Brothers of the unpopped question

St. Petersburg Times ^ | April 25, 2006 | LEONORA LAPETER with Matthew Waite and researcher Angie Drobnic Holan

[lastchance]

IOW, are these the children of upper middle-class whites?

I'm thinking yes. Also how many of the never married are children of divorced parents? And how many significant others on the average to these people have throughout their dating lifetime?

[doorgunner69]

Feminism baby. You reap what you sow

Ding ding, you just nailed it, IMHO. As I get older and watch the antics of young women, it does not surprise me that many men do not want to attempt a permanent relationship. Assuming a guy can work up the courage to approach one of these "untouchables", he will most likely be soon repelled by their self centered personalities.

If I were single today, I may well be one of these guys. Doubt I would have the patience to wade through all the neurotics to find a stable woman.

[nightdriver]

What the writer does NOT mention is the fact that committing to marriage also commits one to the arbitrary and capricious "justice" system which is a constant threat to ones children, life savings and means of self-support.

Compound that with the cantankerous nature of modern, "liberated" women and you really can't blame men for being on the reluctant side where marriage is concerned.

[B4Ranch]

I'd like to see a count of men and women who are married and are actually happy with the person they chose. I am meeting more women who are unhappy with the men they married but don't want a divorce because they are afraid of being alone now that they are in their fifties.

[NewJerseyJoe]

Let's all thank the feminists (and to a lesser extent, the homos) for this scenario. But try to get a feminist to admit the truth of the situation? Good luck!

[GladesGuru]

Apropos of the "Russian bride" syndrome - given the overtly Marxist and femiNazi atmosphere at American institutes of higher education, it ironic that American males find Russian women to be less Marxist/femiNazi than the American women who have been through the American education system.

[RockinRight]

Perhaps...but then again the women probably don't like guys either...

[Disambiguator]

There are a few of those, to be sure. They seem to gravitate more to the East Bay, IIRC.

[riverdawg]

"... we have created a mythology about ideal love."

I was a bachelor for about twenty years, after a ten-year marriage that ended in divorce. I eventually realized that I had placed too many requirements on any future mrs. riverdawg: can't be too young or too old, nobody from work, no children, etc. I ended up marrying someone I met at work, who is twenty years younger, with a five-year-old (now eleven-year-old) child. We broke every "rule" put forward by so-called relationship counselors. The lesson to be learned from our experience is "don't paint yourself into a little corner; it can be very lonely there."

[Banjoguy]

Pot--kettle

[Huck]

You're half right. So really, how's the air up there?

[HairOfTheDog]

Wasn't hard for me, I've been married to her for a long time now.

How sweet, greetings and congratulations to you Graybeard :~D

Happily married too, and my marriage came later than the average. There is hope :~D

Good luck to all who are still looking.

[HairOfTheDog]

Thanks for the jokes... They provide some smiles before we get to the really bitter people who will come along soon enough to a thread like this :~D

[HairOfTheDog]

I told her forget that, marry a plumber... ...Course if she was really smart she would become a plumber.

Indeed... :~D

[HairOfTheDog]

Why buy a cow when the milk is sour?

Why suffer a man who compares you to a cow?

[CzarNicky]

Pepper Schwartz, a sociologist from the University of Washington and a relationship expert on PerfectMatch.com, says men who have never married in these older age ranges fall into two opposite groups....obese or rich, handsome and picky.

Obviously this relationship expert needs to get out more.

I'll say the reason I am not married and never will be is because I just can't stand being around people for any length of time.

[napscoordinator]

Interestingly enough, there are a few people in my office not married and we got into a discussion about why and some say that they don't want to go to any more funerals than they have too. They said that I might have to go to my wife's funeral and even worse go to one of my three kids funerals. They said that they would not want to feel that kind of pain. I thought yieks. I pray I go first...so selfish of me, but isn't that interesting that people feel that way. No wonder people are not marrying to afraid of losing people.

[HairOfTheDog]

"I could have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the dance"~Garth Brooks

I've gone to some very sad funerals, but none so sad that I wished I'd never known the person.

[Banjoguy]

Right, obviously anyone who doesn't find a suitable mate is an immature jerk.

I made no such statement or generalization. Those words came from you. I get the distinct feeling my comment hit you where you live. Feeling negelcted are we?

[wmfights]

"Also how many of the never married are children of divorced parents? And how many significant others on the average to these people have throughout their dating lifetime?"
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I'm thinking the same thing.

Traditions existed for good reason, like find a nice girl and get married.