Posted on 06/05/2013 4:39:26 AM PDT by Kaslin
I listen to you often and enjoy your radio show, but why dont you ever ask women to go to work? When a family is broke, and the woman is at home raising one child who is already in the fifth grade, why cant the wife get a second job?
George
Dear George,
I think far too many ladies, in the name of paying for stuff they dont need, have left the household and the children for the workplace. Many of them didnt even want to do this; they just felt obligated to do it by people like you. There are a lot of ladies who have sacrificed their ability to be full-time moms on the altar of the car payment.
Now, sometimes ladies have to go to work. Theres a time and a place for that kind of thing. But if theres any way I can financially and budget-wise figure out how mom can be waiting at home with a big hug and a plate full of cookies when that fifth grader walks in the house and if thats what she wants to do then youre going to find me fighting for her opportunity to do that. Theres no higher calling on the planet than motherhood. Weve lost that in our culture, and were suffering dearly for it.
Im no Neanderthal jerk. I dont say every mother has to be at home or theyre a bad person. But these days weve got very few people who defend full-time, in-the-home motherhood. The inference youre making is that shes not helping, or worse, lazy. Why dont you go take over her job for a week? I think youll find out in a hurry theres not a lazy bone in her body!
Dave
Dear Dave,
Im 24-years old, and just got married two months ago. We make $80,000 a year, have our emergency fund and no debt, plus weve saved up for a 15 percent down payment on a house. I know you suggest 20 percent, but is 15 percent okay?
Tony
Dear Tony,
I dont have a lot of issues with 15 percent instead of 20 percent. Youll probably end up having to pay private mortgage insurance, but it sounds like you guys are in good enough shape financially to handle things.
However, I generally recommend that couples wait until theyve been married at least a year before buying a home. Buying a house is huge decision. Thats why I think its smart to wait and get to know each other even better before making a decision of this magnitude. Plus, you need to figure out just how close you want to live to your mother-in-law!
Seriously, take your time and dont rush things. There will still be great deals on the market in a year or so, and youll be able to save more money, too!
Dave
Actually, God’s plan requires *parents* to both take the responsibility of raising and educating their children.
It is only post-industrial revolutionary thinking which proposes: men work, women stay home with the children.
Right, but to say the two have differing roles is not to say the two are mutually exclusive. Women are made by God physically, emotionally, and mentally to be the source of nurture, peace and security for the children. The man is built to provide the framework within which the mother and children may thrive. To say that woman's place, by-and-large, is in the home is not to say that man doesn't have are role in the home. Of course he does - a very important role. But just as God made men and women differently, so he has made their roles different.
It is true that the industrial revolution took many men away from their home-based farms to commute and work away from the home during the day. But for millennia, women were the ones to care for the children and the home, just as the Bible and nature itself prescribes. Titus 2:3-5.
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