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It's a self-centered mentality, really: many women think they can change the variables on their side of the equation, and not change the variables comperablyon the other side of the equation. Frankly, they must be smoking crack to genuinely believe that: it makes no sense and it is fundamentally unfair.

Hmmm, good analogy. It is like in any math equation, if you take a different number and plug it into one side of the equation, it will change what you get on the other side. I'm a firm believer in the "zero-sum game" where most things are concerned. Things will zero out at some point, although what you get might be better or worse than what you started out with as the circumstances dictate.

Well, as I see it, both men & women have more freedom and flexibility when it comes to career and life stuff. That's a good thing, not a bad thing.

People are more free than now to find someone that suits them and their expectations than ever. Like I said, a woman with a time demanding career just has to find one man that will accommodate her time and career demands. She doesn't have to find dozens, nor hundreds, nor thousands. Just one.

Men are in the same position - a man just needs to find a woman who will accommodate their time and career demands.

Fairness doesn't mean everybody wins. It means everybody is in a comparable position with neither at a notable disadvantage. If some people aren't getting what they feel they deserve, it's incumbent on them to make adjustments, man or woman.

I'll speak from the male perspective because I am a male. I have a wide range of choice when it comes to women for romantic companions. I want a woman who is around and not working well into the night, every night, and is undependable because of career demands. Of course I want other things, but that's the issue here. There are many women I am compatible with and who I may be happy with (and make happy). In my case, it's not a woman who is going to work into the night for a month on a Summary Judgment motion. Given choice between an unavailable and undependable woman when it comes to time demands, and a woman with a schedule more compatible with mine, I naturally choose the one who meets my wants and needs better.

The career woman just needs to find a man who is open to her schedule, that's all. A big component of choice and flexibility is....rejection. Too many men and women can't seem to cope with that. What are you going to do? :-)