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Fight over woman's feeding tube leaves husband's life in limbo (Terri Schiavo)
Salt Lake Tribune ^ | Nov. 1, 2003 | Abby Goodnough , NYT

Posted on 11/02/2003 9:47:19 AM PST by FairOpinion

CLEARWATER, Fla. -- Michael Schiavo is 6 feet 6 inches, with a scrub-brush mustache and a gold chain bearing the crosses his parents wore. He is a nurse who works the graveyard shift, often pulling into his driveway as his neighbors walk their dogs in the moist Florida dawn. He has a meticulously kept yard, a screened-in pool where his friends sometimes gather, a golden retriever, a girlfriend and a year-old daughter.

"My brother is a normal guy who this tragedy happened to," said Brian Schiavo, one of the four brothers with whom Schiavo shared an unremarkable childhood in Levittown, Pa., near Philadelphia.

But because of the tragedy of Schiavo's wife, Terri, 39, who suffered brain damage when she collapsed one night 13 years ago, Michael Schiavo is also at the center of one of the most debated court cases in the nation. He wants to remove her feeding tube, paving the way for her death against the wishes of her parents and supporters who have rallied to their cause.

For this, Schiavo, 40, has been depicted as a heartless fiend.

As the case has gained prominence in recent months, Schiavo has all but refused to tell his side of the story publicly or answer the charges that his in-laws, and people who have never met him, keep leveling. Through his brother Brian and his lawyer, George Felos, he declined to be interviewed for this article.

But as the latest round in the legal battle over Terri Schiavo's fate begins, her husband's friends and relatives are speaking out. They describe a man driven from his home by death threats, who avoids going out in public but for work and court dates. He will not divorce his wife, marry his new love and get on with life, they say, because of his determination to carry out his wife's wish not to live in a vegetative state.

"He's got ethics and values that most people don't have, much less the strength to adhere to them," said Russ Hyden, a friend who said Michael Schiavo supported him through his wife's death from cancer.

Schiavo was two years out of high school when he met Theresa Marie Schindler in 1982, at Bucks County Community College in Pennsylvania. She had been overweight and frumpy until her senior year of high school, when she started dieting, and Schiavo was her first boyfriend, her family said.

The couple married in 1984, and two years later, decided to move to St. Petersburg, Fla., into a condominium that Terri Schiavo's parents, Bob and Mary Schindler, owned.

When they were not working -- he as a restaurant manager, she as a clerk at Prudential -- they hung out by the pool at their apartment complex or in St. Pete Beach, thick with bars and dance clubs.

While Michael Schiavo's family describes those early years of the marriage as carefree, the Schindlers -- who moved to Florida around the time their daughter did -- say they became dark. Michael Schiavo was a penny pincher who kept track of the mileage on his wife's car and yelled at her for spending money on haircuts, they said.

The Schindlers say that on Feb. 25, 1990, Terri Schiavo told her brother that she and Schiavo had had a violent argument -- a claim Michael Schiavo denies. Michael Schiavo says his wife was asleep when he arrived home from work. In a rare interview on "Larry King Live," he said he awoke at 4:30 a.m. and heard a thud. It was his wife, whom he found on the floor, he said.

By the time paramedics arrived, Schiavo's heart had not pumped for perhaps 10 minutes, doctors found. The prevailing theory is that she had an undiagnosed potassium deficiency, possibly from extreme weight loss or even, her husband has said, bulimia. She had gone from more than 200 pounds in high school to 110 pounds.

The brain damage Schiavo suffered left her able to breathe on her own but not to ingest food or drink. Doctors have said she is in a persistent vegetative state, meaning her eyes are open, but her brain is incapable of emotion, memory or thought.

Brian Schiavo said his brother was determined to rehabilitate his wife.

Michael Schiavo flew his wife to California for treatment, sleeping on a cot beside her bed for a month. He began studying nursing, to take better care of her. He and his wife lived with the Schindlers for a while, and he filed a malpractice suit against Terri Schiavo's doctors for failing to diagnose her health problems. In November 1992, the Schiavos won $1 million in damages: $700,000 for her care, the rest for him.

When the check arrived, the war began. Both sides say that on Valentine's Day, 1993, Michael Schiavo and his father-in-law had an ugly fight in the nursing home where Terri Schiavo was then living. The Schindlers say the fight was about what kind of treatment the money would go toward, with them advocating rigorous therapy and Schiavo wanting only basic care. But Schiavo said it was because Schindler wanted a cut of the settlement.

Schiavo's belief that his wife would recover had evaporated by 1997, his supporters say, when he lost his mother to cancer. But the other side points out that as early as 1993, soon after he won the malpractice money, Michael Schiavo did not want to treat an infection his wife had developed and that he had stopped her rehabilitation even earlier.

Only after his mother's death did Schiavo tell his in-laws that on several occasions, his wife had said she would not want to be kept alive artificially. The timing of the revelation -- after he won the malpractice money and after he began seeing Jodi Centonze, with whom he would eventually have a child -- made the Schindlers deeply suspicious.

For a long time, the Schindlers accused Schiavo of wanting his wife dead so he could spend her settlement money. But Michael Schiavo's lawyer said all but $60,000 has been spent on medical care and legal fees, and that his client would not see a penny of what remains.

Brian Schiavo said his brother felt betrayed by everyone from the Schindlers to the news media to Gov. Jeb Bush, who used a law rushed through the Legislature recently to order Schiavo's feeding tube reinserted. Schiavo has sued to have the law ruled unconstitutional.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: crymeariver; itsallaboutmememe; schiavo; selfabsorbed; terri; terrischiavo
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To: stylin_geek; Hildy
We might be tempted to see another side if there was not money involved

There was also an amount of money that the husband said he would need to perform the tasks that he outlined. The lawsuit was for $20 million. The jury gave him 1/20th of what he asked for and only gave him 1/10th of what they themselves said it would take to care for Terri for 50 years and gave him less than 1/4th of the amount they themselves said he would need to treat Terri for 17 years. She has now been alive in this vegetative state for 13 years. Work the numbers, Terri got the most out of every dollar she received.

41 posted on 11/02/2003 10:51:46 AM PST by RGSpincich
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To: RGSpincich
One of the things nobody has ever discussed is why there was a malpractice suit in the first place.
42 posted on 11/02/2003 10:53:18 AM PST by Hildy
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To: FairOpinion
Note the point: "a girlfriend "

He's trying to hold onto the million. He has a girlfriend - despite his marriage vows.

/**Sarcasm mode ON

Gee, I wonder why he want's Terri dead????

/**Sarcasm mode OFF

43 posted on 11/02/2003 10:57:53 AM PST by neutrino (Oderint dum metuant: Let them hate us, so long as they fear us.)
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To: FairOpinion
He is a nurse who works the graveyard shift, often pulling into his driveway as his neighbors walk their dogs in the moist Florida dawn. He has a meticulously kept yard, a screened-in pool where his friends sometimes gather, a golden retriever, a girlfriend and a year-old daughter

Got to keep up appearances for the courts ya know!

If he wants his "life", he should give Terris parents custody - AND the MONEY to care for her...THEN go on about "HIS" business.

He would not have the money if Terri was not disabled..

So the SOB can give it up if he wants a "new" life...
44 posted on 11/02/2003 10:59:10 AM PST by Roughneck (9 out of 10 Terrorists prefer Democrats, the rest prefer Saddam Hussein)
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To: Hildy
The malpractice jury held Terri 70% responsible for her own collapse and subsequent vegetative state.
45 posted on 11/02/2003 11:00:05 AM PST by RGSpincich
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To: FairOpinion
For this, Schiavo, 40, has been depicted as a heartless fiend

It is what he IS!!!!!!!

Give up the money if you are "for real"

Hope his "supporters" read this/....
46 posted on 11/02/2003 11:00:29 AM PST by Roughneck (9 out of 10 Terrorists prefer Democrats, the rest prefer Saddam Hussein)
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To: Hildy
The malpractice suit is for the missed diagnosis of the chemical imbalance that caused her collapse.
47 posted on 11/02/2003 11:00:46 AM PST by Conservative Me
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To: Hildy
Oh gee Hildy--you're a little socialist-democrat aren't you?

The man is a PIG!!!!

And so are his supporters!
48 posted on 11/02/2003 11:03:52 AM PST by Roughneck (9 out of 10 Terrorists prefer Democrats, the rest prefer Saddam Hussein)
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To: MHGinTN
That's why I think living wills are pretty risky --- what if you change your mind but your heirs won't let you?
49 posted on 11/02/2003 11:07:59 AM PST by FITZ
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To: FITZ
This situation is worse. There is no living will. I never knew courts would allow this (removal of a feeding tube) to happen without one.

My feeling is, though, that if you put it in your Will you must have been pretty sure of your wishes, and if your heirs are worthy, they would put your wishes before their inheritance anyway.
50 posted on 11/02/2003 11:10:52 AM PST by Conservative Me
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To: Conservative Me
But he has gone on with his life. He is a parent and his wife is not!
51 posted on 11/02/2003 11:15:50 AM PST by Mfkmmof4
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To: FITZ
I have no idea about community property laws in FL, but I think everyone may be forgetting that possibility. for those who can't understand why he doesn't just walk away, it may just be those self same community property laws. Terri may just be entitled to half of everything he owns, including the new house he bought with "his" half of the settlement money. Understand it has a pool and he drives a BMW.
52 posted on 11/02/2003 11:19:32 AM PST by texaslil
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To: Hildy
With a heart as cold as yours, I can see how the comparison regarding 'finality of casual comment' does escape you.
53 posted on 11/02/2003 11:27:04 AM PST by MHGinTN (If you can read this, you've had life support from someone. Promote life support for others.)
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To: texaslil
I post on another board and I have been called hypocritical because I support this woman's being allowed to die without being starved to death. But can someone show where it says why she was resuscitated after 10 minutes. That is the arugmenet being used against me to say God decided then that she died but was brought back. I cannot backup any claims otherwise right now!
54 posted on 11/02/2003 11:29:43 AM PST by Mfkmmof4
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To: FITZ
they said.

Could someone tell me who this They Said person is? Seem he always knows the truth about everything, but never has any proof.

55 posted on 11/02/2003 11:30:32 AM PST by org.whodat
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To: Hildy
"YES, the tragedy happened to him too. "

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A neruologist, who examined Terri and looked at her previous medical record said on FoxNews that Terri absolutely did NOT have a heart attack, but there was "trauma to the neck" or something to that effect.

Sounds to me like her dear husband tried to strangle her, but she survived, then he sued the doctors, and got $250K for HIMSELF, and $750K for Terri's medical care, then AFTER he had the money in hand, he "suddenly remembered" that Terri told him that she wouldn't want to live in a coma ( which he never mentioned before to anyone).

Read the article again, carefully, please, before jumping to his defense.
56 posted on 11/02/2003 11:35:50 AM PST by FairOpinion
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To: FairOpinion
"He's got ethics and values that most people don't have,....."

Well, at least they got that one right.

57 posted on 11/02/2003 11:37:36 AM PST by dougherty (A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.)
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To: Hildy
It's not hard at all, Hildy. I respect your right to your oppinion, but for all of us that are older, and getting more halt and lame by the day, I can say, technology has made it possible to not only extend our lives, but make them more meaningful. it's simply a matter of degree as to what one considerers a meaningful life. Who knows what Terri might enjoy? As for MGHinTN, I'd suggest he save any bullets for better use. I, too, cannot walk without aid and once would have said I'd not want to be a cripple, but then I found I could still ride like the wind. Not only has a cane, a walker, a horse, and a cellphone set me free, but I bet I can now outrun you even at 64. As far as a bullet, I dare anyone to touch my horse.
58 posted on 11/02/2003 11:54:33 AM PST by texaslil
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To: Left_Coast_Conservative
I think you are exactly right! I have to go barf!
59 posted on 11/02/2003 11:55:04 AM PST by countrydummy
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To: Mfkmmof4
But can someone show where it says why she was resuscitated after 10 minutes.

Can someone tell me why MS has not been asked why he did not try to give her CPR during the 10 minutes? Why did he let her lie there while waiting for help? Why is this not asked?

60 posted on 11/02/2003 12:17:19 PM PST by blueriver
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