I often wonder how Mr Persevero would react if I 1) cussed at him 2) called him a nasty name 3) threw something at him 4) had a road rage hissy ffitwith him sitting helplessly next to me while I drive like a maniac on purpose. With our kids in the car. 5) threatened to divorce him.
I’ve never done any of the above, not once. But I am sometimes accused of not letting things go. I find this unreasonable. The behavior above is plain old traumatizing and I’m not sure I’m a bad person for remembering.
I’ve never done any of the above, not once. But I am sometimes accused of not letting things go. I find this unreasonable. The behavior above is plain old traumatizing and I’m not sure I’m a bad person for remembering.
Remembering is one thing, dwelling on it and bringing it up is something else. If he cussed at you ten years ago and hasn’t done so since, I’d say it is well past time to move on. When my wife brings up history of single non-repeated incidents 5+ years back as if it happened yesterday and happens all the time, she completely derails my train of thought as I try to make sense of her perspective on life and can’t. We had a discussion about bread in a grocery store 16 years ago (I was raised on fairly cheap bread, she is a believer in whole grains), before we were engaged, that still pops up from time to time.