Posted on 07/15/2005 9:12:22 AM PDT by Millee
A south St. Louis family is trying to come to grips with Wednesday's sudden and accidental death of their little girl.
"Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think there would be flowers and baskets at my door," says Morticia Scott.
The memorial for her daughter, Jamarria Bolar, continues to grow. The 2-year-old died following a stabbing accident Wednesday.
"I'm going to remember her happy and full of life. I can't say I'll ever forget it. I see her face like she's not even gone, so plain and so clear."
Police believe Jamarria's 3-year-old brother found a steak knife in the family apartment and accidentally stabbed his little sister.
But her parents don't agree with that. They believe the 2-year-old likely found the knife and may have fallen on it.
Scott says, "He doesn't even know she's gone. I tell him she's gone, he thinks she's hiding. You ask him and he'll say she's hiding, but I've been telling him the reason she's not coming back is she's in the sky, so he might say she's in the sky. "
Scott wants to thank everyone for keeping Jamarria and the entire family in their prayers.
"Everybody came to help. I thank them for that, I really need it. But a big part of me is missing," she says.
Funeral arrangements are pending. The family wants to open a trust fund to help pay for burial expenses.
God, that is sad. Prayers for the family.
How in blazes could this have happened? Someone wasn't watching these children. How awful.
Lots of prayers for this little girl.
Morticia or Natasha?
Poor parenting. Why are such things in reach of 2~3 year olds to be "found"???
And it's common sense not to leave a steak knife anywhere a two or a three year old can find it. That's just irresponsible.
>>Someone wasn't watching these children.<<
Stupid mistakes happen. These kids were 3 & 2. Mom may have gone to the bathroom. We have to do that sometimes. Someone stupidly left a steak knife around. It may have been as innocent as it was dropped while the dinner dishes were being cleared and the person who was bringing them from the table thought he/she got everything dropped.
Tragic things happen all the time. It is not always neglect.
God Bless this family.
Accidentally stabbed his sister? More likely he watched a game of Grand Theft Auto or an episode of just about any network television show...
HOW MANY MORE MISTER SPEAKER? HOW MANY MORE?
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Oh my....what a beautiful baby. Prayers for her and her family.
There but for the grace of God and a little luck go you, me and every other parent of young children. You can do everything right and still something tragic can happen. Prayers for this family for losing a sweet little girl, and prayers for your family and mine thanking God we've not had the same fate befall us.
If the boy in fact did stab his sister, does anyone else find it really scary?
I realize 3 year olds don't understand fully right and wrong and consequences, but, what normal 3 year old takes a knife and stabs somebody without at least understanding that you are hurting the person?
Am I alone in my reaction to this?
I remember also that, even at that age, my conscience would not let me seriously contemplate using it on him.
Which is to say: I can understand exactly how the kid got the idea to stab her in the first place. And I suspect that the kid's surroundings are such that his conscience may not have been as protective as mine.
See my #16.
My three year old will hit when he's playing, without really understanding that it hurts people. I can believe that the 3yo didn't realize he was hurting her, and I can certainly say he had no concept of killing.
"Am I alone in my reaction to this?"
No, this is a weird one. Sad, though.
Seeing that the 3 year old found the knife also makes me wonder. I know when I was 3 I didn't even know knives existed ... let alone where they were.
But still accidents do happen regardless of how tragic.
Prayers for the family
I disagree. He can have no serious concept of what death is, but I have no doubt whatsoever that he did it on purpose, and that he was trying to kill her. (Maybe he learned the idea from TV, or from one of Morticia's boyfriends.)
Stupid mistakes happen
Yep, just this morning, I was unloading the dishwasher and my one year old was "helping" me.
In about 2 seconds, he pushed the bottom rack out of the way and grabbed a steak knife. I'm sure just another second and he would have try to stick in his mouth. I carefully reached over and got it from him, not to startle him. It happens that quickly!
With a dog door and an in-ground swimming pool, we also have a KatchaKid on our pool so our baby doesn't try to go swimming.
YOU'VE GOT TO WATCH YOUR KIDS!!!
"Blue" America ping!
Does a three year old have the strength to fatally stab another person? I just find this so hard to believe.
Does a three year old have the strength to fatally stab another person? I just find this so hard to believe.
When they were toddlers, my Aunt tried to smother my Dad, her little brother, with a pillow. Of course, she didn't know what she was doing, she thought it was play. Fortunately, an adult was watching them closely.
Well - we just need for those do nothings in Congress to ban steak knives and this tragedy will not be repeated.
Yeah, we're always having to watch big sister, 7, around the baby. She could accidently hurt him. She's always trying to pick him up and carry him around like we do. Obviously, we discourage this.
I don't know if they have the strength or not.
The article doesn't say where the child was stabbed. But I think a 3 year old boy could wield about the same amount strength as a 2 year old falling.
I'm just basing my reaction on what the article says. And it says the child was stabbed. And it says the little boy apparently did it, even though the parents think not. If it were my kid, I would choose to think it an accident as well.
Prayers for this baby and her brother.
When my son was 3, I was up on a ladder spackling the ceiling and he was playing with his toys on the floor. I was glancing up and down continually to watch him, but suddenly he took a chisel out of my tool bag and "stabbed" my new, custom-made windowsill. I yelled "stop!" and scrambled down the ladder, but the damage was done. Thank God it wasn't his own toe or thigh. And no, I didn't punish him, but I explained it was dangerous and I was scared, and that's why I had yelled.
Kids just don't see "personal property" as adults do. They do not perceive that someone else's tool is off-limits, and sometimes adults don't perceive that kids don't know the difference.
I know it says 'parents', but there is no reference to either a father or a husband that I could find. With names like 'Jamarria ' and 'Morticia', statistically speaking, the odds are against a family unit where the father of the child is married to and living with the mother.
Prayers in order for any parent who makes a mistake. God help any of us that we should be careless for that one instant when tragedy stikes.
My wife's neice was at her grandmother's home in the Ukraine playing with a basket full of ducklings. She put them "to sleep" one at a time by holding her little girl hand tightly around their necks. She may have done it innocently but she still got the whipping of her life when all the dead ducklings were discovered.
Can't take your eyes off the little bums for a second.
Even a four year old has no concept that the place mat he rolled up into a tube and is swinging around, could hurt those sitting around him. It has to be patiently explained to him that he's swinging that around and he could put someone's eye out.
>> YOU'VE GOT TO WATCH YOUR KIDS!!!<<
I agree with you but I also realize that sometimes it is only through God's Grace that our children come through in perfect condition.
How many times have you heard, "I just turned my back for a minute."? The best parent can have a tragic situation happen.
Understand, I am an attachment parent. My children slept with us. We do not let anyone watch our children. They are with me 24/7. All I am saying is with children that young, stuff can happen when you least expect it.
You have a 1 year old, they nap. Perhaps these two did not. I think it is unreasonable to jump to the conclusion of neglect. And I think that it is unreasonable to expect a mom to only use the toilet with two children so they can be in sight every minute.
>>She said that the single most important thing you have to learn is under no circumstances should a child who is not sleeping EVER be let out of your sight.<<
How did you go to the bathroom?
How did you go to the bathroom?
Oh, I never did that. I was a perfect child, no poopies ot tinkle, not ever.
Save the obvious response folks, it's just to easy to hit this one out of the park
Any bets on how long it will take to sue the manufacturer of the steak knife?
>>Oh, I never did that. I was a perfect child, no poopies ot tinkle, not ever. <<
LOL!
And I'm sure your Mom never had to either so she could watch you every second.
Honestly, I did take my girls at one-year-old into the bathroom with me, but at 2 and 4 I felt that I could trust them to sit alone for a minute. Stupid mistakes happen, even in a tinkle break.
Same here. My three year old will hit with whatever she has at hand, including books and juice cups. If she had a steak knife, I suppose she might hit with that. Impulse control is not that great with three year olds...
I agree with your statements and sometimes I get tired of people jumping to conclusions, that later turn out to be false.
You are correct by saying ,that anything can happen to young children in this age group,even when they have good parents.
When my daughter was 1 and a half I took her to check the mail with me and as we approached the stairs ,going down to our apartment, she tore herself loose and tumbled down the stairs.I was unable to grab her in time ,because everything went to fast and she fell all the way down those stairs.
Luckily she only had minor scrapes and bruises and no head injury.
I felt like a lousy parent ,when that happened,but my husband and the Dr, assured me that it wasn't my fault and that things like this can happen and it only takes a split second.
I wasn't a neglecting parent then nor am I now.
Things like that can happen to anyone and not just to neglecting parents.
My son is 28. I don't think he's found the kitchen yet.
I don't know how these poor babies were able to get ahold of kitchen knives.
YEAH, I'M SURE THE POOR FAMILY HAS BEEN CONTACTED BY ANY NUMBER OF BLOODSUCKING BOTTOM FEEDERS.
SORRY FOR THE CAPS, BUTTON STUCK.
Thanks, for the racist's view of the story. I feel enlightened.
I do so agree with you!!!
When my oldest daughter was 2, I unplugged her nightlight and put it onto the windowsill while cleaning. I promptly forgot about it. One of the cats knocked it off and the blub broke while we were at the store. That afternoon while I was folding clothes, she was playing in her room. She was within sight and I thought nothing of it. When I went in to put her clothes away, I noticed the broken bulb on the floor. Being summer, she could have easily walked through it in bare piggies. I thanked God quickly for keeping her safe. Your daughter came through it fine, I feel, by the Grace of God.
Some parents are not so lucky. That split second is just that sometimes. A second. No human has that kind of reaction time.
When you hit liberals with facts, they tend to engage in name calling because they can't dispute the merits of statements.
If you really thought my post was racist, you would have hit the abuse button on it. If the mods agree, they'll pull it, since racist comments are the quickest way to get a post pulled around here. I'll yield to their judgment, not yours.
If you are just trolling for a flame war, go look somewhere else.
I realize 3 year olds don't understand fully right and wrong and consequences, but, what normal 3 year old takes a knife and stabs somebody without at least understanding that you are hurting the person?
Am I alone in my reaction to this?
This kid is a real sicko at a real early age. He doesn't sound normal. He needs to be institutionalized for the rest of his life, and I am not joking.
I knew of something similar when I was growing up which I don’t want to discuss only because the details are so horrific. This child was eventually put into a mental institution. Last I heard, he eventually died of I don’t know what (nothing nefarious).
We grew up with firearms and, yes, kitchen knives and, God forbid, stake knives. All four of us children are still alive.
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