Posted on 02/07/2005 2:15:11 PM PST by KidGlock
Why Women Cheat
Expert Reveals Warning Signs
UPDATED: 10:18 am EST February 7, 2005
CLEVELAND -- When you think about cheating spouses, most people think about men, Cleveland television station WEWS reported.
The station reported that the latest trend has more women stepping out on their husbands, and found one story illustrating it.
She was a mother of three who had just celebrated her 10th wedding anniversary.
That night, she told her husband she was going out with her girlfriends. Instead, she went to meet her lover, the station reported.
Mike Lewis is a private investigator at Cleveland's Confidential Investigations Inc.
He has been in the surveillance business for almost a decade. And more husbands are calling him about their cheating wives.
"What they always say, the not knowing is the hardest part. And that's where we come in," Lewis said.
Another woman told her husband she was on a business trip. Instead, she flew to spend the weekend with her boyfriend, the station reported.
"Got 'em kissin," Lewis said.
After watching a video, her husband finally figured out why their marriage was on the rocks.
"Gotta be frustrating because you guys were trying to work it out," Lewis said.
Just how many married women have had sex with other men?
In 1991, researchers asked married women if they had cheated. Ten percent said yes. Compare that to 22 percent of married men who said they had cheated.
In 2002, researchers asked again. That number grew to 15 percent for women, while the percentage of men who cheated stayed the same.
"It's either something they're missing in their relationship, or it's how they're feeling about themselves," said Kathy Dawson, of the Marriage Movement.
Dawson is a relationship coach, the author of "Diagnosis Marriage" and "Cleveland Couples." She helps couples reconnect. Even after infidelity.
"No. 1, if your wife says, 'You don't listen to me.' Oh boy, that's a big signal. Women, No. 1, need is to feel listened to and validated," Dawson said.
A wife starved for attention at home can find herself in the arms of another man. Dawson said when husbands don't make wives feel good about themselves, watch out for the man who does.
"For a man, the most important thing he can do for his wife is to pay attention to her feelings, and listen to her. It doesn't mean he has to agree with everything she says. He just has to prove to her that he heard what she said," Dawson said.
Mike Lewis agrees. In his experience, he found that sometimes a cheating spouse may even let you know what's about to happen.
"Sometimes they do communicate before they cheat. Sometimes they say, 'I'm not getting this. I'm not getting that.' And it falls on deaf ears," Lewis said.
But in the end, the decision to cheat is made by only one person.
"Are you willing to pay the price? Because there is a price. There's the price of how you feel about yourself. If you have children, if they find out, how are they going to react? Sooner or later they're going to find out," Dawson said.
For the husbands mentioned in this story, the infidelity was too much for the marriage. Both divorced soon after. But cheating does not have to mean the end of a marriage.
"It's pretty devastating. Is it a deal killer? No. Are you going to have to work your tail off? Yes. Can you're marriage be stronger? Absolutely," Dawson said.
Who did the women cheat with?
"...Think I will go by the pound and pick up a few more cats ..."
Wait for me!
I would never browbeat my man in public. It's EMBARASSING. Besides women have other ways of making men behave anyway.
LOL!
Think about it. The government takes 30% of your pay, you get a divorce and than your ex takes another 30%. Now your working for 40% of your own money. Insanity.
Depends what you call cheating. Ask Clinton.
Ah, Jen ... it has.
I'm a husband and a father, BTW.
Please note that neither the statement you quoted nor yours said that all women or all men are that way, just the MSM culture has produced a lot of women unfit to be wives and mothers, and a lot of men incapable of being husbands and fathers.
Of course, as a dad, my main attention is focussed on making sure my kids aren't in that group, so I'd better get off FR and do some fathering ...
Correct. It takes work from both sides. I was married once.. it lasted 35 years until my wife succumbed to cancer. We had some rocky times, but were always able to work together to keep it alive. The divorce rate is very much a product of our society in which no one has to work for what they want, whether it is marriage, or wealth.
Too many male enhancement ads. Women today think the man is supposed to stay hard for 4 hours at a time.
I've been following him on that thread. LOL!
Mrs. Slim convinced me that all the appliances in the house were power tools. Now when she gets near the vacuum I saw, "Honey, you better let me handle this." :)
There's nothing funny about this.
Actually, her English improves dramatically when she needs money. I can understand her perfectly when she asks for a little cash.
LOL
Come to Butthead! LOL.
Even when they are speaking total gibberish, which is about 70% of the time? Of course, Freeperettes don't fall into this category, but that is a very small % of the female population of this country.
I've done a lot of research. :):)
Welllll....there's always Cialis.
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