Posted on 12/17/2004 9:25:01 AM PST by John Robertson
Thanks, that was an excellent point, that needed to made. Rather, an excellent distinction between levels of advice.
She needs professional care. This is not something that you can resolve with your daughter on her own. Young women anorexics and bulimics generally stop eating because they have a self-image problem. Its not just the way they look - its what goes on deep in their minds. Some women go to extremes to win and keep the love of a man and its sad as their desperation and insecurity drive the guy away. A woman who doesn't eat properly and isn't happy being who she is isn't sexually attractive to a man. I don't have a daughter so all I can really say is she needs more help than you can offer but let her knows she has your love and support. Good luck.
You are very welcome. You and your family will be in my prayers.
Commit her to a program IMMEDIATELY (against her will if need be) for folks suffering from eating disorders... Do not let her return to school.
I don't know where you are, but in the Pittsburgh, PA are Western Psych has a dedicated program for eating disorders.
Do not go into denial on this, not eating (or vomiting after eating) does incredible short and long term damage to your body. Get this taken care of immediately.
Very true, it may not be anorexia... sadly drugs are very real and prevalent today.
I agree treat her condition seriously, however I don't agree that you "treat her as the crown Jewel" statement. I know more than a few girls who basically use eating disorders for attention.... I doubt that is the case here given she is not at home... but I have met a few whos issues aren't really anorexia, but a compulsive need to be the center of their universe and attention of those around them, and use eating disorders to manipulate those around them.
These issues are SERIOUS! Get PROFESSIONAL HELP! Don't wing it.
You're very welcome! Please keep us informed.
Blessings
Tracy
Thanks for the ping Rob.
I don't know too much about this, but as far as any addiction goes I do know that the biggest step to recovery is admitting there is a problem and then seeking help which seems the case here. At this point, all I can say is for each person to try and understand the dynamics to their role in the before and after of addiction. Go gently on yourselves and each other and continue to respect the power of addiction and all that you need to do in it's recovery. God Bless you and Merry Christmas.
hey,
i am a 14 year old girl and i am suffering from the disease anorexia. i know i am a bit young to reply on this site but i was looking on the web and this turned up and i knew i had to do everything i could to help you.
Anorexia isnt just about gaining weight, its about not feeling good enough. our fears deep down are making mistakes, not being good enough for people and being judged. so with your daughter im going to speak first hand with this one. it might not be the best advice and im sure that the other people on this site have offered better but just some first hand experience.
for your daughter the most annoying thing would be people breathing down your necks looking at you funny and things like that. it jsut triggers us knowing that you cant control what your parents are doing but you can control whats not going into your mouth. im not saying reject your daughter by all means thats the worse thing you could do but give her some space maybe even give he a journal if shes not comforatble talking with anyone so she can write her feelings down adn get them off her chest. and listen to her.
when she talks dont suddenly look at her and wait breathlessly for when she next starts speaking. this could intimidate her and make her stop talking. when she talks listen. thats all you have got to do. dont look to casual but dont look to eager just find the right combination. and if she tells you shes dont this because she doesnt feel right dont rush in and tell her shes perfect and all that crap. it makes me feel like your not giving any thought to what im saying. so listen to what she has to say and then give her good advice not your perfect but something that would stick in her brain. if you tell someone something and thye immediately go ur perfect or it isnt your fault it makes them sound like they r oushing the words out and not actually meaning anyting. instead just ask why they feel that way and then just think about ur answers and think them throuh and give a detailed answer. maybe make a list of all the good things they have and whenver they feel bad then remid them what they r good at. dont list them like u mesmerised them though just say it naturally and make it sound like a natural thing not something you prepared infront of the mirror.
and slowly introduce more foods in her diet. slowly and gradually, just to introduce foods back in ehr diet. alright and ge ther medical help. go 2 the doctors that will listen because anorexia can take 7 years to recover so get help as soon as possible.
again im very sorry for your daughter i have been suffering from this disease for 3 years and i have reached a weight of 34kgs. i dont want to get better but i hate seeing other girls going through the same disease as me and im very sorry for your daughter and hope that my advice helped a little bit.
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