Fortunately, my son told me about all those parties that started by well meaning parents and turned into Project X type events. Now.. my soon to be 13 year old asked me if I would allow her to have a party when she got into high school. My response, “H*ll no, no way, don’t ask again, don’t ask again ever and while we are on the subject.. you won’t be going to high school parties”.
In the county that I live in, the police have a party “jump out” squad. Seriously. They wait for phone tips about underage parties where alcohol could be involved and swarm the house. If one underage kid has alcohol on him or her, the parents are given a citation (essentially an arrest). Several parents have had this issued when one party goer “snuck” in a flask or hid a bottle of vodka (the new teen drink) under a jacket.
Sounds like a revenue scheme run by your disgruntled neighborhood snitch.