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I hope I honored my late wife's memory properly

Posted on 02/04/2024 1:54:47 PM PST by CMS

I recently lost my wife of 16 years to cardiac failure. Her loss has been devastating. We had a fight before we went to bed and our last words were not pleasant. When the alarm went off and I rolled over and saw her laying there eyes open and motionless, I knew I lost her. I'd give ANYTHING to tell her that I 'm sorry for the fight and to tell her that I love her one more time.

I called 911 and everyone showed up, and I was treated like a criminal that potentially murdered her for 3 hours until the coroner arrived and said it was cardiac failure. After that was said everyone's demeanor towards me changed and they became more sympathetic.

She always loved the beach and we went every chance we got. One of her happiest memories was when we were on a beach at Montego Bay Jamacia

I went with a beach theme for her urn, so now I feel she's forever at the beach



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1 posted on 02/04/2024 1:54:47 PM PST by CMS
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To: CMS

How nice. An urn that celebrates the joy of you both


2 posted on 02/04/2024 1:56:54 PM PST by Chickensoup
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To: CMS

She hears you.


3 posted on 02/04/2024 1:57:11 PM PST by Bookshelf
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To: CMS

I’m sorry for your loss. Looking down from heaven, I’m sure your wife understands you’re sorry about the fight. God bless you and lift you up in your time of grief.


4 posted on 02/04/2024 1:57:39 PM PST by EvilCapitalist (Pets are no substitute for children)
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You did the best you could. Nobody can ask more from you than that.
Your relatives did you wrong and owe you an apology, if they have not given you one.


5 posted on 02/04/2024 1:57:57 PM PST by Jonty30 (In a nuclear holocaust, there is always a point in time where the meat is cooked to perfection. )
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So very sorry


6 posted on 02/04/2024 1:57:58 PM PST by combat_boots
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To: CMS

It’s beautiful...


7 posted on 02/04/2024 1:58:57 PM PST by LibertyWoman (America, the Handwriting is on the Wall. )
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To: CMS

I’m sorry for your loss, prayers up.


8 posted on 02/04/2024 2:01:49 PM PST by VTenigma (Conspiracy theory is the new "spoiler alert")
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To: CMS

I lost my Mother suddenly 2 years ago. I have been taking care of my dad since then so I understand.


9 posted on 02/04/2024 2:03:49 PM PST by cowboyusa (YESHUA IS KING OF AMERICA! DEATH TO MARXISM AND LEFTISM! AMERICA, COWBOY UP!)
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Mrs L and I have an agreement. No matter what kind of a day we’ve had, no matter how much one has pissed off the other, the last words we say to each other at the end of the day are “I love you.”

Nothing is guaranteed.

L


10 posted on 02/04/2024 2:04:29 PM PST by Lurker ( Peaceful coexistence with the Left is not possible. Stop pretending that it is.)
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To: CMS

Please accept my condolences and prayers for your consolation and peace.


11 posted on 02/04/2024 2:08:01 PM PST by pax_et_bonum (“Killer rabbit jokes have a long tradition in medieval literature.“ - Dr. James Wade)
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Wow. My dad went through a similar event. He got up one Saturday and went about his morning routine. He went to wake up my mom about 8 AM and she was cold. He called 911 and when the cops showed up they were really ugly to him accusing him of all kinds of things until the paramedics showed up. The paramedics convinced the cops that she had overdosed on sleeping pills. Very bad day.


12 posted on 02/04/2024 2:08:16 PM PST by Texas resident (Biden=Obama=Jarrett=Soros)
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i think there was a misunderstanding.

All the police, EMTs, etc were the ones treating me like a criminal

My relatives were very supportive. My aunt who lost her husband to cancer flew out here to spend a few days with me for support and my mother came too.

13 posted on 02/04/2024 2:09:40 PM PST by CMS (I have not heard any politicians say how to take away guns from criminals, just law abiding citizens)
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I am so sorry for your loss, and your sadness/regret about that last fight.

My wife and I are old now, and one day one of us will wake up and the other will not. We have tried to never go to bed angry, or with the last words being unpleasant, because ... you never know.

Your story touched me deeply, and strengthened my resolve to have our last words of the day be loving.

I pray that your sorrow eases and that you are able to find peace of mind and comfort in the way that you honored your wife's memory.

14 posted on 02/04/2024 2:09:48 PM PST by dayglored (Strange Women Lying In Ponds Distributing Swords! Arthur Pendragon in 2024)
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Easy to say and hard to do. Loose the guilt and remember the good times. Time heals but it takes a hell of a long time.


15 posted on 02/04/2024 2:10:50 PM PST by sasquatch (Do NOT forget Ashli Babbit! c/o piytar)
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I’m so very sorry for your loss and believe you have shown her great love and honor. Forgive yourself, Love yourself. That is the best thing you can continue to do for her memory.


16 posted on 02/04/2024 2:11:12 PM PST by navymom1
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To: CMS

So sorry for your loss.


17 posted on 02/04/2024 2:11:21 PM PST by HandBasketHell
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> Mrs L and I have an agreement. No matter what kind of a day we’ve had, no matter how much one has pissed off the other, the last words we say to each other at the end of the day are “I love you.”

Yes, yes, and yes. (See my comment #14).

18 posted on 02/04/2024 2:12:38 PM PST by dayglored (Strange Women Lying In Ponds Distributing Swords! Arthur Pendragon in 2024)
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I called 911 and everyone showed up, and I was treated like a criminal that potentially murdered her for 3 hours until the coroner arrived...

Deeply, DEEPLY disturbing.

Condolences to you for your loss.

19 posted on 02/04/2024 2:13:37 PM PST by logi_cal869 (-cynicus the "concern troll" a/o 10/03/2018 /!i!! &@$%&*(@ -)
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Each time my lovely wife and I have “words” I then pray it will not be our last. Something to think about...

Very sorry for your loss.


20 posted on 02/04/2024 2:15:37 PM PST by devane617 (Discipline Is Reliable, Motivation Is Fleeting..)
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