[SouthernFreebird]

You guys always seem to make light of those little affairs.

They are devastating to a marriage, it may just be sex on the side to you but to the woman it is the end of the relationship and trust. It may take a few years for it to dissolve the marriage but eventually it will and the woman will find she doesn't love the man anymore.

You only see the 'doesn't love him anymore' and not the actions of the man that brought her to that place.

You should look to the possible immorality of the men in their relationships and not try to simplify the failure of the marriage by always blaming the woman.

I see you defend your father for his affair yet condemn your mother for not being able to manage finances. You got some issues in there dude.

[Prophet in the wilderness]

In the first place ? Get your facts straight, the person I was talking about who said " I don't love him anymore " was not my mother, it was a woman from a couple I knew, and her husband never cheated on her, she just decided one day that she didn't love him anymore, but, she surely got have of everything he owns.
You make it sound like that it's ok for women to cheat on their husbands, but, Men are dogs and rats if they cheat on their wives. Just incredible.
I never said I think it was ok for my dad to cheat on my mom, I was just talking about her vindictiveness in how she treated him after wards, in when he gave the money to her that was ordered from the court.
He did his best to support us, but, the money seemed to never be there for us, in other words ? my mom misused the money.
Get your facts straight before you open your mouth in something you don't have any knowledge about, I was there, I know what happened, and you don't.

[HitmanLV]

re: Affairs, Divorce, & Dividing Property

The trick here is that there is a natural inclination to give favor to a cuckolded spouse. A spouse doesn't deserve a financial award just because they were cheated on. That gives them too much credit, and may ignore the fact that they were a poor spouse, for example. A cheating spouse doesn't deserve to be financially punished, either.

Adultery is a lot more complex than a lot of folks are willing to consider. It's a reason to leave a marriage. It's not a reason to clean-out the cheater, or unduly benefit a person who just had the fortune to be cheated on.