.
I like “Slings” idea of possibly getting some sort of meds from the vet. Cats can get mental issues, they are fairly intelligent little guys, no surprise. A very small dose of what humans use for anxiety and such problems may work wonders for him.
I replied to you privately via email. There are numerous links which you might find helpful. There could be a medical reason underlying these problems, could be a diet deficiency or something else in the house (radical change in environment, etc....) Please don’t give up on him!
If you really can’t take him with you, and being placed anywhere else is going to make him miserable, then I think euthanizing him would be a kind act.
just my opinion
I send sympathy and understanding that you are in a very tough decision spot.
Has the vet suggested any medication for your cat’s anxiety?
If not you should bring up the subject with him. If medication does not help I think humane euthanasia may be a reasonable option for the cat.
If I had a cat using the house as a bathroom it would be gone. I simply don’t see how people can live like that. Disgusting.
Looks like the cat had been a real comfort to you over the years and is now suffering from anxiety.
Just as people take some anti-anxiety medication, ask your vet to see if there is something like that for your cat. I think they have things like that.
The poor cat senses that you are going to leave him behind and since you and he have that special bond, he is devastated.
Maybe he would calm down with some minimum meds and if you did take him with you.
He probably won’t live a real long time, but I think you will always feel guilty, if you put him down, considering that he was there for your for years and kept you from feeling lonely.
God bless you and give you wisdom and compassion to deal with this.
It is hard.
I'm generally ok with neruotic catz. I have 2.
But they are catz. At some point, like house fires, you open the doors and they are on their own.
Your guy sounds like my Sky, except he has mellowed over the years.
Still freaks out if I stand up around him, but my right arm won't be cat free in bed until after he passes on.
Again. Prayers up. I don't know what I will do when Sky is gone.
/johnny
You know what needs to be done. I had to do the same to my cat earlier this year. I loved that silly cat. He was 13 and had developed a condition that was certain death. I would have waited but he was having trouble getting to the box. And man was he fragrant.
You might try a no kill pound if you can find one that will take him, but it doesn't sound like he'd enjoy his time there much.