[Cronos]

not really parasites< if they pay their way> besides> this is the way families used to live until the industrial revolution __ a pretty long time

[kittymyrib]

Do you really think these enabling parents have the gumption to kick out these parasites? But I'm totally against these immature weaklings reproducing or the door-mat parents would be stuck with raising their grandchildren too. We are an increasingly sick society.

[Ciexyz]

I didn't see any mention of these young boarders paying rent. When I got a full time job after college, my parents discussed with me the necessity of paying rent (in addition to the chores that I had been doing.) That seemed reasonable to me, and we had that arrangement till I found my own apartment a few years later.

[radiohead]

not really parasites< if they pay their way> besides> this is the way families used to live until the industrial revolution __ a pretty long time

I agree. My 20 something is home w/me. As a widow, I have to say I appreciate a male (an armed male) around the house. He works, he pays rent, does his own laundry, pays his student loans, and wouldn't think of having his friends stay overnight w/o asking me.

We have a good partnership, but that's because I'm still the parent. I don't expect any mouth or mess in my own house.

And, as I've told him, you don't like it here, you can always leave. I'll help you pack. But, if they don't want to leave, I think you have every right to set the rules in your own home and expect them to be obeyed. Adult children who don't want to follow the rules should be given 2 weeks to find an apartment and shown the door.

And yes, I often make his lunch. No biggie, and at least I know he's eating decent food. : ) (it's a mom thing)