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Personally, if I found out that a suitor had slept with any woman, I'd have nothing to do with him physically. He'd be tainted. Like a poisoned well. A willing partner to darkness.

Don't be too hasty. My galpal had a very wild and utterly irresponsible life (part of the music scene) until age 26 or so, when some personal episodes made her change her worldview. That was all before I knew her - I wouldn't have been attracted to her then beyond physically, but she is a much different person now. She is conservative politically, which is unusual in the crowds she works with as a musician, and she even has a mad crush on Dick Cheney.

People change. I don't think it's right to hold her old crazy indiscretions against her today, unless she somehow reverted back to that scene, in which case it would become my problem and I'd certainly become alienated from her.

I was being sarcastic. I think people change drastically. In my 20's I was a topless dancer. Now I pastor a church, lead girl scouts, work in bookkeeping.... To judge the entire value of someone based on their past performances, performances they regret, without taking into consideration that human beings grow up is narrow-minded and hard-hearted in my opinion. The man in my life has lead a very conservative lifestyle. I'm kinda surprised he's weathered some of the stories of my past a couple of times.

I'm very glad to hear about you and your lady. Congrats.