[Mulder]

"Well, I had all the requisite security clearances and, in fact, there is some personal discretion that is allowed when you are in personal relationships,"

"Requisite security clearances" doesn't cut it. There is also a "need to know" requirement in addition to a sufficient clearance.

And there is NO discretion for personal relationships, even if you are married to the person.

[visualops]

Exactly. My Dad did top secret work in the Pentagon and his work was never discussed in any way shape or form. The Pentagon CounterIntelligence Agency checks out everyone, they even did a check on my first husband when I got married.
The notion that one has some sort of discretion to divulge top secret info/identities in a personal relationship is such a pile of crap.