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Posted on 07/06/2014 6:08:50 AM PDT by nevermorelenore
Just wanting some feedback since our daughter has been participating in Our Diamond Miss pageants. She enjoys it, makes new friends, and has improved her poise and talent. Any thoughts on this type of activityfor kids ?
If it’s her idea, and losing doesn’t crush her, I personally have no problem with it. Do you have other children who are receiving equal amounts of your attention? And ask yourself why you feel uneasy about it.
How old is your kid?
I think it could be a fun part of her childhood.
Is she enjoying it?
Is it an obsession?
Can she stop when it gets old, and pursue other interests?
Is she having fun?
It seems narcissistic and shallow in the end.
I grew up with a DIVA (yes, all caps) in the family. I hope that never happens to you.
I have a deep dislike of actors to this day. No bloody use for any of them.
Just make sure your little princess doesn’t become a beast.
yes, good questions - she does love it, but has so many interests. she would like to play soccer and other things, too. Can definitely see how girls benefit, especially with college scholarships, but sometimes I think the money we would save by diversifying our time, would be quite a savings.
My granddaughter competed in just about anything a little girl could compete in around here, some local pageants but mostly sports and animals. She loved it, it was her personality type and now she’s in college. After being a college cheerleader for 2 years she has a work study job as an ambassador and does a lot of PR and public speaking. I believe she will go far whatever she chooses to do and all that competition prepared her for it.
If you make it fun but make her realize that she has to do her best if she wants to do it and it isn’t just for your glory then why not.
thank you for that insight - I think we get caught up in it, sometimes, and don’t see the big picture.
I never heard of “Diamond Miss,” but if it’s a beauty pageant, I would be concerned about little girls being judged by their “beauty.” I think it leads either to excessive pride or low self-esteem. Once they reach their teens, they’ll have enough angst about their looks, worrying they’re “fat” or have zits or aren’t pretty enough to get a boyfriend. Why make them stress and compare themselves over looks when they’re still so young?
Just my opinion.
she knows she’s adored and it’s not about the crown, but it is so tempting to make that the focus when you’re in the midst of the event... quite a balancing act. Could be the same in sports. Doing our absolute best is the goal
That's the danger point. It is all so glamorous and exciting and all the rushing from this audition to that audition and waiting,waiting,waiting, always waiting to hear if she's gotten this part or that show or tour and whatever needs to be done to make it so.
Everything stops when the DIVA is happy, unhappy, angry, sad, pissed off, feeling (fillintheblank) ugly, fat, untalented, hoarse, jealous, petty, ecstatic, nasty, supreme, and the worst possible one of all~
In Love for the umpteenth time and marries (this time) after knowing the lovee for what, three months?
I'm sure you are a good parent and will not let this happen.
You want my thoughts? Toddlers and Tiaras. For shame.
I think it’s fine to do this, unless it takes over your life.
I’ve watched shows such as Toddlers and Tiaras, and get the impression that for some, their only extracurricular activity is these pageants. Some people seem to go to these pageants every weekend. It absorbs all of the family free time for such people. It will crowd out other activities your daughter could be involved in.
As long as it doesn’t take over your life, so long as you don’t end up doing this every weekend, your daughter should be fine.
And by all means, if she wants to play soccer, or other activities such as Girl Scouts, have her participate in those activities. Work the pageants around the schedules of other interests she has, rather than having to squeeze in other things around the pageants.
good advice - it’s a nice “mommy and me” activity, but we have other children, older ones, they still like to have some of that time, too :)
This would be a good time to encourage her to focus outside of self, and the Diamond Miss activities.
Encourage the sports activity.
Make sure you have her involved in her religious development.
Have you ever PERSONALLY known a True “Industrial Strength” Narcissist?
They are horrid creatures, that emit a fog of ‘ugly’ to all that know them.
You want her to gain confidence and self-esteem? Put her into continuing debate / public speaking classes, and martial arts.
When it comes to principles, be one.
all good suggestions. appreciate you fellow freepers !
Building confidence is the goal. Keep finding may avenues to do it. Also find venues to participate in community needs. We need confident young people willing to get their hands dirty and make a difference.