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Why Divorced Men Are Best to Date (and Marry)
Yahoo ^ | 06/05/2014 | Laurel House

Posted on 06/08/2014 11:33:25 AM PDT by Rusty0604

He has been broken down! Divorced men understand what it's like to be in a committed relationship within which there are compromises and accommodations. His resistance has already been broken down by another woman so that you don't have to endure the push back yourself.

He uses his words. Divorced men tend to be better communicators. There is a decent chance that he went to therapy during his marriage, if not after, and he has become fairly proficient at communicating needs and feelings more clearly.

He's been broken in! Another thing about divorced men that you might not want to think about but will happily benefit from? They just "get" you. That's because they've been with more women, or at least one woman for an extended period of time, and dealt with more attitudes, moods, issues, and emotions. With experience often comes understanding. In other words, he has already been broken in.

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KEYWORDS: divorce; marriage; psychology; singles
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1 posted on 06/08/2014 11:33:25 AM PDT by Rusty0604
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To: Rusty0604

More liberal propaganda.


2 posted on 06/08/2014 11:34:08 AM PDT by Olog-hai
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To: Rusty0604

kinda like buying a used car, huh?


3 posted on 06/08/2014 11:34:55 AM PDT by ShadowAce (Linux -- The Ultimate Windows Service Pack)
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To: Rusty0604
Imagine a man talking about "breaking in" his wife.

Holy smokes...

4 posted on 06/08/2014 11:35:30 AM PDT by Wyrd bi ful ard (Pope Calvin the 1st, defacto Leader of the FR Calvinist Protestant Brigades)
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To: Rusty0604

I’m never getting divorced again.

Every 5 years, I’m just going to find a woman I hate, and buy her a house.


5 posted on 06/08/2014 11:36:05 AM PDT by wolfpat (Not to know what has been transacted in former times is to be always a child. -- Cicero)
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To: Rusty0604

How condescending.

I take it this was written by some feminist? I thought they didn’t need marriage or relationships.


6 posted on 06/08/2014 11:36:16 AM PDT by Tzimisce
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To: Rusty0604

Uh, because we’ve learned the subtle art of compromise and capitulation. LOL! :>}


7 posted on 06/08/2014 11:36:26 AM PDT by rktman (Ethnicity: Nascarian. Race: Daytonafivehundrian)
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To: Rusty0604

Here’s something for these women to think about.

He’s been “broken in” they say. He’s “been with” various women, understands ins and outs of relationships, etc.

Considering all of that, suppose he is always comparing YOU to all of these other women, and you don’t stack up??? How does that aspect of things make you feel?

What if his having been with various women conditions him to think that there will always be plenty of fish in the sea, and conditioned him to bail out on YOU at the first sign of trouble or issues to work through????

What if his divorce has made him gun shy about any serious commitment or marriage ever again?


8 posted on 06/08/2014 11:37:04 AM PDT by Dilbert San Diego (et o)
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To: Rusty0604

Satan will be ice-skating to work before I welcome the thought of getting married again.


9 posted on 06/08/2014 11:38:06 AM PDT by null and void (Fascists never think they're fascists. They just think everybody should obey them.)
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To: Rusty0604

And within that group of divorced persons of both sexes are those lacking the emotional stability to ever maintain a relationship.


10 posted on 06/08/2014 11:38:49 AM PDT by fso301
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To: Dilbert San Diego

I wonder how well these liberal women would take constant contact with the woman that “broke in” the man in question.


11 posted on 06/08/2014 11:39:07 AM PDT by Olog-hai
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To: Olog-hai

And they say there is a war on women?


12 posted on 06/08/2014 11:39:27 AM PDT by Rusty0604
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd

Get the women young so you can train them right.


13 posted on 06/08/2014 11:43:08 AM PDT by taxcontrol
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To: null and void
I had some teens spend time with me yesterday because their mom was going through a nasty break-up. I'm everybody's emergency baby-sitter.

When they got in my truck, I asked the question: "Is everybody clear on why I live alone?"

The teens certainly saw the lack of drama/stress of my life as a benefit.

/johnny

14 posted on 06/08/2014 11:43:51 AM PDT by JRandomFreeper (Gone Galt)
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To: Rusty0604

I suppose the flip side is that a divorced woman is good to date because .... she understands just how fierce a beating she will get if she disobeys her man. She’s already learned how to behave.


15 posted on 06/08/2014 11:43:55 AM PDT by ClearCase_guy (Fegelein! Fegelein! Fegelein!)
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To: Rusty0604

Women are a lot more trouble than men. One can understand why the younger generation of men thinks it’s not worth the bother. They’ve observed acquaintances let their wives make them into their own image, and then dump them because they are incompatable.!


16 posted on 06/08/2014 11:44:29 AM PDT by txrefugee
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To: Tzimisce
The author is a self-described “dating coach” and “flirting expert” who wears too much makeup. The fact that her website is called “screwingtherules.com” is in itself TMI about her.


17 posted on 06/08/2014 11:44:38 AM PDT by Olog-hai
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To: Rusty0604

The Husband Store
________________________________________
A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City , where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:

You may visit this store ONLY ONCE!
There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights.
The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor,
but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs

She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.

‘That’s nice,’ she thinks, ‘but I want more.’

So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking.

‘Wow,’ she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.

‘Oh, mercy me!’ she exclaims, ‘I can hardly stand it!’

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
.


18 posted on 06/08/2014 11:44:54 AM PDT by umgud
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To: Rusty0604

Divorce rate about 50% for first marriages. For previously divorced people, remarriage divorces are at about 75%.


19 posted on 06/08/2014 11:45:06 AM PDT by givemELL (Does Taiwan eet the Criteria to Qualify as an "Overseas Territory of the United States"? by Richar)
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To: null and void

A Red Dwarf reference?


20 posted on 06/08/2014 11:45:45 AM PDT by wally_bert (There are no winners in a game of losers. I'm Tommy Joyce, welcome to the Oriental Lounge.q)
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To: null and void

Are you a man or a woman? Did you have a nasty divorce experience? Are you open to relationships, just not a marriage relationship? Just curious about your situation.


21 posted on 06/08/2014 11:45:58 AM PDT by Dilbert San Diego (et o)
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To: Rusty0604

And, they are the most likely to move on to #3 if they get any grief from #2, rinse, repeat.


22 posted on 06/08/2014 11:46:02 AM PDT by Dr. Sivana (“If you’re litigating against nuns, you’ve probably done something wrong.”-Ted Cruz)
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To: ShadowAce

“kinda like buying a used car, huh?”

LOL


23 posted on 06/08/2014 11:47:34 AM PDT by kitkat (STORM HEAVEN WITH PRAYERS FOR OUR COUNTRY)
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To: txrefugee

When my son was about 8 years old, he told my friend and me that he wasn’t ever going to get married because he didn’t think he could afford the child support.

Years later, after attending my son’s wedding, that same friend said she was remembering that during the ceremony.


24 posted on 06/08/2014 11:50:12 AM PDT by Rusty0604
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To: umgud

LOL


25 posted on 06/08/2014 11:51:27 AM PDT by Rusty0604
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To: txrefugee

The current generation of young men has grown up in a time in which they see how men can be taken to the cleaners in a divorce. They also have grown up in a time in which even casual dating relationships tend to end up with the people having sex together. They have also grown up in a time in which social norms of marriage and family life and children have been shattered.

Considering all of this, many young men just don’t see marriage and family as life goals worth pursuing.

Anecdotal evidence seems to be, that the feelings towards traditional marriage and family as goals worth pursuing, are strongest in evangelical and other strong faith communities.

Otherwise, many look at marriage and family and children as a lifestyle choice which they don’t want to make.


26 posted on 06/08/2014 11:51:29 AM PDT by Dilbert San Diego (et o)
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To: wally_bert

That would have been “And on that day, Lister, Satan will be skating to work.”


27 posted on 06/08/2014 11:52:20 AM PDT by null and void (Fascists never think they're fascists. They just think everybody should obey them.)
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To: Dr. Sivana

Unless they can’t afford any more alimony and child support payments. I did know of one couple that the guy married the woman because all his income went out for child support but that was offset by the child support payments she received.


28 posted on 06/08/2014 11:54:28 AM PDT by Rusty0604
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To: Dilbert San Diego

“broken in”

I think that means BROKE.

Side bar story: I was dating a lady who had been divorced. She had never received child support. I pointed out she should consider getting a lien on her prior spouses home as he was considering selling it. She contacted her attorney, Bella, and the attorney charged her a substantial sum to file a lien. I asked why she did not get a real attorney like someone named Bob, or Mike or John. She got annoyed and said Bella was great just like all the other women professionals she employed. I looked at the lien and pointed out the lien was filed in the wrong county! She contacted Bella, whom I aptly called Bella the big mouth, and she filed the lien in the correct county. She now has a new attorney, named Mark.


29 posted on 06/08/2014 11:54:47 AM PDT by Mouton (The insurrection laws perpetuate what we have for a government now.)
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To: umgud

Good one.


30 posted on 06/08/2014 11:55:20 AM PDT by Fungi
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To: Rusty0604

If so, then liberal women are on the front lines against all womankind.


31 posted on 06/08/2014 11:57:07 AM PDT by Olog-hai
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To: Dilbert San Diego
Are you a man or a woman?

I'm male. I rather doubt my ex would call me a man.

Did you have a nasty divorce experience?

Not near as bad as some of my colleagues, but quite bad enough for my tastes, thankyouverymuch.

Are you open to relationships, just not a marriage relationship?

Just curious about your situation.

Now you know...

32 posted on 06/08/2014 11:57:10 AM PDT by null and void (Fascists never think they're fascists. They just think everybody should obey them.)
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To: ShadowAce

Hmm. The used cars I’ve had the best experience with are Toyotas. So does that mean I ought to have married a divorced Japanese woman?


33 posted on 06/08/2014 11:57:45 AM PDT by Olog-hai
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To: Rusty0604

“Broken”, fer sure:
1. Financially broken.
2. House broken - ala FemiNazi perspectives.

Yuppers, broken to saddle and bridle, and ready to be ridden hard and put up broke again.

God rot lawyers and Liberals alike.


34 posted on 06/08/2014 11:59:48 AM PDT by GladesGuru (Islam Delenda Est - because of what Islam is and because of what Muslims do.)
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To: Rusty0604
After a certain age, a never married man or woman would be hard to find. But if they're working on spouse Number 4 or 5, you need to find what is wrong with them.
35 posted on 06/08/2014 12:00:18 PM PDT by Betty Jane
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To: Rusty0604
A couple of my favorite jokes.

My parents were happy for 20 years.
Then they met and got married.

If you DO stop to smell the roses,
be careful you don't get a prick.

36 posted on 06/08/2014 12:00:25 PM PDT by Daaave ("Well bless my soul what's wrong with me")
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To: Dilbert San Diego
Are you open to relationships, just not a marriage relationship?

Yes.

(screwed up the HTML, I guess)

37 posted on 06/08/2014 12:00:34 PM PDT by null and void (Fascists never think they're fascists. They just think everybody should obey them.)
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To: umgud

Great joke! And I believe it. As a woman I am saddened by how women treat their husbands these days, not respecting their need for alone time or guy time - their OWN time. And making them shop with them, etc. And complaining about them to their girlfriends. I think it’s sad. I have three sons and I do not like today’s man bashing. No sex should be bashed; it’s not ok.


38 posted on 06/08/2014 12:00:57 PM PDT by Yaelle
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To: givemELL

Really sad numbers and especially the remarriage divorces. I’d like to see the breakdown of those numbers. How many, for example, remarried rather quickly after the initial divorce(rebound marriages)? How many re-married after three or four years? After six or seven? I’d guess the divorce rates for those who waited longer after the initial divorce would be lower. I might be very wrong too.

Can you give me a link to the rates you quote? Thanks.


39 posted on 06/08/2014 12:01:12 PM PDT by miele man
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To: Rusty0604

Really? Well maybe he`s sick and tired of dealing with some illogical bullS#!ting woman and since he`s been thru it and found it ain`t so bad afterall, he`d be that much more willing to say “Screw you, b!tch!”


40 posted on 06/08/2014 12:02:32 PM PDT by nomad
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To: ClearCase_guy

“she understands just how fierce a beating she will get if she disobeys her man.”

LOL

I recently saw a black comedian on cable TV. He said that he firmly believes in ‘spousal-abuse counseling’ for men but that he also thinks that there should be, ‘know-when-to-STFU’ counseling for women! ;-)


41 posted on 06/08/2014 12:02:48 PM PDT by spel_grammer_an_punct_polise (Why does every political hack think that he knows how to run my life better than I do?)
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To: Tzimisce

Exactly...funny how stupid, unattractive women with excessive body hair become experts in marriage...just like that!


42 posted on 06/08/2014 12:04:50 PM PDT by gr8eman (A good rant should have the word "crap" in it at least 4 times!)
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To: Rusty0604

One of my high school classmates is twice divorced and now in a long term relationship with a man that never married. According to her never marrieds are more attractive than divorcees. I ought to send her this article.


43 posted on 06/08/2014 12:05:09 PM PDT by PrincessB (Drill Baby Drill.)
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To: Yaelle

I hate how on TV commercials they always depict the man as an idiot that couldn’t function without the wise woman.


44 posted on 06/08/2014 12:05:35 PM PDT by Rusty0604
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To: Rusty0604

or the kids are the smart ones and the parents are stupid


45 posted on 06/08/2014 12:06:35 PM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: Rusty0604

Feel bad for the guy(s) she ends up with.


46 posted on 06/08/2014 12:08:10 PM PDT by madison10
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To: Rusty0604

Vicious drivel, so disrespectful to men. Who in the world wants a “broken” man?

I think a widower is a better choice.* He loved his wife and probably really likes women. He misses being married.

*Assuming he didn’t kill his wife:)


47 posted on 06/08/2014 12:09:17 PM PDT by Veto! (OpInions freely dispensed as advice)
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To: Yaelle

Marriage really is a partnership with both sides best off respecting the other.


48 posted on 06/08/2014 12:09:41 PM PDT by umgud
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To: Rusty0604

Marriage and family may not be easy, but what is it for? It is for producing, understanding and experiencing real and lasting love. No where else will a human being be deepened by the experience of love in the way they will through having and maintaining a family whose members are dedicated to loving one another. If you want to miss out on deep, lasting and meaningful love, skip having a family. You may find yourself thinking you are happy without realizing love. Without love what are you but only a self centered, empty shadow of who you were meant to be?


49 posted on 06/08/2014 12:11:35 PM PDT by Bellflower (The LORD is Holy, separated from all sin, perfect, righteous, high and lifted up.)
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To: Rusty0604

Not too mention that he’s probably broke as well as broken in.


50 posted on 06/08/2014 12:12:21 PM PDT by wildbill
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