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In Search of Chivalry Did it sink with the Titanic?
National Review Online ^ | April 13, 2006 | Carrie Lukas

Posted on 04/13/2006 11:55:44 AM PDT by ReleaseTheHounds

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To: tfecw
I used to say "yes ma'am", but two weeks in NY, and about a 100 "don't call me ma'am"s later i stopped.

Not to defend rudeness, but sometimes women don't like being called "ma'am" because it makes them feel old. Plus, oftentimes female salesclerks are snotty to female customers by saying "ma'am" in a condescending tone. Like a female standup comedian once said, "We women know what 'ma'am' really means. It means the 'B' word." Not really, but sometimes salesclerks make us feel that way.

Anyway, you're a gentleman, and none of this is your fault. But try saying "yes, Miss." I bet you'll get a sweeter response. :-)

21 posted on 04/13/2006 12:26:14 PM PDT by Nea Wood (Is cheap, illegal labor worth one life?)
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To: Fury
I've been pretty lucky, always had men open the door or carry heavy stuff, the usual things a gentlemen does. I very much appreciate the effort when a man does it knowing he took the risk of being cussed out by a rabid feminist.

I'm in my early 40's and have always said ma'am and sir to people I am talking with out of respect.

For you men, we ain't all against being treated like a woman. Don't give in to the feminists who don't speak for all women.
22 posted on 04/13/2006 12:27:01 PM PDT by SouthernFreebird
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To: martin_fierro

So true. You'd think people would bother to use spell check.


23 posted on 04/13/2006 12:27:30 PM PDT by Constitution Day (Comicalness Don't Win No Medals)
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To: Just another Joe

Reports of chivalry's demise are greatly exaggerated.


24 posted on 04/13/2006 12:27:48 PM PDT by dmz
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To: ReleaseTheHounds
Please note the Author of Chivalry:
25 posted on 04/13/2006 12:29:31 PM PDT by SaltyJoe (A mother's sorrowful heart and personal sacrifice redeems her lost child's soul.)
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To: Billthedrill
Well, on the one hand chivalry resulted in nearly all of the men on the Titanic dying. On the other hand, one of 'em was Leo...

Seeing Dicrappio die a slow, agonizing death was one of the great moments in cinema history.

When the tape was brought home by my daughter it took me a good 3 or 4 minutes to fast foward to that scene ... it was time well spent.

26 posted on 04/13/2006 12:29:49 PM PDT by tx_eggman (Islamofascism ... bringing you the best of the 7th century for the past 1300 years.)
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To: Nea Wood

"Not to defend rudeness, but sometimes women don't like being called "ma'am" because it makes them feel old. "

Yeah, that's what they told me. My response was either "Sorry, I'm an army brat" or "Sorry, I'm from Texas" Either way i would get the "you poor thing" look ;)


27 posted on 04/13/2006 12:29:49 PM PDT by tfecw (It's for the children)
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To: American Quilter

When I've seen pregnant women on the metro, I offer them my seat than glare at the men reading their papers and pretending not to notice. If a man wants to be a man, he can still choose to be.

btw, my man opens my doors and helps me with my coat and I love it!


28 posted on 04/13/2006 12:29:52 PM PDT by New Girl
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To: ReleaseTheHounds

Simple fact about the Titanic: More First Class men survived than Third Class children.


29 posted on 04/13/2006 12:30:08 PM PDT by Heyworth
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To: ReleaseTheHounds
Not all males are men and not all women are feminazis. I prefer to stay "old-fashioned" and show women respect and courtesy, and open doors, and even offer up "my" seat that a woman might sit. I figure that if I'm not willing to act as I think a man should act, I don't give the women out there that aren't ashamed to be women, a chance to be women. I've been sneered at and ridiculed by some of the women I have offered courtesies to, but I find it sadly amusing more than anything else. If I stop being me because others won't be as I would have them be, I am a traitor to myself.

Same goes for politics - I will not be a part of making the Dims' hunger for power easier to be satisfied just because the Repubs in office refuse to be "men" enough to act like what they claim to be.

30 posted on 04/13/2006 12:30:43 PM PDT by trebb ("I am the way... no one comes to the Father, but by me..." - Jesus in John 14:6 (RSV))
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To: Restorer
I wonder if the stories of men being chewed out for holding a door or offering a seat to a woman are true.

Unfortunately there are such women. I saw many such instances in my college years, when young women who didn't know any better fell prey to feminist philosophies. Some of them have never gotten their thinking straightened out enough to understand their error. But I hope their numbers are decreasing as they mature and learn to think.

31 posted on 04/13/2006 12:32:33 PM PDT by American Quilter
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To: Vision

Yup; feminism.

I'll help my girlfriend and my mother and sisters.

Women want equality right up until it's inconvenient for them.

They have the right to carry their own heavy bags, open their own doors, and drown, too.


32 posted on 04/13/2006 12:33:16 PM PDT by Beauceron
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To: ReleaseTheHounds
The idea of male gallantry makes many women nervous, suggesting (as it does) that women require special protection. It implies the sexes are objectively different. It tells us that some things are best left to men.

Men and women are different and if society would start acting that way, we'd get back on track. Of course men are stronger and better at certain tasks; however, women are more nurturing. The differences between men and women are not only real, they are necessary.

33 posted on 04/13/2006 12:35:40 PM PDT by wagglebee ("We are ready for the greatest achievements in the history of freedom." -- President Bush, 1/20/05)
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To: Heyworth

I wondered about that myself, and here's an interesting page:

http://www.anesi.com/titanic.htm

Sex actually was more of a determinant than class in survival.


34 posted on 04/13/2006 12:38:44 PM PDT by linda_22003
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To: Nea Wood
Anyway, you're a gentleman, and none of this is your fault. But try saying "yes, Miss." I bet you'll get a sweeter response. :-)

Only if the lady is unmarried and younger than, say, 25, or if the gentleman is at least 75! Once a lady is married or out of her mid-20s, she should, in my opinion, be pleased at achieving adult status and expect to be granted the title she merits. Any gentleman younger than 75 who addresses me as "Miss" gets a very polite, "Thank you, young man" in reply!

35 posted on 04/13/2006 12:39:27 PM PDT by American Quilter
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To: American Quilter

I have had women wag their fingers at me for opening doors for them. Also, giving up my seat on the Washington Metro. That brand of feminism doesn't even allow for civility.


36 posted on 04/13/2006 12:39:56 PM PDT by GeorgefromGeorgia
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To: American Quilter
Once a lady is married or out of her mid-20s, she should, in my opinion, be pleased at achieving adult status and expect to be granted the title she merits.

They should, but they don't. Many women get depressed when, around a certain age, the "Miss" changes to "Ma'am." It's kind of a depressing moment for many of us, like finding the first wrinkle or gray hair.

37 posted on 04/13/2006 12:45:39 PM PDT by Nea Wood (Is cheap, illegal labor worth one life?)
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To: GeorgefromGeorgia
I have had women wag their fingers at me for opening doors for them. Also, giving up my seat on the Washington Metro. That brand of feminism doesn't even allow for civility.

It's a tribute to you (and your parents) that you continue to be a gentleman when you may at any time be confronted by a woman who is not a lady. I'm grateful to all the gentlemen out there like you.

38 posted on 04/13/2006 12:47:52 PM PDT by American Quilter
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To: tfecw

My reply to the request "don't call me ma'am" is always "yes ma'am." Kill 'em with kindness.


39 posted on 04/13/2006 12:54:31 PM PDT by ExpatGator (Progressivism: A polyp on the colon politic.)
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To: Nea Wood
My wife has no issues being called Ma'am. Of course she started being called Ma'am at 22 when she pinned on the butter bar of a 2nd Lt. in the USAF.
40 posted on 04/13/2006 12:55:36 PM PDT by Sergio (If a tree fell on a mime in the forest, would he make a sound?)
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