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Am I Being Vindictive and/or Petty? (Vanity Post)
MplsSteve

Posted on 11/07/2012 1:27:47 PM PST by MplsSteve

I have an uncle in Wisconsin. He's slightly mentally handicapped and lives in subsidized housing because of his income level.

In tribute to my Grandma (who's been gone a number of years and of whom I still miss), I send my uncle a check every month. The check is only $30.00. I believe he uses it for living expenses that aren't covered by assistance. I rarely get an acknowledgement/thank you from him - unless of course, I'm late in mailing it out.

My uncle voted for Obama. Normally, I say "Live and let live" and let it go at that. But I am thinking about telling him that effective 1/01/13, that I'm cutting his monthly check from $30.00 to $15.00 because of the impending increase in taxes that I'll be paying as a result of Barack Obama's policies.

Given that my uncle is slightly mentally handicapped, I'm wavering about this. I don't wanna appear like a cad but at the same time, I don't wanna be taken for granted and want him to know that actions have consequences.

What would you do?


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1 posted on 11/07/2012 1:27:54 PM PST by MplsSteve
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I wouldn’t do it. He is mentally handicapped and was probably led to vote for 0. Even if he wasn’t, I would never try to purposely hurt the most vulnerable in our society.

And unfortunately, 0-care will ensure that he will be screwed when the death panels start working.


2 posted on 11/07/2012 1:31:09 PM PST by ABQHispConservative
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To: MplsSteve

Wow that’s pretty low.

Instead of spending the $30 per month (or $360 per year) why not just send him a pre-paid card for $350 each year (since you’re spending $6 in postage each year) then you don’t have to make 12 post office stops or receive any late notices from him. Sounds like you don’t like him much anyway.


3 posted on 11/07/2012 1:32:23 PM PST by GerardKempf (Let's Get Over This)
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You ask yet you already know the answer. You just don't like it.

Given that my uncle is slightly mentally handicapped, I'm wavering about this.

Yes, you are.

4 posted on 11/07/2012 1:32:31 PM PST by NonLinear (Giving money and power to government is like giving whiskey and car keys to teenage boys.)
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To: MplsSteve

Give it a couple of days and I think you’ll still the 30 bucks.


5 posted on 11/07/2012 1:32:38 PM PST by TexasCajun
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To: MplsSteve
Cut him off. Let the big government he loves so well take care of him.

This probably sounds like a curt, un-thought-out reactionary response. It is not. I understand that, as he is kin to you it might be hard. But if it were me, I'd pray about it and then cut his check in half.

6 posted on 11/07/2012 1:32:38 PM PST by Wyrd bi ful ard (Gone Galt, 10/07/12)
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To: MplsSteve

Keep sending it for the same reason you always have.

Nobility beats hostility every time . . .


7 posted on 11/07/2012 1:33:43 PM PST by trailz
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To: MplsSteve

Yes, you should cut it in half because politics is more important than family. He needs to be taught a lesson...

seriously, why not at least wait until your taxes go up and see if you really can’t afford the extra $15.


8 posted on 11/07/2012 1:33:53 PM PST by stuartcr ("When silence speaks, it speaks only to those that have already decided what they want to hear.")
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To: MplsSteve

Jesus. Is this for real?


9 posted on 11/07/2012 1:34:54 PM PST by TightyRighty (I enjoy well-mannered frivolity.)
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To: MplsSteve

I think you are are angry. Just send it for Grandma as you have been doing. I’m sure she is proud of you.


10 posted on 11/07/2012 1:34:54 PM PST by mimaw
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“..slightly mentally handicapped...”

Sounds like the typical Democrat to me.


11 posted on 11/07/2012 1:34:54 PM PST by Bizhvywt
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Give the money to a charity of your choice.More will be done with it.My buddy grew up in a hippy commune in late 60s california.He is a self made man and was sending his mother a 1000.00 a month until he found out she voted for the one in 08.He shut the money off with the quickness and when she called to bitch him out about it he told her to get it from obama.Elections have consequences you know.


12 posted on 11/07/2012 1:35:08 PM PST by HANG THE EXPENSE (Life's tough.It's tougher when you're stupid.)
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To: MplsSteve

Sticky subject? Yes. Cruel/heartless? Nope.

Fact: He was mentally stable enough to vote. Actions have consequences.

Or they should.


13 posted on 11/07/2012 1:35:09 PM PST by Norm Lenhart
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To: MplsSteve

The Bible says, in multiple places, to do good to those who mistreat you and to treat others the way you would like others to treat you.

Depending on your financial circumstances, if you can afford to continue to help your uncle, you should do it. Just tell him that you’re sorry the money will likely not stretch as far because of the increased cost of living and taxes that his President plans.

It’s always better to be gracious, and, in this case, if he has mental problems he may not get your point if you try to be vindictive.

Besides, you’re doing it for Grandma.


14 posted on 11/07/2012 1:35:11 PM PST by Jedidah
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To: MplsSteve

Give it a couple of days and I think you’ll still send the 30 bucks. ...it’s the right thing to do.


15 posted on 11/07/2012 1:35:54 PM PST by TexasCajun
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd

at least you’re decent enough to read Cornwell...


16 posted on 11/07/2012 1:36:22 PM PST by stuartcr ("When silence speaks, it speaks only to those that have already decided what they want to hear.")
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To: MplsSteve

I would get new custom checks that clearly state your views. The back ground on a check can be also most anything. I don’t know if you could checks with “Obama Sucks” as a background but it is a fun thought.


17 posted on 11/07/2012 1:36:41 PM PST by ThomasThomas
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To: MplsSteve

I would get new custom checks that clearly state your views. The back ground on a check can be also most anything. I don’t know if you could checks with “Obama Sucks” as a background but it is a fun thought.


18 posted on 11/07/2012 1:36:50 PM PST by ThomasThomas
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To: MplsSteve

ISAIAH 58:7
Share your food with the hungry, and give shelter to the homeless. Give clothes to those who need them, and do not hide from relatives who need your help.


19 posted on 11/07/2012 1:36:58 PM PST by stars & stripes forever (Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord!)
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I don’t know what “slightly mentally handicapped” means, exactly, but a Christian takes care of family in need, unless you’re violently rejected. If you actually take a hit to your standard of living that makes $30 impossible, then by all means send less or none, but I don’t think this is the venue for an anti-Obama statement.

Best wishes!


20 posted on 11/07/2012 1:37:33 PM PST by Tax-chick (Watch out for spiders.)
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To: MplsSteve

He’s family and handicapped. You’d feel worse if you did what you’re contemplating. You could, however, put in a card explaining that you’re disappointed that he voted for Obama considering that Obama isn’t the one sending him money every month.


21 posted on 11/07/2012 1:38:36 PM PST by coconutt2000 (NO MORE PEACE FOR OIL!!! DOWN WITH TYRANTS, TERRORISTS, AND TIMIDCRATS!!!! (3-T's For World Peace))
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To: MplsSteve

Cut him off. All Obama voters are “slightly” or greater mentally handicapped.


22 posted on 11/07/2012 1:39:13 PM PST by TNoldman (AN AMERICAN FOR A MUSLIM/BHO FREE AMERICA.)
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To: MplsSteve

You are doing a kindness, a gift, a charity.

You have NO obligation to provide for, whatever the circumstance, someone who votes against your financial interest.

PS...if you think you’re feeling bad...I just cut off my daughter’s college money, as she felt the need to “express herself” and vote against the family’s monetary well-being in Ohio.

Hope she likes “expressing herself” as she waits tables for next semester’s tuition (and her books, healthcare, car insurance, rent, food...hahaha).

Not a funny hahahaha, but hey, her choice. And I’m all about respecting “choice”. I’m just not going to subsidize it.


23 posted on 11/07/2012 1:39:34 PM PST by LadyBuck (In the immortal words of Jean Paul Sartre, 'Au revoir, gopher')
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To: stuartcr

Not anymore. I’m Going Galt. Any of his books that aren’t in the library I don’t read from now on.


24 posted on 11/07/2012 1:39:57 PM PST by Wyrd bi ful ard (Gone Galt, 10/07/12)
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To: MplsSteve

Keep the Thirty Bucks. And do what you can to get Uncle a free Obama Phone.

That’s worth $30.00 so it’s a win/win for you and your uncle.


25 posted on 11/07/2012 1:40:02 PM PST by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: MplsSteve

If he has enough brains to still vote and vote for Obama he has enough brains to know better. Cut him off and tell him to go find “Obama Money” to fill his needs.


26 posted on 11/07/2012 1:40:33 PM PST by CodeToad (Padme: "So this is how liberty dies... with thunderous applause.")
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To: MplsSteve

Those that are dependent on govt all voted for the dims, we have too few pulling the wagon this is why we lost.


27 posted on 11/07/2012 1:40:47 PM PST by logic101.net (Support OUR troops, NOT their's!)
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To: LadyBuck
How how HOW can the parent be a freeper and the daughter be an Obama voter?

How did that happen?

28 posted on 11/07/2012 1:41:38 PM PST by Wyrd bi ful ard (Gone Galt, 10/07/12)
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To: MplsSteve

I doubt he’d understand. I’d just let it go.


29 posted on 11/07/2012 1:41:54 PM PST by Tijeras_Slim
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To: MplsSteve

The voters have spoken for government solutions. If you think you need the money then tell him you cannot afford it anymore - do not make politics the reason but rather your impending financial position. I too send amounts of $60 weekly and $75 bimonthly to different family members and wish I could stop - but their appetite for free stuff exceeds that of the governments current generosity;)


30 posted on 11/07/2012 1:43:30 PM PST by Jumper
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Give if you want to, don’t give if you don’t want to. How he voted is irrelevant. the fact that he appears to be ungrateful is also irrelevant.

It is admirable that you honor your grandparents in this way. But it’s not a requirement, it’s your choice.

Does sending him a check make you feel good? If so, do it. If it no longer makes you feel good - or has become a financial strain on your own family - then don’t.

Don’t do it out of guilt though - that’s destructive to both of you.


31 posted on 11/07/2012 1:43:54 PM PST by CzarChasm (My opinion. No charge.)
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If he is only slightly mentally handicapped then let the state care for him. He’s not your problem.


32 posted on 11/07/2012 1:44:39 PM PST by Randy Larsen (Aim small, Miss small.)
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To: MplsSteve

You are being both petty and vindictive.

But that’s OK.

I am in the process of cutting off all relatives, friends and business associates who voted for him or who are demonrats.

These people are destroying us. They are the enemy. They deserve to be shunned.


33 posted on 11/07/2012 1:45:37 PM PST by x1stcav (Breathe deep the gathering gloom.)
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd
How how HOW can the parent be a freeper and the daughter be an Obama voter? How did that happen?

Public education.

Liberal media and entertainment industries.

Friends their age.

34 posted on 11/07/2012 1:46:57 PM PST by Cicero (Marcus Tullius)
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd
This probably sounds like a curt, un-thought-out reactionary response. It is not.

Yes it is. :o)

It's kind of like, "I'll show you...voting for Obama...."

...or "Don't vote for Romney so we can send the GOP a message that we want more conservative candidates."

It's petty. So I do hope yours is knee-jerk when you say, "Cut him off. Let the big government he loves so well take care of him."

35 posted on 11/07/2012 1:47:00 PM PST by Tenacious 1 (The Click-&-Paste Media exists & works in Utopia, riding unicorns & sniffing pixy dust.)
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd

Obama voters just made the biggest mistake of their lives. They will soon feel the affects of higher Taxes, fewer Jobs and higher Food,etc Prices.

We are going GALT. Due to the short supply - higher prices of ammo we will no longer be firing warning shots! See you Patriots in GALTLAND!


36 posted on 11/07/2012 1:47:16 PM PST by TNoldman (AN AMERICAN FOR A MUSLIM/BHO FREE AMERICA.)
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd

Good luck with that and let’s hope your wyrd leads you to something better.


37 posted on 11/07/2012 1:48:42 PM PST by stuartcr ("When silence speaks, it speaks only to those that have already decided what they want to hear.")
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To: MplsSteve

Keep giving him the money. Treat him how you would want to be treated. Love him regardless of his stupidity.


38 posted on 11/07/2012 1:49:22 PM PST by Halls (Jesus is my Lord and Savior)
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Send a card saying you donated in his name to the Human Fund.


39 posted on 11/07/2012 1:49:48 PM PST by DesertRhino (I was standing with a rifle, waiting for soviet paratroopers, but communists just ran for office.)
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To: LadyBuck

Good for you and I agree with you. I’d do the same thing if I was helping to support someone that was voting against my, and the country’s, interest.

I admire you.


40 posted on 11/07/2012 1:49:48 PM PST by beandog (All Aboard the Choo Choo Train to Crazy Town)
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd

oh heck, she’s a rebel and more of a free-thinker than dad & I, so she says. She forgets the pics of Mom with a blue mohawk in college.

The young, they know everything.

My folks dragged me by the financial shorthairs in school, and I learned that lesson well. Time to pass it along to the next generation of ingrate. In time she’ll figure it out, too.


41 posted on 11/07/2012 1:50:27 PM PST by LadyBuck (In the immortal words of Jean Paul Sartre, 'Au revoir, gopher')
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd

Then again, maybe it was all the times we dropped her on her head as a baby....LOL


42 posted on 11/07/2012 1:51:27 PM PST by LadyBuck (In the immortal words of Jean Paul Sartre, 'Au revoir, gopher')
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To: MplsSteve
I believe he uses it for living expenses that aren't covered by assistance.

 

How do you know he's not boozing it up? Lap dances at the nudie bar? <<Insert your own sordid nasty response here>>?

Look. It is fiscally irresponsible of you to make this donation without knowing how it is used. If you want to be charitable, then fine. Be sure you know what he's doing with the $$$

Otherwise, yes.... You are being taken advatage of

43 posted on 11/07/2012 1:51:33 PM PST by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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All good replies - ALL of them.

We don’t know the problems of your uncle,
if he works, the extent of his impairment.

But, he did vote, which indicates competence.

I would cut the amount to $5, send it every
other month, and then just stop. Tell him it’s
because of Barry’s policies.

Personally, I’m feeling exceptionally mean-spirited.
Hubs and I were going to send 5 grand to Beck’s
Mercury One for the sandy survivors.

After last night?

The people who voted for Bloomie and Barry can pound sand.


44 posted on 11/07/2012 1:52:05 PM PST by CaptainPhilFan
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To: MplsSteve
Somebody took advantage of him and told him to vote the way he did - for what ever reason. I don't think he'd understand the cut back. So, punishing him probably wouldn't do any good.

BUT.....When you send him his check, warn him never to vote without asking you first, because he made a very big mistake. He helped hurt a lot of hard working people because he voted the way he did. Tell him if he does it again, the person he votes for will have to start giving him his $30, because it will have already been taken away from you by that person.

Teachable moment here.

45 posted on 11/07/2012 1:52:36 PM PST by concerned about politics ("Get thee behind me, Liberal")
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I think what you are doing for your uncle is a selfless act of love—regardless of the closeness of the relationship. From your description of him, he is not like the Obama Phone woman or the women who lined up waiting for money from Obama’s Stash.

Yeah, he voted dumb. But the circumstances out weigh his vote. I’d continue with what you’ve always done unless the economy, or until the economy, makes it impossible.

PS: Am attending Thanksgiving with my father and his wife & her grown children. All are libs including my father—the three sons of my stepmother’s are white trash Obama voters—Obama phone owners. One word to dig or gloat or throw my values in my face, and I’m out of there. And this is my father’s house. See you don’t have it worse than some of us.


46 posted on 11/07/2012 1:53:00 PM PST by navymom1
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To: MplsSteve

You say you’re doing this as a tribute to your grandmother.

That’s all that matters. Is this the only way you can honor her memory? Did she have a favorite cause or charity?


47 posted on 11/07/2012 1:55:41 PM PST by smoothsailing
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We should be vindictive.

The GOP is dead.


48 posted on 11/07/2012 1:56:06 PM PST by GeronL (http://asspos.blogspot.com)
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To: MplsSteve
Pretty easy decision really ... Helping others
49 posted on 11/07/2012 1:59:02 PM PST by Nonsense Unlimited
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Cut it off for a couple of months. You can always start sending it again, but maybe he’ll remember next time an election rolls around.


50 posted on 11/07/2012 1:59:15 PM PST by FreedomForce (Lesser Evil 2012)
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