Posted on 09/08/2019 5:54:09 AM PDT by rickmichaels
Edited on 09/08/2019 6:04:34 AM PDT by Admin Moderator. [history]
I knew a woman who was married to a professional man. He worked hard, long hours, was always inventive, creative. He was a dedicated father; she demanded it, for sure, but even beyond that, he was all in and was an extremely active dad. She didn’t like to cook, didn’t think it was her job, so he learned how. She didn’t like to tidy up, and he was no Mr. Clean, but he gave it a go. She wanted him to be compliant, yet resilient, and he tried to be all of the things she wanted. He even pretty well achieved it. He’d come so far that he sent us all a poem about how to appease the women in his house, who wanted him to leave the toilet seat down, he learned to pee sitting down. What a mensch! Only, in the end, she tired of his acquiescence and left him for a belligerent roofer 10 years her junior.
The New York Post took aim yesterday at a study called “Mismatches in the Marriage Market” in the Journal of Marriage and Family, that explains that women often don’t marry because there is a dearth of marriageable men. Apparently, the definition of marriageable is “makes 58% more money than any of the dudes available right now.” The “patriarchy” used to keep men and women in their places, and now that women are achieving at higher rates than men, it’s still the “patriarchy” that is keeping everyone from being happy.
In the old system, women went to college to find husbands or got jobs as receptionists at law offices to marry an esquire before quitting the job market to take on the dual roles of housewife and mother. This imbalance in earnings and status was deemed to be just no good for the female half of the species, who ended up poorly educated, often jilted in middle-age, and back in the workforce without even a pretty face to get by.
Plus, men were not great. They lacked emotion, they were too focused on careers, ambition, status, fulfilling the role of provider. The patriarchy had done these dudes a bad turn, had made them so concerned with achieving the masculine ideal that they didn’t measure up to what their women wanted or needed. And women were stuck with the status quo.
A big push was made for women to go get more from life, husbands, love, family, all that stuff paled in comparison to what was achievable if women buckled down, hit the books, and entered the capitalist machine as worker bees eager for their own honey. Great, why not? Go get it, girl.
And they did get it. Under equity feminism, more women have college degrees than ever before, more women are successful in their fields, yet more women are unable to find suitable matches because men, it turns out, just can’t measure up to women’s expectations. Again.
If you’re one of the single ladies out there, this will not be a surprise. I cannot count how many intelligent, independent, attractive, [bleep] women I know who can’t find a guy they want to spend more than one night with, and even that is a stretch.
For a while, women were complaining that guys were afraid of commitment, that women couldn’t find a man who wanted a real relationship, babies, the works. But somewhere along the line, when the college degrees were awarded in greater quantity to the fairer sex, ladies began to have a different complaint. I started to hear friends carp about guys who wanted more than a hook-up, guys who wanted their time and attention when not rolling in hay as well. Why, just last night, a good friend, independent, hot, confident, all of that, told me she had to cut a guy loose because he was texting her asking how her day went instead of simply reaching out to find a suitable time for sex.
Is it any wonder that women out there who want to get hitched can’t find anyone suitable to hitch their wagon to? Guys have been overtaken by female accomplishments (kudos, ladies), and still have no idea what women want. A hookup? A commitment? A high earner? A hard worker? A partner? A housewife?
Women didn’t like how men were, so they demanded they change. Men changed, and now that they have, women don’t like what they’ve changed into. Women want soft, emotional, high achieving, career focused tough guys who don’t get angry, remember anniversaries, bring flowers, and can splurge on expensive meals and trips, without working all weekend, and still make it to little Johnny’s ballet recitals.
Contemporary woke feminism doesn’t care about equality. It demands that men strip themselves of their toxic masculinity, their desire to compete and achieve, to become more stereotypically femme, so that women don’t have to do all the emotional heavy lifting. Okay. But on the other hand, women want men to be high-achieving, breadwinning earners, who are professionally successful, and, if Tinder is any indication, taller than them as well.
The only problem is that these toxic characteristics are essential for success in the marketplace. When men let them go, all those things that these traits facilitated fall by the wayside as well. Men are emasculated for not achieving just as they are demeaned for those attributes that enable achievement. Wtf, yo?
Why not just let men be men with all of their bumbling, masculine, competitive energy? The truth is that most women want the opposite of a woke Gillette ad. They want high-achieving, strong men to be partners with. Even if they don’t know that they want that, or don’t want to admit to it, reality reveals they sure as hell do. Otherwise, no intelligent woman who got her man to do everything she claimed she wanted, including coming up with an ingenious way to make sure the toilet seat was permanently in her preferred position, would leave him for someone who promised nothing but stereotypical masculinity.
Why the media keeps pushing the feminist movement as if it is alive and real confounds me. As a matter of fact, feminism is gone and the only way to make it look alive is to use the complicit media portrayals of weak mean in every facet of media. Women, by large majority, desire strong males.
What was feminism REALLY about?
1. Making female work TAXABLE
2. Getting OTHERS to take care of your kids
3. Getting your kids into centers for secular, Gummint indoctrination
4. Getting your kids away from God
5. Diminishing white fertility
6. Replacing ethnicities impeding the growth of government
Divide
Feminists have spent decades telling women to act like men, ignore their motherly instincts, and that hypergamy doesn’t exist.
Holy crap! Are those the stars of “Sex and the City”? I’ve heard of the show but have never seen it. Yikes! They are not what I was expecting. Fascia bruta!
There are 2 types of women ... the marrying kind and the other kind.
The marrying kind are few and currently decreasing.
Smart guys stay single today.
No need to bring the govt into relationships.
Feminism is destroying our culture ... rapidly.
When the war is finally fought and won there will be no 19th amendment.
Too many Millennial women are lazy and expect their husbands to do EVERYTHING. Those marriages will not end well.
The nod should be to Dr. Laura, who used it in The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands
I've travelled to places like Brazil, Russia and China - and indeed, women in those places act like, well, women.
LOL!
LOL! Yes!
I hope all the old lonely feminists enjoy their cats.
Many women are starved for a traditional male/female relationship. They want the man in their life to be strong, self-sufficient and a reliable bread-winner and life companion. Men can improve their prospects by removing the backward's ball-cap and putting on normal clothes (ditch the sneakers and the football jerseys). Then get a reliable full-time job so you are not living with your mom, driving around in your dad's hand-me-down car. Learn to do your own laundry and also learn how to cook a decent meal that doesn't include using a microwave oven. Men that can't cook and clean for themselves..that's a sign of weakness. Women don't want to take your mom's place - they want to be your lover, your companion, the mother of your children.
And for crying out loud, retire those video games. Put them in the yard sale with the GI Joes and the DC comic books. Nothing screams "immature boy" to a woman louder than a grown man playing a child's video game.
And the strangest thing about it is that his actual name was Hernando Ramirez.
Truer words not spoken on this thread.
Pride destroys everything.
The toughest job in the world is rearing a loving family with a fear in the Lord, and a willingness to submit your will to the betterment of the family.
Women splash cash like it’s water these days & are addicted to facebook and other digital garbage with a false reality. And men just act like drunken fools full of anger these days with no self control.
It’s recipe for disaster and we’re reaping it as a society.
Well said Sam.
I killed my tv more than 10 years ago.
>>I am getting ready for church. I was planning on asking the minister for a meeting to discus my sons are getting discouraged by churches. The backdrop is in this church in the last five years on Mothers Day there have been four largely encouraging Mothers Day sermons and one on child raising. On the corresponding Fathers Days? None. On one of them the pastor stepped away from the pulpit at the start of the sermon to give his “opinion” on Fathers Day. It was that what you do is more important than what you say. I telling this to an older guy in a hospice who was a steady church goer from another church. He thought about it and said he couldn’t ever remember hearing a Fathers Day sermon.<<
There’s a blogger called Dalrock who spends a bit of time covering how feminists have taken over churches.
https://dalrock.wordpress.com/
In a nutshell, a preacher can get away with criticizing men. But if he dares to criticize women, or even any particular woman, for anything, then the women will walk out and take their tithe money with them. Even if married. If the wife says “we’re finding another church”, the husband generally complies.
Preaching is a BUSINESS. The preacher either says what gets the most PAYING customers in the seats, or he goes bust and has to go find another line of work. And preaching is easier work than lawn care.
“Women splash cash like it’s water these days & are addicted to facebook and other digital garbage with a false reality. And men just act like drunken fools full of anger these days with no self control.”
Very well put. The divide has become more pronounced due to these habits, yet we can’t move forward without adjusting them back to a normal that seems to fleet further away. It’s either going to be an autocorrection, IMO, or total destruction of society and family life as we have known it. I understand that culture and society changes, but it’s happening at a quicker pace than we can adjust for under this current technological revolution.
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