True enough.
I loved my deceased wife, rest her soul. But I sometimes felt I was being judged unfairly by her, by her use of ever shifting criteria which I didn’t know about. And I felt I had no say in setting the standards by which I was to be judged; no input as to whether those criteria were fair or not.
or put another way, men are from Mars, women from Venus??
Men and women are different. Not PC to say in today’s world, but the two sexes are different in their behaviors and outlooks on things.
They don't believe in absolutes. They love being the arbiter of “absolute relativeness,” because it can always make you “wrong.”
I have dated such a lady, and she was crazy.
Of course, your Mrs. Dilbert was not the lady I dated.
I’d go further: male and female brains work differently. Every one of those useless academic pinheads that think men and women are really identical and interchangeable are fools.
In a good marriage, these differences supplement and enhance - but we are definitely different.
In my experience and ymmv, but men tend to want to act like real jerks and then forget about it. I find it impossible to “move on” if I’ve been yelled at, cussed at, insulted, publicly humiliated, called ugly names had things thrown at me, been stuck in a car during a road rage incident- none of this is shelter worthy abuse but it’s pretty impossible to live with.
I have no idea if this was your habit or anyone else’s on this board, but, it seems like us venusians get blamed for harboring bad thoughts and blames and I just don’t think it’s reasonable for a man to do the above and have us somehow not care.
Just my observations and not just personal.