Posted on 03/29/2017 6:38:26 AM PDT by C19fan
As chief bridesmaid at her best friend’s wedding, Claire Duke knew a certain amount of responsibility and planning would fall to her.
What she didn’t imagine was that it would cost her so much money to attend the lavish ceremony that her debt would last longer than her friend’s marriage.
Claire’s friend, Siobhan, chose a Caribbean beach setting for her big day four years ago. Claire, 33, a chef from the Isle of Man, says: ‘They wanted us to be there no matter what.’
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The bride’s mother is often the driving force. It gets old listening to the wedding preparation progress, as if her daughter is the first young lady to tie the knot.
We had ten, but no prostitutes. No colorful characters at all—somewhat amazing since we got married in Palm Springs.
It was lovely and intimate. Dh’s 90 year old mother was able to be there. The food was amazing, White glove service. Friends told us later it was the best wedding they’d ever attended.
No $40,000 price tag.
I paid $330 for dinner and $50 to the pastor. That was it.
Because the bride is thinking: “This all about MMMMEEEEEEEEEE!”
I have found throughout the years that there is an inverse correlation between the amount of $ spend on the wedding and how long the marriage last.
All my friends/family that had these lavish weddings are all now divorced, where as the cheapos are still together after many years.
My cousin married a woman whose family insisted on a black tie event (that is every male guest had to wear a tuxedo) and 350 guests. The marriage lasted four years. His second wedding reception was a barbecue in the backyard. They’ve been married almost 40 years.
Spoiled children starring in the movie in their heads.
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Nailed it!!!
I’ve seen this done a number of times. The wedding is held at the close of Sunday service. Members are invited to stick around if they like.
Pot luck dinner downstairs afterward, provided by the various families who are close to the couple.
Costs almost literally nothing. More likely to last than any six figure wedding in the Caribbean.
A young man once asked his girlfriend to marry him. She said no and he lived happily ever after.
It shouldn’t cost the guests one penny ... other than any possible travel expenses they may need to spend to get to the wedding.
Back in the day, my bride planned our wedding all by herself. I took care of the honeymoon ... thanks to a generous cash wedding gift from my parents. Costs were minimal and it was a great day.
I’m flying to California for my daughter’s wedding. But that is where she lives. That is the only excuse for flying to a wedding.
Unless you are independently wealthy, that is.
Good comment!
The whole ‘destination wedding’ thing is a bit over the top, and a waste of money, in my opinion.
The wedding industry pushes these lavish ideas. Even the thought of a wedding industry is absurd.
The cost-effective way to do that is on a cruise. The ship even has a chapel you can use for the ceremony. Then you can spend the afternoon on the beach at Barbados.
The cost would be about $3,500 for a couple in a junior suite for a week, a lot less for smaller cabins. Plus air fare.
-PJ
‘They wanted us to be there no matter what.’”
So, does “no matter what” mean they are willing to pay for the trip?
” no” is a complete sentence that a lot of women, especially, find hard to say
Same here. Both paragraphs.
We had one of those weddings. With two ministers. One was a newbie and ours his first wedding, so we got a two-fer. For pre-marital counseling, too. Reception was dry, at the church hall and catered by the Ladies Aid and my late dad. Must’ve worked cuz that was a few decades ago :)
Even if the wedding isn’t held in the Caribbean, it still gets ridiculous. I’ve watched coworkers plan their weddings, taking company time to call florists, caterers, etc. There’s a lot of competition in it, (”My diamond is bigger than hers. The band at my wedding will be better than hers,” etc.)
And it’s about being Queen for a Day. The Bride starves herself to be skinny on her wedding day, picks out a fabulous dress, has her makeup and hair done, then walks down the aisle with all eyes upon her, dazzled by her beauty. She has photos and videos taken. It’s the one day that a woman can feel like a princess, a superstar. I understand that.
But it should be about the couple’s love for each other and planning their lives together. That falls by the wayside, and the couple usually ends up divorced.
I always thought that if I got married, I’d want to elope. My fiancee and I would take off and find one of those little white clapboard churches in the country. The minister and his wife would be the only ones there.
We eloped.
Three days skiing in Grand Targhee followed by four days skiing in Jackson.
The Wife’s sister is still mad that she did not get invited to the wedding.
THERE WAS NO WEDDING!
She lives in Minnesota, imagine that...
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