Why is there a bias against interracial dating?

AJC ^ | 1/10/04 | AJC

[cyborg]

After reading this article, I'm more happy than ever that I was raised in home without American race based drama. My mom was shocked that interracial marriage was illegal when she first came to this country 1963. She's a West Indian creole woman herself, and my father is Italian. The only reason why black-white is such an issue is because of the past history between the two groups in this country. Either way, race was NEVER brought up in this home because I had two parents who had better things to do.

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[kingu]

The only time I hear of the issue of whites/blacks marrying, it is usually brought up by a black person complaining that the best black men turn against their race and marry white women.

It has never been an issue with anyone I've ever known.

[Gorzaloon]

Either way, race was NEVER brought up in this home because I had two parents who had better things to do.

Same here, and further, not ONE of us six children married another WASP. I have Black, Cherokee, Jewish, and Hispanic relatives as well. It makes family get togethers interesting and often quite funny.

I think it is a generational thing. The older generations may have been appalled, and this is learned behavior...

[cyborg]

Reading too much Terry McMillan books

[Sir Gawain]

That's not likely until power among the races is on a level playing field

I've never seen this "uneven playing field" that people keep talking about. Where is it?

[cyborg]

Things are very different. I'm glad I'm living in America today in the year 2004 where every last little issue doesn't divide along racial lines (no matter what the media says).

[kingu]

Reading too much Terry McMillan books

'fraid the name doesn't ring a bell, and being on a very slow dialup connection at the moment, googling to find out who it is doesn't really appeal at the moment. My experience has been listening to talk radio, where the topic will go on for hours and hours.

[cyborg]

Waiting to Exhale by Terry McMillan, the bible for the angry black female (and some wonder why they're still single) My experienc is the same with talk radio, esp. when I heard things like 'Kobe is guilty. What's he doing messing with white women?' :sigh:

[Trailerpark Badass]

I live across the street from two interacial couples; in Forsyth County, Georgia, no less. I haven't observed any of the neighbors treat them any differently than any other married couples.

They've been good neighbors so far; that's all I care about.

[fight_truth_decay]

..wrote "Waiting to Exhale"..became a movie with Whitney Houston and Angela Bassett. Then wrote "How Stella Got Her Groove Back" which became a movie with Whoopi Goldberg.

[Tailback]

I dated a black woman while in the army and my wife dated black men while she was in college. No big deal to me, but I have noticed an interesting dynamic. It's OK for whites (at least in Oregon) to date outside their race but god forbid a black or hispanic sees one of their daughters dating a white guy. My sister-in-law married a Mexican guy living in Nor-Cal but a good buddy of mine in my National Guard unit was seriously pissed about his daughter dating a non-mexican. It's kinda funny, I can't repeat what I told this guy cuz there's some serious "don't ask, don't tell implications" (guys that have been in all male combat units will probably get it) but we all had a good laugh about the double standard.

[cyborg]

How Stella Got Her Groove Back was actually good (I'd even recommend watching it. Whoopie stole the show as usual)... WTE was another story,long and drawn out.

[kingu]

Thanks for the info, I'll remember who to ignore if the name ever comes up in conversation. Then again, I come across a version of it in the American Indian community, with women complaining that the best men get taken by White women, and American Indian men complaining that the best women get taken by White men.

[gitmo]

I wasn't aware there was such a bias. Somehow I keep missing these memos.

[Jorge]

One of my older sisters dated a black guy during her rebellious stage and ended up marrying him.

My father who is from the south was very opposed to it, so my parents didn't attend the wedding, though the rest of us did and had no problem with it.

Though the marriage didn't last long, and she's remarried twice since (both white guys..so much for the "once you go black you never go back" cliche) it opened my eyes up to the degree of opposition against interracial couples.

I had a brother marry a Korean and another married a girl from Guam and my parents initially gave them both problems about it.

However, I've had many, if not mostly black friends during my life and found that there is a lot of opposition to interracial dating and marriage in the black community as well.

I think prefering one's own race is a natural tendency and doesn't necessarily mean that much otherwise.

[Sister_T]

At first, I wasn't going to respond to your post but your comments are something else.

You seem to be just as angry as those black females you accuse. Maybe some of those black women react the way they do because they are aware of history. It is a historial fact that SOME white women have falsely accused SOME black men of "wanting them" and the black men got hung or worse for it. Even in law, I believe it was Jared Taylor who brought up in his book, Paved With Good Intentions, that in rape cases, when the victim is black and the perp is black, the burden of proof is on the woman. When the victim is white, suddenly, the burden of proof SHIFTS to the black man to prove that he's innocent. With Kobe Bryant, why isn't the history of his "alleged" victim allowed to be considered? Maybe because it destroys the notion that SOME white women are as pure as snow as SOME white men have propped them up to be. But, I haven't been keeping up with the case so that might not even be relevant.

The sad truth is the history of blacks and whites in this country is bitter and painful. White women were right there with white men, discriminating against blacks, encouraging and defending the abuse of black men and women and, if you're black, you would know that. Maybe that's why so many of those so-called "angry black women" feel the way they do about black men who feel the need to chase down white women as if white women were the only women on the planet.

And before you "go there", I am a black woman who is happily married to a black man.

[Magno]

I do not about you guys, but I feel uncortable dating women of other ethnic background.

I can work with them and chat with people of other ethnicities, but when it comes to dating, I prefer someone similar to me.