He was able to sit up and ride with my mom when he first went to hospital but on moving day he couldn't sit up safely so we had special transport move him. He knew who we were and he could talk and everything.
I didn't feel like he was ready to go yet but it was doctor's orders. My mom wanted to bring him home but with paralysis on one side and weakness on the other we didn't believe it would be possible.
I’m really sorry that happened, and I hope your father gets better quickly. Rehab is the best place for him. He needs therapy to regain as much function as he can. The best time to do that is as soon after the stroke as possible.
I am sorry about your father’s stroke.
I am relieved he can still speak and is cognizant, which are good signs.
I will pray that he regains strength in his right side.
Your father, I’m sure, is thankful to have two people who have helped him and cared for him these past 22 years.
I am sorry. Prayers for your father, your mother, you and your family.
I sent one for you as well.
I’m so sorry.
Prayers for your cherished Dad and your family.
Lord, hear our prayers.
Please don’t respond until I finish. I broke it up so I wouldn’t lose the whole thing in one go if I goof up.
Anyway, the place was clean and he seemed to be okay when we came to visit. It looked like they were keeping him clean and we thought everything would work out.
My son and I saw him on Friday night and they had a good talk about his job.
As I mentioned before, he seemed to be doing okay.
So my husband and I didn’t get down there until almost dinnertime the next day. We were shocked to see how far he had slipped in just 24 hours. He was sleeping a lot before but he was much less responsive and when he tried to talk we couldn’t understand a word he said for a bit. We fed him a little dinner and he wasn’t eating well and had trouble swallowing. At the hospital he ate almost everything and as I fed him, he was able to tell me what he wanted next.
We wondered if he’d had another stroke the night before after my son and I left. He was in a dirty diaper when we got there. After we got the CNAs to change him and we tried to feed him we got worried and called the advice nurse from the hospital that placed him in the rehab place. They told us to alert the staff at the nursing home. We told them our concerns and they said they would monitor him so we left.
We picked up some food he likes. Instant breakfast, pudding and the like. Our plan was to show up, start feeding him through the day and hopefully he would get stronger.
All he could manage was a third of the instant breakfast drink. My husband and I picked up my mother who had clout to make decisions and we were going to try and feed him again but he got even worse in just a few hours.
We called the advice nurse again because we had figured out that he couldn’t drink water on his own or use the call button
She told us to call 911 and get him to ER right away which is what we wanted to do the night before. Now he is in ICU with kidney and possible lung infection and completely unresponsive
(They sedated him so all his energy could go to healing from infection)
I just don’t understand why he got put into that place when I could plainly see he needed more.
I am going to be more careful now. He is getting phenomenal care in the ICU right now but whoever decided he was fit for the rehab place really dropped the ball in my opinion and I dropped the ball when I trusted them to make that decision.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading.
Seeking freeper advice, thoughts and wisdom. Prayer too if you have a minute.
Thank you.
Mom claimed he was milking it.
These words caught my attention... In the past two years, two people I know suffered strokes... One a family friend, I know by marriage... The second, a sibling. In both cases, people related in care giving, used this language regarding these stroke victims.
But at the same time, the words used to describe these two people, were they have lost the ability to filter their communication. The brain is very complex, and I do not think anyone can accurately know the full damage to the brain from a stroke.
I have great empathy for the stroke victim and the care givers, because of all the unknowns... Tell your mom, to have patience with your dad... He is not the same person he once was.
My father had a stroke, November before last. On election day, as it turned out. He and I went out to vote and then we had lunch together at a cafe on the way back. Not long after coming home he was back out the door for a doctor's appointment. And that's where he was when he had his stroke.
He fluctuated wildly for the next 16 days. Until one day he wasn't responding, he was in respiratory distress. My sister was still several hours away. So it fell to me. He had told us for years that if he was in a state where he could not take care of himself, could not do the things he enjoyed doing, if he was in that kind of place medically, to let him go. I told the physician around noon. Thirteen hours later at 1:20 in the morning he had passed.
So I know something of where you're coming from. You absolutely have prayers coming from this quarter, brother (sister?)
My husband had a right side stroke that the hospital said he wouldn’t survive. Here he is 6 years later, laughing and enjoying life everyday. What your father has is probably aphasia. Ed has it too and in the beginning he couldn’t even comprehend the words point or touch your head. Your dad has not lost his memory or his knowledge, but his brain cannot connect his actions to what he wants to do. Ed has been somewhat of a miracle and even the rehab people say they have learned what is possible that the books don.t tell you.
He was totally paralyzed non the right and couldn’t speak except for the word “yep”. We did 48 piece wooden puzzles, played blackjack and simple games and exercises like a child might do. Talk to him like you did before the stroke. In spite of what it seems like he can probably still read and understand everything. Believe me, this is more frustrating for him than for your mom.
Please don’t give up no matter what. Look up aphasia on the computer and manually exercise his arm and leg and encourage him to resist and help so his movement and strength improves. Good luck and I will gladly answer your questions is you need help. Karen
Also, please keep him in the rehabilitation home as long as they will let him stay. That is up to your insurance company and the rehab people so be real nice to them.
Will pray for you.
Prayers !!
Prayers for your father. God bless..
My wife started having panic attacks when it got near to my going home time and I often stayed until early morning or all night to clam her down and she could sleep.
At the end it was a bout of pneumonia that sent her back to the hospital for 6 days. While at the hospital her mood and spirit became better and the panic attacks disappeared. When it came time for her to be released back to rehab I had her moved to a much better place and while she still had a few bad nights her spirit remained much better over all.
But the insurance will only pay for so much rehab and she was sent home two weeks ago and it has been a struggle. I have some help, but no one that is strong enough to make transfers so I need to be close at all times and can not be gone more than a few hours depending on the kind of day she is having.
There will soon come a time in which I must make some decisions in which there will be no good choices.
All I can say is you must trust in the Lord and know that you are not alone.
Sorry to hear that. I lost both my father and mother in the last few years. It is difficult to see them suffer and to lose them. There is peace knowing they’re in a better place.
Really sorry you’re going through that. So sad.
Prayers.
I am very sorry for up your father and family. Prayers up sir.
FATHER GOD,
We praise Your holy Name. GREAT I AM. CREATOR. GREAT PHYSICIAN. Nothing is impossible for You. Your goodness and mercy and Your faithfulness extend to each generation.
Be with Califreak’s father. Give him peace and rest. We ask the HOLY SPIRIT to flow through his body, restoring damaged muscles, brain cells, nerves, heart tissue. Strengthen the afflicted side of his body, increase capacity in his lungs. Renew his body through the resurrection power of JESUS CHRIST, by Whose stripes we were healed.
Comfort Califreaks mother. Bind fear and give her insight how to care for her husband. Bless Clifreak and her family for honoring their father.
We give You all the praise and glory. Thank You for bending down to hear our prayers.
In the name of JESUS CHRIST, GOD’S only SON we pray. Amen.
I’m sorry.