Posted on 06/28/2005 9:50:36 AM PDT by Stellar Dendrite
When Rachel Bendtsen walked through the doors of a New York City bar on a Thursday night, she was greeted with a cake and a standing ovation. She said hello to friends she hadn’t seen in three years, since she got engaged and stopped traveling frequently from Minneapolis to New York to visit.
“I am so happy to be a free agent,” Bendtsen, 27, said as more cameras flashed. “And I am accepting applications to make out.” Several single men were on hand to apply.
As divorce parties go, this one was tame — no caterer and no band, and the cake was homemade. It was certainly nothing compared to the $20,000 wedding she and her parents paid for just two years earlier, the one at which 200 guests watched as she pledged to love and cherish her husband forever.
“Once you say you are going to get married, it is hard to get out of it,” Bendtsen said. “So the divorce puts us both back on course. In my case it is definitely cause for celebration.”
The divorce party, a hybrid of a bachelor-bachelorette party and bacchanalian exorcism, is emerging as a celebratory occasion, complete with gift registries and a set of social protocols. Once a source of shame, divorce has become its own peculiar rite of passage, so commonplace that more people are looking to commemorate the occasion with friends — and in public.
Experts see a combination of factors at work, including a growing acceptance of divorce and society’s need for rituals to mark important life stages. “Fifty years ago divorce was almost a forbidden thing,” said David Popenoe, director of National Marriage Project, at Rutgers University. “Today you do not think of a divorcee as an outcast; you extend your sympathy and sometimes offer your congratulations.”
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Once again, the NYT shows it's marxist colors. This article states that "divorce is a rite of passage", among other disgusting things.
This is marxist propaganda designed to help undermine the family unit by glorifying divorce and normalizing it (as if it didn't need any more assistance).
Is she hot?
I wonder whether there's a general negative correlation between the cost of the wedding and the length of the marriage?
Would these parties be a good time to tell your friend "I told you so?" Or is that still a no no?
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well, if there were a line up men waiting to mack on her...
She's sounds ripe for my friends stag-party.
"You" might "extend your sympathy and sometimes offer your congratulations", Mr. popenoe, but "I" am going with the so-fifty-years-ago thing.
Her crabs are boiling. That's how hot she is.
It *is* a rite of passage. Most people in our society have been divorced or will be divorced in their lives. It's as much a rite of passage as anything else we do.
Interesting point - most divorces are initiated by women these days. Read an article on "covenant marriage." It was presumed by the people who introduced it that girls would pressure their husbands-to-be into a covenant marriage, but in actuality the CMs that were being done were largely initated by the men.
I suggest you pose that very smart question to Paris Hilton
The sodomites who run the New York Times are doing their best to tear down society.
They should understand the basic social reality: that there is always room for bohemians, homosexuals, and other pleasure seekers at the fringes of society, but that society requires the commitment of most of its members to moral standards, solid families, and well-brought-up children to create the sort of peace and prosperity in which fringe groups can survive.
Destroy families, eradicate morality, kill honor and trust, corrupt children, and no basis will be left for society to exist. They think they are "freeing" themselves from traditional morality and "judgmentalism." Instead, they are busy destroying the social system that has made their lifestyles possible.
“Fifty years ago divorce was almost a forbidden thing,”
That's because a man and woman were making a vow BEFORE GOD...the Bible warns about vowing before God and man, and then breaking that vow.
I guess those of us who hold out for the right one, for the right reasons, are banking on a fairy tale.
Why bother, with this attitude?
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