Posted on 09/08/2019 5:54:09 AM PDT by rickmichaels
Edited on 09/08/2019 6:04:34 AM PDT by Admin Moderator. [history]
I knew a woman who was married to a professional man. He worked hard, long hours, was always inventive, creative. He was a dedicated father; she demanded it, for sure, but even beyond that, he was all in and was an extremely active dad. She didn’t like to cook, didn’t think it was her job, so he learned how. She didn’t like to tidy up, and he was no Mr. Clean, but he gave it a go. She wanted him to be compliant, yet resilient, and he tried to be all of the things she wanted. He even pretty well achieved it. He’d come so far that he sent us all a poem about how to appease the women in his house, who wanted him to leave the toilet seat down, he learned to pee sitting down. What a mensch! Only, in the end, she tired of his acquiescence and left him for a belligerent roofer 10 years her junior.
The New York Post took aim yesterday at a study called “Mismatches in the Marriage Market” in the Journal of Marriage and Family, that explains that women often don’t marry because there is a dearth of marriageable men. Apparently, the definition of marriageable is “makes 58% more money than any of the dudes available right now.” The “patriarchy” used to keep men and women in their places, and now that women are achieving at higher rates than men, it’s still the “patriarchy” that is keeping everyone from being happy.
In the old system, women went to college to find husbands or got jobs as receptionists at law offices to marry an esquire before quitting the job market to take on the dual roles of housewife and mother. This imbalance in earnings and status was deemed to be just no good for the female half of the species, who ended up poorly educated, often jilted in middle-age, and back in the workforce without even a pretty face to get by.
Plus, men were not great. They lacked emotion, they were too focused on careers, ambition, status, fulfilling the role of provider. The patriarchy had done these dudes a bad turn, had made them so concerned with achieving the masculine ideal that they didn’t measure up to what their women wanted or needed. And women were stuck with the status quo.
A big push was made for women to go get more from life, husbands, love, family, all that stuff paled in comparison to what was achievable if women buckled down, hit the books, and entered the capitalist machine as worker bees eager for their own honey. Great, why not? Go get it, girl.
And they did get it. Under equity feminism, more women have college degrees than ever before, more women are successful in their fields, yet more women are unable to find suitable matches because men, it turns out, just can’t measure up to women’s expectations. Again.
If you’re one of the single ladies out there, this will not be a surprise. I cannot count how many intelligent, independent, attractive, [bleep] women I know who can’t find a guy they want to spend more than one night with, and even that is a stretch.
For a while, women were complaining that guys were afraid of commitment, that women couldn’t find a man who wanted a real relationship, babies, the works. But somewhere along the line, when the college degrees were awarded in greater quantity to the fairer sex, ladies began to have a different complaint. I started to hear friends carp about guys who wanted more than a hook-up, guys who wanted their time and attention when not rolling in hay as well. Why, just last night, a good friend, independent, hot, confident, all of that, told me she had to cut a guy loose because he was texting her asking how her day went instead of simply reaching out to find a suitable time for sex.
Is it any wonder that women out there who want to get hitched can’t find anyone suitable to hitch their wagon to? Guys have been overtaken by female accomplishments (kudos, ladies), and still have no idea what women want. A hookup? A commitment? A high earner? A hard worker? A partner? A housewife?
Women didn’t like how men were, so they demanded they change. Men changed, and now that they have, women don’t like what they’ve changed into. Women want soft, emotional, high achieving, career focused tough guys who don’t get angry, remember anniversaries, bring flowers, and can splurge on expensive meals and trips, without working all weekend, and still make it to little Johnny’s ballet recitals.
Contemporary woke feminism doesn’t care about equality. It demands that men strip themselves of their toxic masculinity, their desire to compete and achieve, to become more stereotypically femme, so that women don’t have to do all the emotional heavy lifting. Okay. But on the other hand, women want men to be high-achieving, breadwinning earners, who are professionally successful, and, if Tinder is any indication, taller than them as well.
The only problem is that these toxic characteristics are essential for success in the marketplace. When men let them go, all those things that these traits facilitated fall by the wayside as well. Men are emasculated for not achieving just as they are demeaned for those attributes that enable achievement. Wtf, yo?
Why not just let men be men with all of their bumbling, masculine, competitive energy? The truth is that most women want the opposite of a woke Gillette ad. They want high-achieving, strong men to be partners with. Even if they don’t know that they want that, or don’t want to admit to it, reality reveals they sure as hell do. Otherwise, no intelligent woman who got her man to do everything she claimed she wanted, including coming up with an ingenious way to make sure the toilet seat was permanently in her preferred position, would leave him for someone who promised nothing but stereotypical masculinity.
Good article. I am so glad not to be in the dating cesspool these days. Thanks, Feminists! I mean, thank you sincerely for paving the way so I could have a career and a family and can be totally self-sufficient - though on second thought, I think it was my Grandmas and Mom who taught me all of that by example!
I’ve had BOTH ends of the spectrum - a really GOOD husband who I didn’t appreciate in my youth and a really AWFUL husband that just about took me down with him.
Heading into 60, I have the most remarkable man in my life. We make each other feel like teenagers, but with the wisdom that age brings - so we don’t ACT like teenagers. ;)
Thanks for posting this. It is helping me with courage.
I am getting ready for church. I was planning on asking the minister for a meeting to discus my sons are getting discouraged by churches. The backdrop is in this church in the last five years on Mothers Day there have been four largely encouraging Mothers Day sermons and one on child raising. On the corresponding Fathers Days? None. On one of them the pastor stepped away from the pulpit at the start of the sermon to give his “opinion” on Fathers Day. It was that what you do is more important than what you say. I telling this to an older guy in a hospice who was a steady church goer from another church. He thought about it and said he couldn’t ever remember hearing a Fathers Day sermon.
From the pulpit, men are corrected and rebuked while women are encouraged. The opposite almost ever occurs. Any time a women sin is discussed, there is an obligatory “men are partially responsible”. The reverse is never true. This is not tending to one’s sheep. Any shepherd knows, you don’t give only water to the female sheep and only food to the male sheep.
There is no discussion on single mothers. I have only heard the term once which was immediately followed with “they have been abandoned by men.” I wanted to stand up and shout “and some of them have been abandoned by five guys”.
Given 10 divorces, 7 are filed by females, 3 by males. How many of the female filed divorces are biblically justified? How many are brought about by unrealistic expectations due to social media, TV, and movies?
Me Too? It boils down to bribery with sex as opposed to money. If someone is bribed both are guilty.
Women live longer than men. If the reverse was true do you think there would be incessant demands for more money to solve the problem? As it is, nothing.
Thanks for encouraging me.
I married a later boomer, and found my Mrs. Cleaver. They are still out there, but they are difficult to find in the over populated urban centers. My Mrs Cleaver wasn’t into the bar and disco scene, she enjoyed the trips to the county and antique shops. She makes great pies and cakes weekly and keeps the plumbing working (LOL!). There was once many like her around, today they are a rarity. Neither of us is demanding, she even puts up with me throwing my dirty underwear into the wicker storage box next to the hamper. Hey, gotta give me some slack, I’m older than that kid, Joe Biden, and the crazy Commie.
Thus, after the initial romance begins to wane with their new man, they can begin the process once again!
It’s the perfect storm:
1. My feelings are extremely important to me
2. I often don’t understand my feelings
3. I expect YOU to understand my feelings
4. If you don’t? I’ll make you sorry
5. But if you DO be a man and help MAKE me understand them, then you’re being hyper-willfull and there’s a huge, well-oiled machine of councilors, therapists, lawyers and judges who will help me to understand how you’re being a dictator when you do that
6. I’ll take half your stuff, bad-mouth you to your kids and you’ll barely ever see them
Nah, think I’ll play some more X-box
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I have a buddy like that. First marriage to a white US wife ended in divorce. 2nd marriage to a conservative Asian immigrant. They seem to be getting along well. She was already here with citizenship and a job, not a stereotypical “catalog bride”.
He’s done with feminists.
LOL, brutal but true.
A store has just opened in New York City that offered free husbands. When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance:
“You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors to choose from. You may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you CANNOT go back down except to exit the building!
So, a woman goes to the store to find a husband. On the 1st floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs
The 2nd floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.
The 3rd floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids and are extremely Good Looking.
“Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the 4th floor and sign reads: Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.
“Oh, mercy me!” she exclaims. “I can hardly stand it!” Still, she goes to the 5th floor and sign reads: Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, help with Housework and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the Sign reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 71,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that you are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
To avoid gender bias charges, the store’s owner opened a Wife Store just across the street.
The 1st first floor has wives that love sex.
The 2nd floor has wives that love sex and have money.
The 3rd through 6th floors have never been visited.... ""
Funny tendencies now in ice-skating and violinists, cellists:
There are plenty of white ones, but more and more they are ASIAN.
That's because first blacks shunned marriage, now more whites do. And Asians, even lower middle-class ones, still do get married as do almost all weathy ones.
Playing those instruments or getting carted to ice-skating practice, it's NOT like 2-on-2 pickup at the back-alley basketball hoop, it's requires HEAVY parental involvement.
So no blacks and fewer honkies, now. A blind guess is that in 20 years it will be over 90% asian.
males get woke, MEN don't...
” and a wife who did the same, even calling him “Mr. Wiggins”, rather than by his first name”
Weird as heck. No thanks.
First of all, there’s a simple solution to the toilet seat problem, which doesn’t only afflict men married to feminists: it’s called good aim.
Secondly and more important: happily for me, I’m long out of the dating market, but my kids are either in it or only recently out. From my observation of them and the kids of my friends, my own diagnosis is that women want exactly what they’ve always wanted: actual men. It’s only the ridiculous media that say women want all these foolish things. When an actual man comes along, with a pair of balls, maybe even a veteran with combat experience, who looks like he faces the world unafraid, and is capable of making a decent living and acting like a mature adult, he has NOOOOO problem finding dates, girlfriends, and a potential wife.
Men should just disbelieve the nonsense they hear and see, from Gillete commercials etc., and be men. The rest of it will take care of itself.
Now there's something just a little off-putting about a big cardboard box of cheap wine in a refrigerator with a spigot coming out of it. Reminds me of the days of my childhood when my mother filled the refrigerator with quivering jello molds. In the fashion of the day, she'd usually put bits of lettuce or celery into the jello molds. Then it would be presented as a "healthy dessert."
Even 40 years later, I gag thinking about seeing those jello molds in that refrigerator.
If she thinks it’s bad now, wait until sex robots are perfected. No price will be to high to not have to put up with elevated female wokeness.
For me one of the weirdest and most tragic new things is the strengthening correlation between wealth and marriage.
Since the beginning of time there have been wealth inequities, even really crazy ones, but ALL got married; the King, the shoe-cobbler, the share-cropper.
It was a force that brought ALL people together, a common touchstone, something all understood.
Now?
No, if you do not make it into at least the upper middle-class the odds are strong you will never be married.
Kids? Maybe, though perhaps you barely know them.
Marriage? No.
I neeeever pictured marriage as being akin to taking fancy vacations or having a high-end sports car.
Yep, They always go after the “bad boys” with the intentions of “fixing” them. Then once they are fixed and not bad boys anymore, they get bored and go looking for a new bad boy to fix. This subconscious inherent drive to perpetually “fix” men is the problem. Seen it happen over and over many times.
Manliness has been beaten out of young men just as feminism was beaten out of young women.
Those who influenced our culture have done a number on both genders. #DeepState professors were already in place to subvert impressionable youth and our politicians enabled student loans at the same time so anyone could attend. Everyone did.
From there, it was just a question of time. The NWO needs a messed up populace to accomplish their agenda which is one world government. Globalism.
The only antidote is MAGA. It will take decades to undo the damage to American society. We need to stand united to accomplish what needs to be done.
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