Posted on 03/06/2006 9:51:00 PM PST by tbird5
It happens to the best of women. Here's Rosalind Wiseman, who has spent her entire working life teaching girls to treat each other decently. The script for the movie Mean Girls was based on her 2002 best-selling Queen Bees & Wannabes, a book that helps parents understand the drama and danger in the adolescent girl world. She knows the minefields that lie in gossip, jealousy, disloyalty and cruel judgments, and offers solid prescriptions for changing bad behaviour.
Yet despite her experience, she recently found herself sizing up two mothers who came to see her.
In her view, the women paid too much attention to their appearance, especially their hair. They seemed catty in their conversation, were micromanaging their kids' lives, and were silly.
"All these things came into my head. Why? They are antithetical to what I teach and believe," Wiseman says. "I was still judging these women."
Where does this nastiness come from?
Wiseman thinks it exists because it's supposed to exist. Being nasty to each other is one of the unspoken rules about how girls and women are supposed to behave; one of the rigidly enforced North American standards of what constitutes femininity.
"It's everything you know but haven't been sat down and taught," as Wiseman puts it.
When she judged the two women so harshly, it was as if she was acting out one of the observations she made in her book — that girls and women can be their own worst enemies.
(Excerpt) Read more at thestar.com ...
You ROCK, Xenalyte and so does Hap.
By the way, I'm still working on you-know-what and I'll try to shoot you an update tomorrow.
Night-night!
It's only Tuesday!!
We're getting pretty good at this...
ROFLMAO!!
yes, sir, I did.
still trying to figure which flavor I am...strawberry maybe...chocolate...a fine wine... .
No need to comment. Let me enjoy my moment.
Get a life...
Oh dear heavens! SNORT~! I'm choking on an orange peel as I type!!!
Nice reply!!!
Wow! You know how to cook, I'm impressed. :-)
He's just got "loser" written all over him, doesn't he?
Maybe he's got "I'm-still-stuck-in-the-closet" issues?
He's probably just upset that his mommy still keeps his "family jewels" in her jewelry box.
I just don't understand why he's been around FR since what...1999 or 2000... I just glanced at his profile, forgot it as soon as I clicked off.
Maybe you need some new pick up lines? Try these:
"Can I buy you a drink or do you just want the money?"
"Inheriting eighty million bucks doesn't mean much when you have a weak heart."
"I can sense that you're a terrific lover, and it intimidates me a little."
"If you were a booger I'd pick you first."
NOW we're talking!
ooohhh, you prefer foreign women.
This should sound familar:
"Me so hoooorrrrneeee, me love you long time."
Only to you. We all made a pact.
Apparently not, in my case.
After 27 years of marriage, I'm sorely out of practice.
Oh, and I so agree with that.
I'm the boss in my department and my employees have expressed anxiety that I'll get a promotion and leave them. I have to assure them regularly that I won't leave them anytime soon. They're worried they'll get a b!tch or a jerk in my place. (I'm a soft-hearted one...as long as they're doing the work I expect, I'm pretty easy. We're all FRIENDS. We're a team.)
On the other hand, my Admin Assistant is a royal b!tch and I've been told I'm the only person who has ever been able to "tame" her. She is despised all over my whole location here. I inherited her from my predecessor, who also couldn't stand her.
And handK - she's one of your pecious Eastern Europeans.
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