No, the problem is parents not being parents. Mine never screamed and cried for a candy bar at the check out. They knew better.
funny the media says the opposite when the kid wants to be a girl.... lack of parenting and too much coddling
Children differ and some can be difficult in spite of great diligence in raising them. Also what are grandparents supposed to do if their kids spoil their own kids? Nominally the treats, etc. are intended for grownups, but yes they can create issues with kids. A reward system might be helpful, e.g. promise in advance each kid a candy bar of his or her choice if he does what his mom (or dad) asks of him in the grocery, but stick to the condition of the promise (persistent acting up means no candy bar on that trip). Some in the US have candy free lanes now, respecting parents’ wishes.
“No, the problem is parents not being parents. Mine never screamed and cried for a candy bar at the check out. They knew better.”
You are right. But where we differ is that I gave in many times in the beginning until I finally put the hammer down. Now they ‘window shop’ at the check out but put it all back without me saying a thing.
I learn a little slower than other parents.
Bingo. Mine didn’t more than once, and have grown into (largely) well mannered young adults. I get compliments at restaurants etc and have to tamp down the sense of pride I get because I shouldn’t be the exception to the rule.
It is absolutely incredible how stupid this world has gotten even in my life time.