a certain lifestyle doesn't guarantee that one live a long, happy, healthy life, but it can better one's chances...
i don't know if Lacey Peterson or Lori Hacking could have made better choices in selecting husbands... and i'm not blaming any of the victims for their own deaths... but we women do have a lot more power than we are often willing to exercise... or perhaps we don't even realize we have that power to begin with
even if LaToyia had not been killed, she didn't make very good choices for herself or her already-born child... my saying that no way means that i think she deserved to die... i don't think she deserved to die... i'm interested in getting young women to know that they have more power than they realize... (i'm a counselor at the local Crisis Pregnancy Center... i talk with many a young woman who gives up so much for a guy who does not love her or their baby.)
i suspect most of us women here do know what i mean... i am very guilty of having made terrible choices in my early 20's... Praise God i didn't lose my life over any of them... but i did lose some dignity and even character--which has had to be rebuilt over the last 15 or so years...
Amen sister.
If I too, were to "pay" for bad decisions made in my 20's I probably wouldn't be alive right now. But, I'm pretty tough and with God's help I got through that and now I don't allow myself to be taken advantage of by anybody. In my job I also see women who would do anything for some slug who doesn't deserve for my dog to urinate on. I am always amazed at how much BS women are willing to put up with just to keep their men. I always say if they fail to be an asset then they are just an ass.
Totally agree. This girl got herself mixed up with a very bad guy. Even if he hadn't murdered her, she had a young daughter who could have been at risk. How many stories do we read about women's boyfriends who molest their children?
No, none of us know if they "could have" made better choices.
However, your comment insinuated that this lady brought it on herself by not keeping her pants on. I'm older than dirt, as they say, and over the years I've seen stories about many a married woman, quite a few who were pregnant, who met with similar sad fates.
It isn't just about "keeping their pants on" (and in any event, that's a two way street, too). Such comments aren't really that relevant, since pants on or off, married or single, and of any age, women and girls can die at the hands of someone who's an inveterate and unrepentant abuser.
That said, I will agree with those who are concerned about unmarried sex. The dangers range from those of the spirit all the way to those of the flesh. Many diseases proliferate from these practices. Many hearts are broken when the man moves on to yet another "girlfriend." Many children born into such relationships grow up without knowing their fathers, and without the guidance of a good man.
That is but one of the tragedies of our times.