Man allegedly locked girl in kennel

KSTP.com ^ | 2-9-05 | kstp news

[Rakkasan1]

St. Paul - A man who allegedly put a 13-year-old girl in a dog kennel for days at a time, hit her, read her diary, and strip searched her, was charged this week with unreasonable restraint of a child.

Eric Bare, 42, of St. Paul, admitted to child protection workers that he did lock the teenager in the kennel on two different occasions, once for three consecutive days, and once for seven consecutive days. Bare said that he "fixed up the kennel nice" and that it was "a suitable temporary living arrangement."

Bare is not the girl's father, but she called him dad, according to charges.

[LauraleeBraswell]

Breaking the institution of marriage down will occur in a breakdown in Society. Notice how it's the Dems who push this single mother and gay parent stuff.

[Dianna]

My intent is to stay single until my children are grown, but I don't think it is right for others to expect the single parents to stay that way.

I think it is lovely when a divorced person can find a good, strong relationship and bring another parent into the home. Unfortunately, there are a lot of occasions when single people, generally mothers, will move a loser boyfriend into the house. It does seem that live-in boyfriends are particularly dangerous to children.

You say that you intend to stay single and that is very admirable. I agree that it is likely a difficult and lonely thing to contemplate. But I assume that you are doing it because it is best for your children. Many people will not place their children ahead of themselves and will enter into just any kind of relationship to avoid being alone.

[Rudder]

Breaking the institution of marriage down will has occurred in a breakdown in Society.

[Rudder]

It does seem that live-in boyfriends are particularly dangerous to children.

Don't overlook the fact that data clearly show, when it comes to child abouse, mothers are the leading the pack.

[Katy_Katarina]

are said that he "fixed up the kennel nice" and that it was "a suitable temporary living arrangement."

From some of the women hating threads that have been going on in here, I'm inclined to think that most men think this is OK to do. Course the 'cage' would be the house that they fixed up 'nice'....

[savedbygrace]

I'm not suggesting that this mitigates what they did to the 13YO at all, but I foresee their defense will be along the lines of, "She was wild and uncontrollable. We tried everything else and nothing worked, so we had to do SOMETHING to keep her from hurting herself by going out and doing drugs and sex parties and stuff."

[Rudder]

I'm inclined to think that most men think this is OK to do.(cage children).

Whoa! A feminazi in our ranks!!

At least we don't drown them in bathtubs.

[FITZ]

I think it's often just as hard on the kids when dad shacks up with the first woman who comes along --- parents can date but they shouldn't bring lovers home, they can do the dating away from home and not have their mistakes hurt the kids.

[Jackie-O]

I agree with you trussell. I will not live with a man till my kids are grown, haven't even had a man pick me up for a date at my home. I have been over protective of my children since their Father died, but I still allow myself a social life.
Some Mothers are irresponsible, some Fathers too.
But I would like to think there are more out there like you and I, and I would like to think that most folks have the sense to recognize that.

[Katy_Katarina]

WHy did you add 'cage children' and insinuate that's what I meant? I meant it with tongue in cheek--that men seem to want to keep women home in the kitchen and bedroom. Adding your personal comments and twisting what I meant was wrong. I would appreciate it if you would not manipulate what I say and then call me names.

[Rudder]

are said that he "fixed up the kennel nice" and that it was "a suitable temporary living arrangement."

From some of the women hating threads that have been going on in here, I'm inclined to think that most men think this is OK to do. Course the 'cage' would be the house that they fixed up 'nice'....

Apparently you forgot what you said. I missed you feeble attempt at humor.

[Katy_Katarina]

From some of the women hating threads

I guess this is the part you missed.

[Rudder]

From some of the women hating threads

Made by men? I didn't find any. For example...?

[Valin]

Because he's a sick MFer, and don't get me starrted on the "mother".

[Valin]

From some of the women hating threads that have been going on in here, I'm inclined to think that most men think this is OK to do.

Woman hating threads? Most men think this is OK to do.?

Sources!

[Salvation]

I can understand a single mother's hesitation to re-marry.

But it can happen

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after giving herself time to grieve the previous relationship. You may think I'm joking about grieving an abusive relationship, but at one time those married did supposedly love each other.

Addidtionally there is the loss of a spouse around to help raise the children, the loss of spousal support, hopefully the husband was working and supporting the family.

I suggest that all who are divorced attend a non-denominational weekend in their area for anyone who has gone through a major loss in their life. I will link an international site in the next post.

Additionally, please be aware of the phases of grief as put forth by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her book "On Death and Dying."

Now don't you divorcess run away, because this affects you too. (it's the loss of a major relationship -- right)?????

Phases of grief:
Denial: "Oh, this can't be happening to me."

Bargaining: With me, I bargained with God, ("Please, God, I'll be the best Mother and wife -- just don't let my husband die from cancer.") but in a divorce situation this bargaining may go on before the divorce even becomes a reality.

Anger -- Again I was angry with God, but in divorce situations there is a live spouse -- no need to explain any further.

Depression -- Some of your statements echo a kind of hopelessness, helplessness that accompanies this phase. For me, I would fall asleep in a recliner at 6:00 PM, not eat with my sons, and wake up to climb into that cold bed anywhere from 10:00 PM to 2:00 AM. This was not a fun time for me.

And finally the last two phases:
Acceptance -- I can move on with my life. (I realize with children and custody battles that this is difficult, but with prayer and perseverance (and a lot of counseling for me) it does occur.

The last phase is

Reaching Out -- I never thought I would be able to traverse the deep valleys of losing my spouse. But with the Lord's precious assistance, I have come out on the other side of the chasm. Thank you, Lord

I am not trying to preach to anyone here -- merely share some of my personal and accrued knowledge about the subject of losing a spouse, whether through death or divorce.

Hope and pray it will help someone.

Salvation (now you can understand my screename!)

[najida]

I always cringe when I see any woman with children who has a new 'beau'.

Sorry girls, but there are guys out there who aren't looking at you with lust in their eyes, but over your shoulder at your younguns.

ACK!

[Salvation]

Beginning Experience -- a weekend retreat in your area to work through grief and reach the healing that is possible for those who have experienced the loss of a loved one

[Rakkasan1]

the way the statute reads, the prosecutors may still be able to find more evidence to up it to felony level.
what is suprising is our fine legislators couldn't manage to write a law clearly enough to make it an obvious felony.

[najida]

If their real dad doesn't give a damn and there are no uncles or grandpa around, someone needs to be there to tell the girls they're pretty and teach the boys how to spit.

Dang, I just started gettin' all weepy. You're a good Daddy. Thanks :)